When overwhelmed…

You have to do two things immediately. If you don’t think these are important, you are mistaken! IF YOU truly want to manage stress and emergencies, do these:
1. Take a deep breath and exhale. Take three or four slow and mindful inhalations.. Exhale and in your intellect visualize stress itself leaving your body with the exhalation.
2. USE YOUR INTELLECT. We NEVER have charge over what happens in our lives, but we ALWAYS have the choice of our response! When you breathe it will give you the opportunity to make a transition from your “emotional” response, to a thoughtful “intelligent” response.

I promise you if you EXERCISE these two steps until they become HABIT, your life will change. There are MANY reasons why these two steps work, but for today I will simply say you have to PRACTICE at anything you want to be good and come naturally.

If you do this, the two steps will become an internal empowerment for you; a secret weapon.  You will find your life improving simply because you DESIRED to practice and change your life.
It is all up to you.

God bless you. If you need more…..I have 257 posts on this website. They were written with the distinct messages that YOU CAN DO IT – and you can do it for yourself without costing you anything but your time and a wee bit of practice.

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Happy Easter

Whether you share my beliefs as a Christian, or not, it doesn’t hurt to take this day (and every day) to appreciate all the small blessings we take for granted.

When you truly look into someone’s eyes, and listen fully (not thinking of what you will say next) you will reap blessings beyond what you expect.

Take a mindful breath and know someone who doesn’t even know you, really cares for your heart and mind! God bless.

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Puppy Stress

I hope this makes you smile.  (Smiling is one of the ways you can diminish stress – just by doing it!) Amidst the horrors of the world I find I am still able to smile and laugh. I adjust my mind to a more positive and humerous outlook.  It just makes life easier, and if you think about it – life itself is kind of funny!

Big Boy.J1PG“I got a puppy.  I got a puppy!”  ( I am singing)


I awoke this morning at 3 AM to discover our new puppy had gotten my husband up several times already.  He was trying to let me sleep.  However he is the one who has to work all day as shop manager and heavy truck mechanic for a paving and excavation company.  He REALLY works hard and EARNS every penny!

I got up and said I would take the puppy out to go pee.   I did and sat with him in the living room  so he would be still and quiet.  Within minutes my husband came out to make sure I was alright (he worries constantly about me after I broke my back.)

He made me get back in bed and we closed the bedroom door and we just ignored his little cry of wanting to be right next to us.  He only did it for a minute. I could hear our 5 year old Rottie growl, letting the puppy know he wasn’t welcome in his bed.

The little patter of feet finally stopped and he crawled halfway under the bed (his bed is right next to ours) but he likes it under the bed right now.  We didn’t care.  Soon he won’t be able to fit there anyway.

Somehow my husband escaped at 4:30 AM when he had to get ready and leave for work. He didn’t want anyone to awake.

No one did until about  7 AM.  I grabbed my robe and got my cane and headed out for the back door.  Both dogs were hot on my feet.

We need rain badly, but when I opened the door and the dogs went flying out I heard it for the first time.  It was pouring.  I sneaked into the kitchen to grab a cup of coffee and went back to the slider.  Dakota was clammering to come in.  The pup was still off in the distance.  I opened the door and she stood while I gently wiped her dry and cleaned each paw off.  She was in!

By that time the pup was ready and he was a mess.  He had been mesmerized by the rain as this was a first for him.  So he absolutely had to splash through the puddles, play in the mud and eat one of the many things he discovered in the yard – nothing lethal, things like leaves and sticks.

I opened the door and he tried to fly in.  I may not look fast, but I can be, if need be! I grabbed him by the scuff of the neck and held him while I grabbed each paw and used a baby wipe (they are invaluable for so many things with a pup!)  He wiggled and tried to worm his way out, but I’ve been a puppy mama before.  When he was clean, I let him go and he flew across the room to the toy shelf.  Dakota, our older Rottie, had never torn apart anything, so he had about fifty toys all shelved close to the ground.

The puppy loved it and pulled every one out within a few minutes.

I decided to bring the apple juice in from the garage, with pup hot on my feet.  My  “recycled” bag broke and half the huge bottle spread all over the garage floor.  Had to put Axel in the house and douse the apple juice with water to keep ants from attacking.

To summarize the morning, and I only thought WHAT HAVE  I DONE? once, this is the scenario.   My life was quiet and I wrote when we brought the puppy home at almost 9 weeks.  Dakota is fully trained and quite amazing actually.   Axel got in the bite mode so it was training time all morning, plus he follows me everywhere (so does Dakota) and so I have to be extremely careful.  I put little bells on his collar so I would be able to know exactly where he is at all times.  He wasn’t crazy about the collar, but now lets me put it on without a fight.

He knows how to step on my little stool and reach for stuff.  He found my carpet so old he can just pull shreds of it out with his little sharp teeth. He knows how to dump the dirty clothes basket and empty it out.  He found he can reach anything hanging like towels and my robe, and he likes to drag all the toys all over the house.  He can grab hold of the material on one rocker and spin the chair around and he thought he might like to chew the back of my glider or a dining room chair leg – however, that’s not happening anymore.

Let’s see now was there anything else the first two hours I was awake.  I almost forgot he likes to jump at  Dakota and nip.  Dakota does not care for it.  She growls and looks at me as if to say – “What have you done TO ME!

what have you done to me

That doesn’t concern me though as she treats him like she is his mama and when she’s had enough she lets him know.

He can already reach the pillows on the couches and he decided to turn the dog beds upside down and chew on the handles. He pushes his way past Dakota to sit on her bed, and he quietly moved to the next bed.  He then decided he liked her bed and moved just to lay next to her.  She let him.

The doors to all rooms are closed unless we are in that room.  Cords are taped and tied out of sight.  He thought my toes looked delicious and tried to take a bite out of one.  I ever so gently said “No, easy and gentle.”  To my surprise he backed off.  I said “Get a toy” and he did!

At first the puppy would try to eat Dakota’s food, but now they stand next to each other and eat out of their own bowls.  Before they eat they both are told to sit, and they do!

You may ask too, “What you thinking?  You have disabilities and are not young enough to raise a new Rottie puppy!”

Excuse me!  Who said “Too old” (hahaa)   First of all, I am not too old to do anything I choose to do!  We wouldn’t have agreed to get the pup if I couldn’t do it.  I know about challenges and this is a wonderful motivation to do better, and easy to love the challenges associated with puppy training.

I have a young pup to train, messes to pick up , and twice as much poop!  Just like a small child,  t’s not easy sometimes, but the love our extended family gives and receives from our animals, and the loyalty and fun our dogs give to us is  returned one hundred fold. I am exhausted but happy!

On the positive side, he is smart (thanks Joe!) – he sits before he gets his food.  He learns quickly – is 98% house trained in a week!!

He and Dakota are bonding.


Dakota says no when he is too “in her face”, and then the two lay together on one dog bed!  He loves the bath and is EASY in the tub!  He eats good and really minds much better than you would expect at his age.  He is curious, cute, fun, and an absolute addition to our family.  He sits by the back door when he has to be.  Never poops in the house.  He can be cuddly, a rascal, and is already protective.  When Dakota charges across the yard to bark or growl at a stranger, Axel is right behind!

Axel is now chipped, “shot”, got his first physical, and is ready to roll. We love him so much!

Have to close as there is a small black thing that has sharp teeth coming my way!

Where is the stress management you ask?  It always comes from within us humans if we just listen to that small voice from within .  We must be patient with a puppy, and extend love and forgiveness.  We must remember to take in extra oxygen to calm us and regenerate our energy and patience! We must remember to have fun and take things (light a broken vase) with a grain of salt.  Material things can be replaced.

These techniques are all an invaluable part of stress management – You just need call upon them (and I always pray) – and consistently use the techniques.  There’s the magic.

The first exercise is to exercise your brain.  Have a “breath taking” day!  Literally.




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Read this! Then do it!

Just a short post to remind you to apply stress management to your day!  It is as simple as this:  if you are reading this then you are able to do this mini-stress management technique.

Mindfully relax your shoulders.  Lift them up and then put them down, allowing them to relax.  Take a slow breath in through the nose, counting to five – hold for 5 – then release slowly through mouth.  Do it again.

Clasp your hands and reach in front of you and then lift arms above your head, stretching as you do it.  Big stretch up and inhale counting to five – hold for 5- then slowly release as you unclasp your hands and shake them down.

Point and flex your toes several times.  Wiggle your fingers on both hands.  Close your eyes for a mindful plug of oxygen.  In through the nose – out through the mouth.

Open your eyes and blink them several times.  Bend your neck to the right slowly.  Then to center, and to the left slowly, and back to center.

Turn your neck to the right side (as your breathe mindfully.)

Turn your neck to the left side (another breath.)

Tighten and release your buttox several times.

Give yourself a big hug and get back to what you were doing.

It may seem silly, but this has been a mini-stress management “workout”.

Vary it – add moves – stand up, sit down – take that bathroom break –


Do it every hour or two and your body and mind will be better for it!  I promise.

God bless.  CREATE your moments, your day and your life!  It is YOUR CHOICE.


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Black Friday – REALLY? Gray Thursday?

Human intelligence fluctuates with habits.  We become what we hear, see, and are told.

You have to dumb down to be fixated on what the advertisers are selling.  The perfect face, the perfect body, perfect sex, the perfect home, the perfect toy, the perfect wardrobe, perfect furnishings and electronics, the perfect car, and so forth.

Really?  Do we really need to buy because the money machine tells us to do so? Buy it all and then die young from the stress in trying to pay for everything.  This is not a joke.

Stress kills.

Do you really think it is entertainment to go to the mall with your children?  Where is the hell did you get that idea?  Oh, never mind, I know.

Let me grab my wallet and go buy a bunch of prettily packaged up JUNK made IN CHINA.  It will last long enough to get the next model of stuff out so your new purchases will be outdated.

This year I am giving some of my FAVORITE things to my family.  Why wait for them to get it until I am dead?  Of course that may be years (I hope) – but I want them to enjoy some things I love the most NOW.  If my children were young we would make our gifts, or cook for gifts.

What is lost is the real joy of giving.  What takes the place of that?  STRESS to hurry and buy the biggest and best WHATEVER.  Ask the “breadwinner” (if it isn’t you) – do the bills get harder and harder to pay?  Seems like it for most peasants.

Give yourself a break and agree with family – exchange one gift – have a drawing and put a limit on the cost of the gift.  Don’t be pressured by the children.

Life is too short to fall into line and make corporations and those CEO’s any richer than they are.  Try it.  CHANGE back to making good decisions for you and your family.

If you are a Christian – get back to the root of the holiday!  If you are even just a little bit spiritual, make it a joyful and happy holiday without stressing your pocketbook to death!

Material things come and go.  Love is forever.

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Who do you trust?

Who do you trust?

Good day!  I am going to be more decades than I care to remember in January, so I would think myself a pretty good judge of character.

NOT! Obviously!  I am still naïve and still too trusting.

Since my accident I have been unable to do most of the things I want to do.  Included in that list is housework.  Now I know most folks would say, “That’s great, no housework.”

However, I love my home.  Though it becomes tedious often, I did clean it better than anyone else can.

I hired a housekeeper.  She seemed very nice and I got no “evil” messages from her.  Now I think that your definition of evil comes into play.  Maybe there are degrees and types of evil.

I discovered, yesterday, that she has been stealing from me since I hired her.  I have met her family (the children are adorable), and after a little bit of time, I trusted her to take care of things when I was gone.

It was confirmed today, after I confronted her (via text) – never answers phone. She admitted it was true.  She said she was sorry and she never meant to hurt me.

I believe her.  I accepted her apology, but I told her to leave my PAIN medication on the porch along with the other things I loaned her.  It wasn’t just a confession I wanted.

I told her bluntly if she didn’t return my pills I would contact the police and turn her in.

I did not want to have to do that (because of the children and CPS), so I am giving her the opportunity to do as I asked.

I also told her if she confessed, it would not be mentioned again, but firmly that SHE NEEDED to GET HELP or her children could be taken away from her.

It saddens me to think of the time I spent with her family, and all the while she was stealing from me-I don’t even know exactly what is missing, but a few things. I am certain are gone.  Thankfully any cash or valuables were tucked safely away.

My husband told me when you hire someone you should not become friends with them. He thinks most people are garbage.  I still know there are many good people out there, but definitely I have changed my modus operandi.

Back to square one.  However, I am a year and a few months from my broken back, and I can do some things.  I will just have to monitor myself to not attempt those things I should not do – I am still in the healing mode.

Be careful and get to know people with a bit more caution than I did.  Look at her resume, and talk to current clients.  Check references.  You will save yourself a lot of stress in the long run!But NEVER give up hope that there are still many people roaming this old planet who have goodness and honor within them.  I won’t!

Lastly, I must admit – I do not think this woman is evil.  I do believe she was very sorry for stealing from me.  I hope and pray she takes this lesson to heart and changes. I cringe to think of all the people some housekeepers steal from.  In part, it was my fault for giving her complete trust and leaving her in my home alone.

I did call the police and told them I did not want her children taken away, but just wanted the officer to scare the hell out of her.  She did not return the pills, and had said she was sorry and she would try to buy more from me so I wouldn’t be in pain.

She said a lady got her “script” Friday and she would buy some from her.  I told her not to do anything illegal for me.  It makes me so mad when people get meds and just sell them.  The fraud is rampant.

Here is a bit of information I learned.  If you loose a prescription (even if you are in so much pain you have to crawl to the phone (an exaggeration), big brother will NOT replace a narcotic prescription until “time”.

I did report the incident to the police, however, and I was able to get replacement meds because of the reporting the incident.  I had to pay cash for them, but am grateful to have them.  I only take what I need, and monitor myself carefully.

I asked my physician if I was addicted with two pills a day.  She said addiction is different than using the medication to “manage” your pain.  She also told me addicts take up to thirty pills a day.  That is crazy to me!

This has been a heartbreaking lesson.  Still, I promised God I would go out of this life with a “soft heart”, not hardened by the world, and I will do so.

Just check references and be thorough and never leave a housekeeper alone to do her work.  I hope at some point I will be healed enough never to need this help again.

For now I will do what I can.  Thank God my husband is not an old school dominant jerk.  He is a good man, and even helps as he can.

Have a beautiful day, and be safe!







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Children’s Virus (EV-D68) IMPORTANT

EV – D68 ( Virus) : Children

Here is the latest update on EV-D68 (virus) It has now been recognized in forty-states. Please be sure to watch your children closely. The first signs mimic the common cold – (sometimes fever, runny nose, sneezing and coughing).

EV-D68 has many strains. In the fifties and sixties, it was the cause of cases of POLIO, though, it only recently has become a problem associated with serious respiratory conditions – particularly with those with asthma and those prone to breathing issues.

The virus mimics the common cold initially. The cough can be intense, and it can cause difficulty in breathing. Many children have neck or back pain or pain in the arms and legs (muscle and body aches).Listen to your children – they probably won’t read “what the symptoms are!”

As recent as within the last week, some cases are causing paralysis!!

If your child is sick – keep him or her at home! The virus passes from person to person, with a cough, sneezes or even touching surfaces. Sneezes travel at over 65 miles per hour.

The best defense is to have children WASH his or her hands vigorously several times a day. Not the kind of washing that water passes over, a dribble of soap, rinse and done!

Wash clear up to the wrists, and thoroughly. This virus is not restricted to the USA. It is MANY places in the world, so please care for these blessed little ones.

Show your children how you want them to wash. Show them how to cover their mouths, with bent elbow, when they cough. Be vigilant. One child has died in the United States. He was four years old.

God bless you and God bless all the children!  Take a breath or two and relax.  You know what to do.  Add lots of prayers for the children, and I will too.

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