Are you Overwhelmed?

I awoke this morning and my feet and ankles were so stiff and curled, I could hardly force them to move.  My legs are much the same and it is a chore simply to lift them out of the bed.

The toes and feet are very pink, almost purple, and it takes a few minutes to amble down the hallway to grab a cup of coffee and make my way back to bed for the heating pad on my neck and back.

I remember jumping out of bed a year ago, smiling and skipping (yes skipping) down the hall to retrieve coffee for me and my husband on a Saturday morning.  I was so happy to be bouncing off the walls, and felt like I could conquer the world.  Now I have to conquer my body each morning just to get moving.

It is a constant challenge – the most consistent and biggest challenges of a lifetime, just to make it through a day.  I am trying to apply all that I have taught, and all that I know to be true, to keep from letting stress and depression ruin my life, and the lives of my family.

No one knows the extent of the injuries that are invisible, that is, except God.  I am so grateful that I remembered that it says when I am at my weakest point; I can lean on God, because He is at His strongest.

So I pick myself up and take a breath and keep on moving.  If I can share techniques that I believe in, on this website, then I can apply them to my own life – I keep reminding myself of that, and I think between the power of God from within me, and my applying all that I teach – I am moving onward and upward – even if ever so slowly!  Perhaps I will indeed create new brain cell impressions.

As I sit here with the laptop (it is so difficult to sit at the desk for very long because of the pain in my back) – so I curl up and have heat on my neck and my back.  When I finish with this post I will do my exercises to work on loosening and strengthening my back and legs and feet.

So if you are TRULY interested in managing stress, I have posted over two hundred posts on this website to try to legitimately help, and without cost to you – (unless you care to donate).  My profession is writing, and I will be publishing books that have been in the process for years; all with a positive ring and intention of sharing a lifetime of experience, lessons, and my love for the outdoors and nature.

By the way, almost forgot.  My left ankle gave out about eight days ago-I fell and broke my left wrist,  and I am left-handed!  Three days ago I had to have surgery on it and a plate and screws to put in to hold it together.  I only have to wear a cast now for two weeks longer.

Just when you think you are overwhelmed by life, life throws another hard ball and smacks you right in the face!  Guess what?  You can handle more than you thought!  I can too.  Do I have a choice?  Yes.  I could be miserable, but no way! I choose healing and happiness.

My first task today is to be grateful for obvious gifts.  Being grateful brings healing to a mind and spirit.

I am grateful to be alive, for the sounds of life – the train in the distance and the barking of the neighbor’s dog, for the big dog that has been right by my side each day, for a husband and a family who still love me and don’t really dwell on my disabilities now,for the mocking bird that sings so many songs to me every morning, for the fact the heat wave is over for the time being, for the ability to be able to use this website to share and to release, and for all the blessings we take for granted every day.

If you haven’t a friend, or a shrink, or anyone in the world, remember there really is a Supreme Being (how do I know – I just do without question), you have a friend on this website, and are free to comment to release your feelings, and you also can start a blog and let your feelings air.  Sometimes that is healing.  If you write, then read it back to yourself and clarity will come.

In the meantime, CREATE the best day for yourself you are able.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have the CHOICE.

 

 

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Three simple truths to managing stress

1. Divert your own attention to something besides the thought of your own stress.You cannot think of two things at once (REALLY)- When an elderly friend of mine told me that, I thought he was nuts, but it is the truth. If you are busy “doing” something other than focusing on how stressed out you are, it will mellow your own demeanor.
2. The same principle applies to modifying stress as it does modifying your eating habits. Before you slam something into your mouth, take a breath, count to ten and then decide if you REALLY want to eat that temptation. What do you REALLY want?
In applying this to stress, same thing. Take a breath and slowly count to ten (to yourself of course), then if you think your scenario still is pressing enough to scream and fight (or punch someone-whatever) do it! If the CONSEQUENCES in in either case, defeat your own needs, and perhaps make things take a turn for the worse – take the time to think and act in an intelligent manner. Do not let life take you down a road not of your own choosing.
3; You may not think you have a few minutes every once in a while to slow down, breathe, and stretch – but you do! People who are not wise enough to make the time burn out quickly and make, often times, stupid mistakes! A “mini-rest” will regenerate you and also give you time to CHOOSE your response to any stress that is placed before you.
Those are three invaluable aids to managing your own stress. You will also teach those around you valuable techniques that will enhance the quality of all those in your circle of life.
They are simple techniques, but as simple as they seem…..unless you GET IN THE HABIT of using them, they will not work. Use your intellect. When your emotions run wild switch over to intellect. It is as simple as that! It is YOUR CHOICE, one hundred percent of the time.
CREATE a great life – moment by moment. Be happy!

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Good day! Before reading, take a few deep breaths – the best stress management technique EVER!

I awoke this morning and my feet and ankles were so stiff and curled, I could hardly force them to move.  My legs are much the same and it is a chore simply to lift them out of the bed.

The toes and feet are very pink, almost purple, and it takes a few minutes to amble down the hallway to grab a cup of coffee and make my way back to bed for the heating pad on my neck and back.

I remember jumping out of bed a year ago, smiling and skipping (yes skipping) down the hall to retrieve coffee for me and my husband on a Saturday morning.  I was so happy to be bouncing off the walls, and felt like I could conquer the world.  Now I have to conquer my body each morning just to get moving.

It is a constant challenge – the most consistent and biggest challenges of a lifetime, just to make it through a day.  I am trying to apply all that I have taught, and all that I know to be true, to keep from letting stress and depression ruin my life, and the lives of my family.

No one knows the extent of the injuries that are invisible, that is, except God.  I am so grateful that I remembered that it says when I am at my weakest, I can lean on God, because He is at His strongest.

So I pick myself up and take a breath and keep on moving.  If I can share techniques
That I believe in, on this website, then I can apply them to my own life – I keep reminding myself of that, and I think between the power of God from within me, and my applying all that I teach – I am moving onward and upward – even if ever so slowly!

As I sit here with the laptop (it is so difficult to sit at the desk for very long because of the pain in my back – so I curl up and have heat on my neck and my back.  When I finish with this post I will do my exercises to work on loosening and strengthening my back and legs and feet.

So if you are TRULY interested in managing stress, I have posted over two-hundred posts on this website to try to legitimately help, and without cost to you – unless you care to donate now that I am absolutely unable to look for other work.  My profession is writing, and I will be publishing books that have been in the process for years; all with
A positive ring and intention of sharing a lifetime of experience, lessons, and my love for the outdoors and nature.

My first task today is to be grateful for obvious gifts.  Being grateful brings healing to a mind and spirit.

I am grateful to be alive, for the sounds of life – the train in the distance and the barking of the neighbor’s dog, for the big dog that has been right by my side each day, for a husband and a family who still love me and don’t really dwell on my disabilities now,
For the mocking bird that sings so many songs to me every morning, for the fact the heat wave is over for the time being, for the ability to be able to use this website to share and to release, and for all the blessings we take for granted every day.

If you haven’t a friend, or a shrink, or anyone in the world, remember there really is a Supreme Being (how do I know – I just do without question), you have a friend on this website, and are free to comment to release your feelings, and you also can start a blog and let your feelings air.  Sometimes that in itself is healing.  If you write, then read it back to yourself and clarity will come.

In the meantime, CREATE the best day for yourself you are able.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have the CHOICE to move onward and upward.

A special note to all the military guys and girls who have given their lives and their limbs
For us.  Whether we agree with the wars or not, these men and women have gone with purity in their task, to horriffic places, and times, and we owe them respect, love, and so much more. THANK YOU and God bless you!

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Black Widow Spiders

First, I would like to say Happy Father’s Day to all you guys who have worked so hard to be a good dad!  It is one of the toughest jobs a man can have, and the most enduring- even if unemployment is up!  THANK YOU for sticking with it; those little ones need you guys…so to dads, step-dads, and all you guys who participate in the lives of children thank you for your dedication and patience!  By the way, to me this shows another aspect of the importance of a good daddy – PROTECTION FOR THE CHILDREN (and the women who are afraid of spiders – for instance, me! —————————————————————

Last evening my husband took a tour of our garage to find and “rid” us of any black widow spiders.  He does this in the summer as they love dark places and our garage is a favorite hangout (also under things such as BBQ’s, outdoor tables, inside of wood piles-just as examples.)black widow

He found this one and asked if I would like to take a photo.  She let me get quite close (though not too close for my comfort) – she was a big one.  There are only four things I will kill if necessary:  venomous spiders rattle snakes, mosquitoes and flies.  The National Geographic website had this to report about black widows.

“This spider’s bite is much feared because its venom is reported to be 15 times stronger than a rattlesnake’s. In humans, bites produce muscle aches, nausea, and a paralysis of the diaphragm that can make breathing difficult; however, contrary to popular belief, most people who are bitten suffer no serious damage—let alone death. But bites can be fatal—usually to small children, the elderly, or the infirm. Fortunately, fatalities are fairly rare; the spiders are non-aggressive and bite only in self-defense, such as when someone accidentally sits on them.”

 I think it is extremely important to put deet (mosquito repellent) on children and adults, if you are able.  There is a new virus that makes a person very ill.  Also, I have never been certain that they do not carry the aids virus.  They do “take your blood” when they bite.

It always pays to be aware of some spiders – for your children’s safety.  I wrote a post a while back about the brown recluse, and posted a photo of the damage one can do…it is deadly.

Northern California host’s lots of rattle snakes.  Clearly if you hear a rattle and there isn’t a baby around – keep your eyes keenly aware of your surroundings.

This isn’t to alarm anyone, but knowledge is power when used and we all should share information that could be life saving.  Someone made me aware of the brown recluse.

Oh the web of a black widow is very sticky-you can tell if it’s a black widow; and they hide during the light

Enjoy the great outdoors – enjoy nature – just use good sense, and particularly for the little ones as they trust you to care for them.  Have a beautiful day and a safe one!  God bless you all.

————————–This post will be on marshajobrien.com (Relax, It’s Just Life) as knowledge is something we should share, if important.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Lives of Carl Atman

  One of the loveliest things you can do to enhance your management of stress is to read a book!  I know there are many ways to do this, but there is something mystical about taking a book and sitting under a tree or by a brook, and letting the excitement build as you turn each page.

If the book is thought provoking, take a bookmark and close it and lay the book close-by while you close your eyes and use your imagination.  You don’t have to  make sure the battery is charged, or depend on anything outside yourself and the book.

You will take a journey away from daily stress, and perhaps begin to realize that even those in charge need to rest and regenerate to fulfill their destiny.

I am recommending a book that might transport you, for however long you are able to take a break to read.  Whether it is on your kindle, a CD or paperback book – TAKE a bit of time this weekend to “charge your battery” – you are worth it!
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The Lives of Carl Atman

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Authored by Morris Walker
Illustrated by Skye Walker

THE LIVES OF CARL ATMAN will stir those feelings from within and perhaps bring to mind a love story over the eons of time that manifests in your memory.

The greater picture of the billions of lives and these stories are a cosmic phenomenon we can never comprehend in this life. But along with our God-given intuition and creative power, we can imagine. And in all our lives, we learn at one point or another that there is inner guidance available for us if we merely tune in.

Each soul’s journey through life on planet earth is an ultimate adventure.

Morris says he was compelled to write this book. He was certain many people would enjoy the adventures in time.  It is a journey for many recalling times in their lives they were stirred by an old feeling, or a memory of knowing a place or person, some time in their “past”.

Reincarnation.  Fact?  Or is this just a wonderful love story that spans centuries? You will know for yourself once you read:

 The Lives of Carl Atman

“My hope above all else, I hope that you enjoy the journey.”

         Morris Walker

Now available:  Go to www.amazon.com and buy it in paperback and or kindle for $3.99

or

Blackstone Audio Books also has the audio version in CD and also under www.download.com

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Enjoy your weekend and God bless you!

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Do you really want stress management?

Stress management is a broad subject. Stress hits EVERY human being at one time or another.  That is a guarantee.  It doesn’t necessarily have to be bad stress – it can be from such wonderful activities as the anticipation of the birth of a child, or a wedding, or even
graduation or birthdays.  “Happy” stress can be just as damaging as any event that causes a person to experience emotions they may not normally focus on.

Working causes stress.  School causes stress. Relationships cause stress.

Children cause stress.  Current affairs cause stress – and just about every incident in life that a human being experiences causes stress!

What are you to do?  Why is it some people seem able to handle anything that happens in life?  Why can’t you handle it?

The truth is YOU CAN!  Whatever made you think you could not handle the stress that bombards you is a crock of garbage!

NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU – YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE CHOICE IS HOW TO RESPOND!

Where we get into trouble is if we respond before thinking. A snap back answer is often loaded with emotion, whether sad, happy, and so forth.

Here is the best stress management tip you will ever get – and it is FREE and TRUE.  There is only one stipulation to using it.  YOU MUST BELIEVE IT WORKS!  It does perfectly, but it seems so available we all take it for granted.

USE YOUR OXYGEN BEFORE YOU SPEAK, HAVE A FIT, OR PUNCH SOMEBODY IN THE FACE.  USE IT AS YOUR “SECRET WEAPON.”

I don’t mean this to be silly, and please do not dismiss it.  If you TRULY want to change your LIFE, you have to do two things CONSISTENTLY:

Learn to use your oxygen effectively (I will share how soon).
Think before you speak or act on any “stressor” that manifests.

That’s it!  If I were teaching a class and charging a fee, and I have done that hundreds of times, I would begin the class with this statement:

‘The first exercise is to use your intelligence.  In exercising your intelligence, I
expect you to practice, until it becomes habit, only do two things
CONSISTENTLY.Learn to use your oxygen effectively Think before you speak             or act on any “stressor” that manifests.”

I want to make this as simple as possible so you can start practicing right away.  I will explain why it works soon.  Just try it now.  Take a deep breath slowly and then exhale it slowly.  Don’t make a “big deal” about it, practice in the mirror if you like.
Please do it several times.  THINK about breathing whenever you feel your face flushed or your fist tightening up, or your neck getting tight.

Practice it again.  Breath in (hold only a second or so) – then out.  Do it again.

Now, here are the reasons this is YOUR BET TECHNIQUE to manage your stress!
Simply put (I always try to make things complicated)……

Your body needs the extra oxygen to slow your “reaction” – you don’t want to react, you want to think, and then respond, calmly and with your wits about you.
The body NEEDs the extra oxygen because when humans feel stress breathing slows down and muscles tighten.  The extra oxygen will help to keep you thinking optimally, and will relax (automatically) – the muscles and ligaments.
Extra oxygen will create beta-endorphins, which are peptides that activate the body’s opiate receptors, causing an analgestic effect.  (Which means you are creating not only a pain killer, for those with pain, but good feelings too).  Have you ever heard of a runner’s high?  It’s those beta endorpins created by intake of extra oxygen!
Your brain needs fifty percent more oxygen that the rest of your body to think optimally, so you NEED the oxygen to respond.

You will, simply by taking in extra oxygen, really empower yourself, begin to relax instead of tensing up, and respond instead of reacting.  These things alone will change your stress level so you can manage it effectively!

WHY do these things happen in the body?  Because that is the way the body works.
You have been given all the tools you need to move onward and upward.  If you don’t think it works because you did it once and it didn’t help, then you don’t really care if you change your life or not!

Get into it!  Think it will work.  Believe it will work.  Practice so you don’t even have to think about it kicking into gear…

That will be $50.00 please!  Just kidding, of course donations are appreciated, but I write this website because I think we all have the right to know how to manage our lives – and the right to be happy!

Have a wonderful weekend…CREATE your life instead of letting life run over you!
I care.  We have to channel information to each other in these times.  God bless you.

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Stress Management and Our Internal Calming Capabilities

You don’t need to pop a pill, or pour a drink to find peace!

If you have watched anything on television or the internet, or even listened to the radio, you have been bombarded with the advertising of prescribed drugs.

Much of the advertising claims you will “calm down and find the peace you seek”.  Photos of a miserably unhappy person change to someone who is happy and full of joy.

Right along with the promises comes the required warnings that the drugs might cause worse problems than what you are currently experiencing.  This can include thoughts of suicide!

Come on! These advertisers seem to think they are dealing with stupid people.   Those who buy into the programs are usually just uninformed about the pharmaceuticals each of us have within our own bodies.

The first thing we have to do in order to use our own healing capabilities is to exercise our intellect.  At the mental level you must come to the realization that ONLY YOU and YOUR THOUGHTS have any REAL control over your mental and physical health. 

Yes, there are some people who may truly need “other help”, but the majority of human beings are capable of accessing help from within. 

Thoughts held in our minds produce keep producing! Hence, your mind is your kingdom and you must rule it wisely.  Release and let go of any thoughts that are unworthy of you. 

 

Blame, shame, guilt, embarrassment, and anger are unworthy of reiterating over and over in your mind.  Wipe out those useless thoughts that keep you in bondage and increase your stress level.  They can only build feelings of depression, criticism, resentment, and feelings of being unloved.  Replace the weak thoughts and strongly affirm positive thoughts. 

Use your oxygen.  You create your own “calming” effect (It is actually something that happens in your body!)  But you need to take in some, deep breaths and give your mind and body the opportunity to calm down naturally.

 When we are stressed we slow our breathing.  We NEED oxygen to think optimally.  Without as much oxygen muscles tense, and you will become even more stressed!

Sounds too simple.  IT IS!  By doing a bit of mindful breathing we also allow ourselves time to think before we speak, or pop somebody in the jaw!

It will never work if you don’t try it.  It will never work if you don’t believe the physiology of our body does work this way!

I want you to learn to be calm, healthy and happy!

Practice and believe!  I would not tell you something that is not true.  You ARE in CHARGE of YOU!

Create your life and your calmness, and God bless.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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