The Best Stress Management Technique EVER!

This is TRUE stress management!whoops I opened the refrigerator to move a watermelon – so I could get the pan to bake my husband a birthday cake.  Don’t forget I have a broken wrist.

Whoops!  Almost dropped the watermelon. Because of my “still healing from the back surgeries” weakness and awkwardness – I hit the side of the refrigerator, trying to manage the watermelon – and the shelf hit the floor.

Something landed on my right big toe (the one that has hurt so bad the last few days), but it didn’t cut it.  I switched pans, put the watermelon back and looked at the floor.

Oh, when I was moving the melon to the stove top to set down I also hit the water faucet on the refrigerator, and the flow of cold water and a few pieces of ice hit the floor too – like a little spring.

I just stood there laughing!   WHY NOT? whoops 1

“At least” I thought, “two olives are still good….and only my toe hurts!

NO!  I threw the olives out!  Thank heavens it wasn’t my new jar of garlic stuffed olives.

So there it is.  EASY STRESS MANAGEMENT!  Stop taking everything so seriously.

LAUGH MORE.  LAUGH MORE AND MORE.  GET SILLY.  HAVE FUN.For all the plans we make for the day – we really don’t know what is going to happen in the next two minutes.

I VOTE FOR LAUGHTER AND FUN.  CREATE YOUR DAY, DON’T LET THE DAY TAKE CHARGE OF YOU! God bless you all.  (Now I have to go clean up the mess and bake a cake!)

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IF YOU PLAN ON ADDING TO THE TRASHING OF YOUR-SELF ESTEEM AND WORTH – HERE IS HOW TO DO IT IN FIVE EASY STEPS!

Step on a scale! (Really DON”T, for anyone except God.)  Satan created scales so you would feel good and then BAM – suddenly you feel FAT!  No two scales are alike.  Man or woman your weight will fluctuate daily.  Weigh once a month if you must.  If you are trying to loose weight just watch how your clothes fit you – that will tell you better than a scale!

Listen to other people.  We all have opinions and as the saying goes…well, I will modify, most of them stink!  Many folks are actually trying to help, but unless you know them and trust them totally, don’t listen!  Some people pipe up because THEY are insecure!

Say everything using a negative slant!  That will help destroy you. The truth is,  you are not ugly.  You are not worthless.  YOU ARE YOU, and God made us all individual for a reason.  We all have our gifts, and we all have our lessons to learn.  Look at your  heart.  If you are happy with your heart then it will be seen by others on a visible level. You are beautiful. Smile.

Make all your important decisions when you are emotionally feeling unstable.  No-no-no!  That is the worst time to make major decisions. Take a breath and settle down.  Let your emotions meld with your intellect and then switch to the intellect to  use good judgment before making a move.

Drink alcohol to “take the edge off”.  Ha ha ha ha.  No matter how much we like that glass of wine or drink before dinner – alcohol will NOT really help.  Here is the truth about alcohol.  It is very addictive and if one helps, the temptation to have another is close by.  The problem is where is the cut-off line from relaxed to drunk.  Getting drunk doesn’t help anything.  People think “you tell the truth when you are drinking” – LIE.  Another of Satan’s tools.  You loose your TRUE Spirit and self.  You dehydrate your body, and for women (the real horror) – alcohol RETAINS THE FAT in your body.  Absolute truth!

That is it.  If you truly want to trash yourself, step on a scale with a drink in your hand, listening to somebody else’s advice, and then be hateful towards yourself, as you make a major decision while you are emotionally unstable.  That should do it!

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If Something Makes You Smile….

Without drinking, smoking, taking pills, or crossing YOUR own line of demarcation, then you are smiling at something that helps manage your stress!  Look for those things.

No one can manage you’re stress – REALLY – except YOU!

I opened the drapes this morning and a happy face was staring at me!  I smiled because it wasn’t there yesterday.  Can you find it?

first happy face

Happiness is where YOU FIND IT!  Make it happen! (If you can’t find it this is a closeup!)

2nd happy JPGCREATE your joy by “seeing” and “knowing”you deserve happiness to come your way!

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Are you Overwhelmed?

I awoke this morning and my feet and ankles were so stiff and curled, I could hardly force them to move.  My legs are much the same and it is a chore simply to lift them out of the bed.

The toes and feet are very pink, almost purple, and it takes a few minutes to amble down the hallway to grab a cup of coffee and make my way back to bed for the heating pad on my neck and back.

I remember jumping out of bed a year ago, smiling and skipping (yes skipping) down the hall to retrieve coffee for me and my husband on a Saturday morning.  I was so happy to be bouncing off the walls, and felt like I could conquer the world.  Now I have to conquer my body each morning just to get moving.

It is a constant challenge – the most consistent and biggest challenges of a lifetime, just to make it through a day.  I am trying to apply all that I have taught, and all that I know to be true, to keep from letting stress and depression ruin my life, and the lives of my family.

No one knows the extent of the injuries that are invisible, that is, except God.  I am so grateful that I remembered that it says when I am at my weakest point; I can lean on God, because He is at His strongest.

So I pick myself up and take a breath and keep on moving.  If I can share techniques that I believe in, on this website, then I can apply them to my own life – I keep reminding myself of that, and I think between the power of God from within me, and my applying all that I teach – I am moving onward and upward – even if ever so slowly!  Perhaps I will indeed create new brain cell impressions.

As I sit here with the laptop (it is so difficult to sit at the desk for very long because of the pain in my back) – so I curl up and have heat on my neck and my back.  When I finish with this post I will do my exercises to work on loosening and strengthening my back and legs and feet.

So if you are TRULY interested in managing stress, I have posted over two hundred posts on this website to try to legitimately help, and without cost to you – (unless you care to donate).  My profession is writing, and I will be publishing books that have been in the process for years; all with a positive ring and intention of sharing a lifetime of experience, lessons, and my love for the outdoors and nature.

By the way, almost forgot.  My left ankle gave out about eight days ago-I fell and broke my left wrist,  and I am left-handed!  Three days ago I had to have surgery on it and a plate and screws to put in to hold it together.  I only have to wear a cast now for two weeks longer.

Just when you think you are overwhelmed by life, life throws another hard ball and smacks you right in the face!  Guess what?  You can handle more than you thought!  I can too.  Do I have a choice?  Yes.  I could be miserable, but no way! I choose healing and happiness.

My first task today is to be grateful for obvious gifts.  Being grateful brings healing to a mind and spirit.

I am grateful to be alive, for the sounds of life – the train in the distance and the barking of the neighbor’s dog, for the big dog that has been right by my side each day, for a husband and a family who still love me and don’t really dwell on my disabilities now,for the mocking bird that sings so many songs to me every morning, for the fact the heat wave is over for the time being, for the ability to be able to use this website to share and to release, and for all the blessings we take for granted every day.

If you haven’t a friend, or a shrink, or anyone in the world, remember there really is a Supreme Being (how do I know – I just do without question), you have a friend on this website, and are free to comment to release your feelings, and you also can start a blog and let your feelings air.  Sometimes that is healing.  If you write, then read it back to yourself and clarity will come.

In the meantime, CREATE the best day for yourself you are able.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have the CHOICE.

 

 

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Three simple truths to managing stress

1. Divert your own attention to something besides the thought of your own stress.You cannot think of two things at once (REALLY)- When an elderly friend of mine told me that, I thought he was nuts, but it is the truth. If you are busy “doing” something other than focusing on how stressed out you are, it will mellow your own demeanor.
2. The same principle applies to modifying stress as it does modifying your eating habits. Before you slam something into your mouth, take a breath, count to ten and then decide if you REALLY want to eat that temptation. What do you REALLY want?
In applying this to stress, same thing. Take a breath and slowly count to ten (to yourself of course), then if you think your scenario still is pressing enough to scream and fight (or punch someone-whatever) do it! If the CONSEQUENCES in in either case, defeat your own needs, and perhaps make things take a turn for the worse – take the time to think and act in an intelligent manner. Do not let life take you down a road not of your own choosing.
3; You may not think you have a few minutes every once in a while to slow down, breathe, and stretch – but you do! People who are not wise enough to make the time burn out quickly and make, often times, stupid mistakes! A “mini-rest” will regenerate you and also give you time to CHOOSE your response to any stress that is placed before you.
Those are three invaluable aids to managing your own stress. You will also teach those around you valuable techniques that will enhance the quality of all those in your circle of life.
They are simple techniques, but as simple as they seem…..unless you GET IN THE HABIT of using them, they will not work. Use your intellect. When your emotions run wild switch over to intellect. It is as simple as that! It is YOUR CHOICE, one hundred percent of the time.
CREATE a great life – moment by moment. Be happy!

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Good day! Before reading, take a few deep breaths – the best stress management technique EVER!

I awoke this morning and my feet and ankles were so stiff and curled, I could hardly force them to move.  My legs are much the same and it is a chore simply to lift them out of the bed.

The toes and feet are very pink, almost purple, and it takes a few minutes to amble down the hallway to grab a cup of coffee and make my way back to bed for the heating pad on my neck and back.

I remember jumping out of bed a year ago, smiling and skipping (yes skipping) down the hall to retrieve coffee for me and my husband on a Saturday morning.  I was so happy to be bouncing off the walls, and felt like I could conquer the world.  Now I have to conquer my body each morning just to get moving.

It is a constant challenge – the most consistent and biggest challenges of a lifetime, just to make it through a day.  I am trying to apply all that I have taught, and all that I know to be true, to keep from letting stress and depression ruin my life, and the lives of my family.

No one knows the extent of the injuries that are invisible, that is, except God.  I am so grateful that I remembered that it says when I am at my weakest, I can lean on God, because He is at His strongest.

So I pick myself up and take a breath and keep on moving.  If I can share techniques
That I believe in, on this website, then I can apply them to my own life – I keep reminding myself of that, and I think between the power of God from within me, and my applying all that I teach – I am moving onward and upward – even if ever so slowly!

As I sit here with the laptop (it is so difficult to sit at the desk for very long because of the pain in my back – so I curl up and have heat on my neck and my back.  When I finish with this post I will do my exercises to work on loosening and strengthening my back and legs and feet.

So if you are TRULY interested in managing stress, I have posted over two-hundred posts on this website to try to legitimately help, and without cost to you – unless you care to donate now that I am absolutely unable to look for other work.  My profession is writing, and I will be publishing books that have been in the process for years; all with
A positive ring and intention of sharing a lifetime of experience, lessons, and my love for the outdoors and nature.

My first task today is to be grateful for obvious gifts.  Being grateful brings healing to a mind and spirit.

I am grateful to be alive, for the sounds of life – the train in the distance and the barking of the neighbor’s dog, for the big dog that has been right by my side each day, for a husband and a family who still love me and don’t really dwell on my disabilities now,
For the mocking bird that sings so many songs to me every morning, for the fact the heat wave is over for the time being, for the ability to be able to use this website to share and to release, and for all the blessings we take for granted every day.

If you haven’t a friend, or a shrink, or anyone in the world, remember there really is a Supreme Being (how do I know – I just do without question), you have a friend on this website, and are free to comment to release your feelings, and you also can start a blog and let your feelings air.  Sometimes that in itself is healing.  If you write, then read it back to yourself and clarity will come.

In the meantime, CREATE the best day for yourself you are able.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have the CHOICE to move onward and upward.

A special note to all the military guys and girls who have given their lives and their limbs
For us.  Whether we agree with the wars or not, these men and women have gone with purity in their task, to horriffic places, and times, and we owe them respect, love, and so much more. THANK YOU and God bless you!

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Black Widow Spiders

First, I would like to say Happy Father’s Day to all you guys who have worked so hard to be a good dad!  It is one of the toughest jobs a man can have, and the most enduring- even if unemployment is up!  THANK YOU for sticking with it; those little ones need you guys…so to dads, step-dads, and all you guys who participate in the lives of children thank you for your dedication and patience!  By the way, to me this shows another aspect of the importance of a good daddy – PROTECTION FOR THE CHILDREN (and the women who are afraid of spiders – for instance, me! —————————————————————

Last evening my husband took a tour of our garage to find and “rid” us of any black widow spiders.  He does this in the summer as they love dark places and our garage is a favorite hangout (also under things such as BBQ’s, outdoor tables, inside of wood piles-just as examples.)black widow

He found this one and asked if I would like to take a photo.  She let me get quite close (though not too close for my comfort) – she was a big one.  There are only four things I will kill if necessary:  venomous spiders rattle snakes, mosquitoes and flies.  The National Geographic website had this to report about black widows.

“This spider’s bite is much feared because its venom is reported to be 15 times stronger than a rattlesnake’s. In humans, bites produce muscle aches, nausea, and a paralysis of the diaphragm that can make breathing difficult; however, contrary to popular belief, most people who are bitten suffer no serious damage—let alone death. But bites can be fatal—usually to small children, the elderly, or the infirm. Fortunately, fatalities are fairly rare; the spiders are non-aggressive and bite only in self-defense, such as when someone accidentally sits on them.”

 I think it is extremely important to put deet (mosquito repellent) on children and adults, if you are able.  There is a new virus that makes a person very ill.  Also, I have never been certain that they do not carry the aids virus.  They do “take your blood” when they bite.

It always pays to be aware of some spiders – for your children’s safety.  I wrote a post a while back about the brown recluse, and posted a photo of the damage one can do…it is deadly.

Northern California host’s lots of rattle snakes.  Clearly if you hear a rattle and there isn’t a baby around – keep your eyes keenly aware of your surroundings.

This isn’t to alarm anyone, but knowledge is power when used and we all should share information that could be life saving.  Someone made me aware of the brown recluse.

Oh the web of a black widow is very sticky-you can tell if it’s a black widow; and they hide during the light

Enjoy the great outdoors – enjoy nature – just use good sense, and particularly for the little ones as they trust you to care for them.  Have a beautiful day and a safe one!  God bless you all.

————————–This post will be on marshajobrien.com (Relax, It’s Just Life) as knowledge is something we should share, if important.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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