Who do you trust?

Who do you trust?

Good day!  I am going to be more decades than I care to remember in January, so I would think myself a pretty good judge of character.

NOT! Obviously!  I am still naïve and still too trusting.

Since my accident I have been unable to do most of the things I want to do.  Included in that list is housework.  Now I know most folks would say, “That’s great, no housework.”

However, I love my home.  Though it becomes tedious often, I did clean it better than anyone else can.

I hired a housekeeper.  She seemed very nice and I got no “evil” messages from her.  Now I think that your definition of evil comes into play.  Maybe there are degrees and types of evil.

I discovered, yesterday, that she has been stealing from me since I hired her.  I have met her family (the children are adorable), and after a little bit of time, I trusted her to take care of things when I was gone.

It was confirmed today, after I confronted her (via text) – never answers phone. She admitted it was true.  She said she was sorry and she never meant to hurt me.

I believe her.  I accepted her apology, but I told her to leave my PAIN medication on the porch along with the other things I loaned her.  It wasn’t just a confession I wanted.

I told her bluntly if she didn’t return my pills I would contact the police and turn her in.

I did not want to have to do that (because of the children and CPS), so I am giving her the opportunity to do as I asked.

I also told her if she confessed, it would not be mentioned again, but firmly that SHE NEEDED to GET HELP or her children could be taken away from her.

It saddens me to think of the time I spent with her family, and all the while she was stealing from me-I don’t even know exactly what is missing, but a few things. I am certain are gone.  Thankfully any cash or valuables were tucked safely away.

My husband told me when you hire someone you should not become friends with them. He thinks most people are garbage.  I still know there are many good people out there, but definitely I have changed my modus operandi.

Back to square one.  However, I am a year and a few months from my broken back, and I can do some things.  I will just have to monitor myself to not attempt those things I should not do – I am still in the healing mode.

Be careful and get to know people with a bit more caution than I did.  Look at her resume, and talk to current clients.  Check references.  You will save yourself a lot of stress in the long run!But NEVER give up hope that there are still many people roaming this old planet who have goodness and honor within them.  I won’t!

Lastly, I must admit – I do not think this woman is evil.  I do believe she was very sorry for stealing from me.  I hope and pray she takes this lesson to heart and changes. I cringe to think of all the people some housekeepers steal from.  In part, it was my fault for giving her complete trust and leaving her in my home alone.

I did call the police and told them I did not want her children taken away, but just wanted the officer to scare the hell out of her.  She did not return the pills, and had said she was sorry and she would try to buy more from me so I wouldn’t be in pain.

She said a lady got her “script” Friday and she would buy some from her.  I told her not to do anything illegal for me.  It makes me so mad when people get meds and just sell them.  The fraud is rampant.

Here is a bit of information I learned.  If you loose a prescription (even if you are in so much pain you have to crawl to the phone (an exaggeration), big brother will NOT replace a narcotic prescription until “time”.

I did report the incident to the police, however, and I was able to get replacement meds because of the reporting the incident.  I had to pay cash for them, but am grateful to have them.  I only take what I need, and monitor myself carefully.

I asked my physician if I was addicted with two pills a day.  She said addiction is different than using the medication to “manage” your pain.  She also told me addicts take up to thirty pills a day.  That is crazy to me!

This has been a heartbreaking lesson.  Still, I promised God I would go out of this life with a “soft heart”, not hardened by the world, and I will do so.

Just check references and be thorough and never leave a housekeeper alone to do her work.  I hope at some point I will be healed enough never to need this help again.

For now I will do what I can.  Thank God my husband is not an old school dominant jerk.  He is a good man, and even helps as he can.

Have a beautiful day, and be safe!







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Children’s Virus (EV-D68) IMPORTANT

EV – D68 ( Virus) : Children

Here is the latest update on EV-D68 (virus) It has now been recognized in forty-states. Please be sure to watch your children closely. The first signs mimic the common cold – (sometimes fever, runny nose, sneezing and coughing).

EV-D68 has many strains. In the fifties and sixties, it was the cause of cases of POLIO, though, it only recently has become a problem associated with serious respiratory conditions – particularly with those with asthma and those prone to breathing issues.

The virus mimics the common cold initially. The cough can be intense, and it can cause difficulty in breathing. Many children have neck or back pain or pain in the arms and legs (muscle and body aches).Listen to your children – they probably won’t read “what the symptoms are!”

As recent as within the last week, some cases are causing paralysis!!

If your child is sick – keep him or her at home! The virus passes from person to person, with a cough, sneezes or even touching surfaces. Sneezes travel at over 65 miles per hour.

The best defense is to have children WASH his or her hands vigorously several times a day. Not the kind of washing that water passes over, a dribble of soap, rinse and done!

Wash clear up to the wrists, and thoroughly. This virus is not restricted to the USA. It is MANY places in the world, so please care for these blessed little ones.

Show your children how you want them to wash. Show them how to cover their mouths, with bent elbow, when they cough. Be vigilant. One child has died in the United States. He was four years old.

God bless you and God bless all the children!  Take a breath or two and relax.  You know what to do.  Add lots of prayers for the children, and I will too.

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I have a friend who has been taking lots of medications that have been prescribed for her.She has also had lots of problems that just seemed to sprout up from nowhere.  She told me she wanted me to stop by to see something.  I asked if I could take a photograph.

I couldn’t believe the number of pills in this large ziplock bag.  She said she saw so many commercials on television that when he actually listened to the words, she realized she hadn’t read the warnings.  She said she stopped taking a few of the medications and let them add up.  Guess what?

She felt better within a week, saved a bundle of money, and decided ONLY to take a few of those pills prescribed.  I asked what she would do with these.  I suggested she NOT throw them in the toilet as that is in a water supply.  I also mentioned I had heard something about turing in med’s to a hospital or doctor’s office.

She told me she knew what she would do and I watched her do it.  Made me a bit sick to my stomach, but it was her choice.  She collected her three large dog’s poop every week and dumped it into the trash in a big sack.  I watched her dump the pills out of the sack into the initial “poop barrel” and then dump more poop over it.  Then she emptied that mess into a large trash sack and put it in her trash barrel to be picked up by the city.

That wouldn’t have been my choice, but it wasn’t my choice.  Personally I would have just told the pharmacy not to fill the prescription for specified pills. I just thought I would share this with you, in hopes you will just stop taking any prescriptions that you don’t really need.  Many prescribing doctors just carelessly write out prescriptions without even checking what others you may be taking, or your history.

Granted, there are some really good doctors who deeply care and think before prescribing the same thing to everyone.  I am fortunate to have a few quality physicians.  But be careful, pick wisely if you are able to do so, and READ all the possible reactions you could have.

It is your body – the only place you have to live.  Taking the wrong prescriptions or too many can affect mind, body, and ultimately spirit.  Read and think, and God bless you all.


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More information on child virus

Please go to marshajobrien.com (Relax, it’s just life) for further information.

Important for those with children – and for all of us to be aware of symptoms as sit is contagious and authorities are saying it will hit many more states.

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Warning: If you have children please read!

  • Just read in the news about a virus hitting the midwest. CDC is concerned it may spread to all states. Just BE AWARE of the symptoms and keep an eye on the children. It may be alarming, but knowledge is power, so don’t be alarmed – just stay focused on your kids. I send love and blessings to you all.
    (CNN) — A respiratory virus is sending hundreds of children to hospitals in Missouri and possibly throughout the Midwest and beyond, officials say.
    The unusually high number of hospitalizations reported now could be “just the tip of the iceberg in terms of severe cases,” said Mark Pallansch, a virologist and director of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Division of Viral Diseases.
    “We’re in the middle of looking into this,” he told CNN on Sunday. “We don’t have all the answers yet.”
    Ten states have contacted the CDC for assistance in investigating clusters of enterovirus: Colorado, North Carolina, Georgia, Ohio, Iowa, Illinois, Missouri, Kansas, Oklahoma and Kentucky.
    What is Enterovirus EV-D68?
    Enteroviruses, which bring on symptoms like a very intense cold, aren’t unusual. They’re actually common. When you have a bad summer cold, often what you have is an enterovirus, he said. The season often hits its peak in September.
    Respiratory illness hits children ‘Unprecedented’ virus striking kids.

    The unusual situation now is that there have been so many hospitalizations.
    The virus has sent more than 30 children a day to a Kansas City, Missouri, hospital, where about 15% of the youngsters were placed in intensive care, officials said.
    In a sign of a possible regional outbreak, Colorado, Illinois and Ohio are reporting cases with similar symptoms and are awaiting testing results, according to officials and CNN affiliates in those states.
    In Kansas City, about 475 children were recently treated at Children’s Mercy Hospital, and at least 60 of them received intensive hospitalization, spokesman Jake Jacobson said.
    “It’s worse in terms of scope of critically ill children who require intensive care. I would call it unprecedented. I’ve practiced for 30 years in pediatrics, and I’ve never seen anything quite like this,” said Dr. Mary Anne Jackson, the hospital’s division director for infectious diseases.
    “We’ve had to mobilize other providers, doctors, nurses. It’s big,” she said.
    The Kansas City hospital treats 90% of that area’s ill children. Staff members noticed an initial spike on August 15, Jackson said.
    “It could have taken off right after school started. Our students start back around August 17, and I think it blew up at that point,” Jackson said. “Our peak appears to be between the 21st and the 30th of August. We’ve seen some leveling of cases at this point.”

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Here is a “beauty” trick to keep you feeling less stress, and “looking good.”

This is one of those tips that blossoms from years of life experience. The tip may apply to men as well as women – however, I KNOW women will absolutely profit from it IF they can have the self-control to do so!

NEVER – and I absolutely mean NEVER – buy a mirror with a 5x’ or 10x’s magnification!

I confess, I thought I was buying the 10x magnification because it would be easier to put on my eye makeup more efficiently.  That is not what transpires, no matter how many times I innocently pick the mirror up.

It is another of satan’s tools – like weight scales, and full-length mirrors, and out of control alcohol use or (as my hubby calls it, “devil juice).  We do not need it!

I can tell you exactly what will transpire after this too expensive purchase!  You will go home and think you are using it to perfect makeup!  But slowly, if not immediately you will literally begin to pick your face apart!

“I have zits.”  “My skin is beginning to wrinkle.”  “The tone of my skin is blotchy.”

“My bags are too big under my eyes”. “My face is too round, or square, or whatever.”

Get it?  Listen to mama!  YOU are YOU!  A one and only!  You can put your makeup on just fine with a regular mirror.  Even if your eyes are not focusing as good as they once did, remember, that happens to about 90% of humans.

I do love it that my husband’s eyes aren’t as good as they used to be.  I am not being mean. He doesn’t notice ANY of the “flaws” I mentioned above!  He doesn’t notice if I haven’t dusted, or the house isn’t perfectly clean!

Don’t be critical of yourself.  HAVE FUN!  BE CONFIDENT (not conceited).

A happy, confident person is sexier too, in case you didn’t know that!


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Testosterone – Men’s Health

Debunk the myth : You need extra “T” to be a real man!

How do corporations build a ton of customers to increase sales and make billions of dollars?

Easy.  They hit the media hard and tell us WE MUST HAVE (whatever the product is) to have a full and complete life.

It makes me want to puke!  We (as their consumers) – buy whatever it is we are told – regardless of the validity of it, and/or the long term effects.

Case in point – “Low Testosterone”. (I am not negating the millions of products women buy to stay “young and vibrant and, of course, beautiful!).  This is just a post that is pertaining to mens health and well-being.

Those two words, low testosterone,  put the fear of failure into a man’s heart.  We have been told that if a man has low testesterone he will no longer be as sexual, as strong, as attractive – not quite the man he NEEDS to be.   Malarkey!  BS.  Bolony!

Millions of men have purchased prescriptions to raise testostrone levels, at an astounding cost – and of course, only to be successful if they continue to take the prescriptions for the rest of their lives!  This isn’t even a discourse on Viagara and it’s potential deadly partners that insure great success “as a man”.  We need to get a bit of education regarding this, and it is important.

The truth is every man will see a drop of one percent in testosterone a year; those will diabetes may see a bigger drop.  This is natural as men age.

“T” therapy was originally created for men whose bodies cannot create enough due to injury of the testicles, cancer, or genetic defects.  Indeed, for some men this is appropriate.

However, did you know when you take additional testosterone, your body will shut down the natural production of it. That means your testicles could shrink, and you may be forced to continue long-term supplements indefinitely.  Which CAN also cause catastrophic health issues.

Last year in the Journal of American Medicine reported a thirty percent jump in the risk of stroke, heart attack, and death for men undergoing testosterone therapy   That is no small percentage!  Some studies indicate the risk of heart attack and stroke actually doubles!

Here is a piece of information advertisers will not share.  Without a prescription, men who loose approximately fifteen-seventeen pounds, become a bit more active (exercise can be fun!), and improve their diets can increase their testosterone levels about fifteen percent.  Naturally that means a happier man, with a better libido, more muscle, and a better energy level.   Actually there was a study to confirm this information, and as a former personal trainer and health consultant – I have seen incredible changes in men through just doing these things, and with no prescriptions for anything – just dedication!

It’s your body, the only place you have to live.  It’s your life – take time to adjust to a better one.  Be selfish in the way you insist on JUST A BIT of time to be healthier.  Most men ignore these things until the first heart attack!  All humans need rest and regeneration so they are able to live optimally healthy and happy lives.  You will be better for everyone else too!  That isn’t selfish; that is just common sense.

Just to clear the table on another subject – and this is blunt – a great lover is a “generous” one.  This means one who is considerate of the other and earnestly keys his or her imagination to please his or her partner.

Here is another myth.  Men have been taught (by some idiot) that the only thing that matters in the satisfaction of another is the length of the tool.  This is a false precept.  This, a man, does not make!

How you use the tool and the ability to use self-control, and being a generous love (you must know what I mean), is the most valuable access to a fully happy partner; thus a happier you!

In the end, we all change as we age.  Of course there are things we wish did not happen.  The best advice is “Get over it.  It is what it is!  There are advantages to ALL ages if we just pay attention.”

An awesome relationship should NOT be simply a great sexual relationship.  Of course that chemistry is wonderful, but TRUE love is much more than that!

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