I was feeling down because of pain and I ran across this…..

YES, I know I wrote it, but it is true, good and FREE!  It helps me every day of my life. Take a few minutes to use what really works!

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Stress management is a broad subject. Stress hits EVERY human being at one time or another. That is a guarantee. It doesn’t necessarily have to be bad stress – it can be from such wonderful activities as the anticipation of the birth of a child, or a wedding, or even graduation or birthdays. “Happy” stress can be just as damaging as any event that causes a person to experience emotions they may not normally focus on.

Working causes stress. School causes stress. Relationships cause stress. Children cause stress. Current affairs cause stress – and just about every incident in life that a human being experiences causes stress!

What are you to do? Why is it some people seem able to handle anything that happens in life? Why can’t you handle it?

The truth is YOU CAN! Whatever made you think you could not handle the stress that bombards you is a crock of garbage!

NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU – YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE CHOICE IS HOW TO RESPOND!

Where we get into trouble is if we respond before thinking. A snap back answer is often loaded with emotion, whether sad, happy, and so forth.

Here is the best stress management tip you will ever get – and it is FREE and TRUE. There is only one stipulation to using it. YOU MUST BELIEVE IT WORKS! It does perfectly, but it seems so available we all take it for granted.

USE YOUR OXYGEN BEFORE YOU SPEAK, HAVE A FIT, OR PUNCH SOMEBODY IN THE FACE. USE IT AS YOUR “SECRET WEAPON.”

I don’t mean this to be silly, and please do not dismiss it. If you TRULY want to change your LIFE, you have to do two things CONSISTENTLY:

Learn to use your oxygen effectively (I will share how soon).

  1. Think before you speak or act on any “stressor” that manifests.

That’s it! If I were teaching a class and charging a fee, and I have done that hundreds of times, I would begin the class with this statement:

‘The first exercise is to use your intelligence. In exercising your intelligence,  expect you to practice, until it becomes habit, only do two things

CONSISTENTLY.Learn to use your oxygen effectively Think before you speak   or act on any “stressor” that manifests.”

I want to make this as simple as possible so you can start practicing right away. I will explain why it works soon. Just try it now. Take a deep breath slowly and then exhale it slowly. Don’t make a “big deal” about it, practice in the mirror if you like.

Please do it several times. THINK about breathing whenever you feel your face flushed or your fist tightening up, or your neck getting tight.

Practice it again. Breath in (hold only a second or so) – then out. Do it again.

Now, here are the reasons this is YOUR BET TECHNIQUE to manage your stress!

Simply put (I always try to make things complicated)……

  1. Your body needs the extra oxygen to slow your “reaction” – you don’t want to react, you want to think, and then respond, calmly and with your wits about you.
  2. The body NEEDs the extra oxygen because when humans feel stress breathing slows down and muscles tighten. The extra oxygen will help to keep you thinking optimally, and will relax (automatically) – the muscles and ligaments.
  3. Extra oxygen will create beta-endorphins, which are peptides that activate the body’s opiate receptors, causing an analgesic effect. (Which means you are creating not only a pain killer, for those with pain, but good feelings too). Have you ever heard of a runner’s high? It’s those beta endorpins created by intake of extra oxygen!
  4. Your brain needs fifty percent more oxygen that the rest of your body to think optimally, so you NEED the oxygen to respond.

You will, simply by taking in extra oxygen, really empower yourself, begin to relax instead of tensing up, and respond instead of reacting. These things alone will change your stress level so you can manage it effectively!

WHY do these things happen in the body? Because that is the way the body works.

You have been given all the tools you need to move onward and upward. If you don’t think it works because you did it once and it didn’t help, then you don’t really care if you change your life or not!

Get into it! Think it will work. Believe it will work. Practice so you don’t even have to think about it kicking into gear…

That will be $50.00 please! Just kidding, of course donations would be appreciated, but I write this website because I think we all have the right to know how to manage our lives – and the right to be happy!  Guess that’s a good thing because with all the posts I’ve written on both blogs, overs 800 posts!!!, no one has donated a nickel….go figure!

Do I care?  A little  Does it really matter?  No.  Will I continue to love what I do? YES>

Now go use these GREAT techniques and feel wonderful for all your life…through the good and the bad.  I know – I am an expert in both!

Have a wonderful day, moment by moment.…CREATE your life instead of letting life run over you!

I care. We have to channel information to each other in these times. God bless you.

Be mysterious!  Do something new!  Surprise someone!  Most of all, have fun!0-1

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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HOMELESS

This morning the headline in our local paper was again about the homeless.  I am certain of my own beliefs, but I am sick to death of having the homeless subject in our community highlighted in the paper and discussion in all the meetings!

First of all, I know it takes votes, and LOTS of money to run for any city office.  Therein, I wonder if the folks who are so concerned and dedicated are living in a place that is safe, fenced, and out of the areas where the homeless gather.  It would be easy to be generous if you are cozy, well fed, and NOT in the danger areas.

Secondly, though my heart goes out to ANY child that lives hungry, or on the street – truly, there are VERY FEW children, if any, that I have seen in Redding.  I never want a child to be hungry.

The people I see are a few women, and mostly men who look young and healthy.  They may look unkempt and ragged in dress, but the majority of them look like this is either drug and /or alcohol related or a choice.  The signs say, “Will work”, but who on earth is going to risk taking a man off of the street corner to do work at his or her home?  No one I know.

I wonder if these do-gooders are in this thinking they will help, or if they simply are not in the midst of what is REALLY going on.

California’s AB109 has put dangerous people on our streets – all over California.  The men (mostly) who have spent time in PRISON – are CHANGED.  I am weary of hearing about a double murder and discovering the man was released early because he’d been a good prisoner, and California’s   generous laws. How about the man my friend had to shoot to death because was going to break into her home and do – “who knows what”.  The police said she did the right thing. He had been released 24 hours earlier-AB109.

I will bet the governor doesn’t live without guards or in an unprotected area.

California is so slack on actually taking care of its working citizens, it’s citizens born in this country or legally having entered, or it’s senior citizens…. I don’t know one person who wouldn’t move if they were able.  But being working folks, they are tied in order to provide a meager living.

EVERYTHING is provided for free for the homeless.  Food, shelters, bicycles, phones, sleeping bags, tents, clothing, medical, specialized training, and more.  WHY should they work?  They instead tell their fellow former inmates and families and friends – Redding is a great place to live.  All you have to do is show up.  You can even stand on street corners and sometimes make nearly $100.00 a day.  Even an occasional bag of dog food will manifest for your pets. And once a year Redding provides haircuts and styling, pet care, medical care, free glasses, dental checkups, and a myriad of other services. Medicare doesn’t even pay for teeth or glasses for our senior citizens….and NO cost of living increases recently!

The silent MAJORITY is SICK of it all.  My children say I am the most tender-hearted and kind person they have ever met – but if the same man who pissed on the side of the house next door, the same man who took a knife and slit our sacks in the trash to see what was there, the guys who camp under the bridge to enjoy heroin and alcohol, the same illegal campers who make it impossible for hard-working locals to go for a walk in the woods, the same people who steal and put fear in the hearts of many, the same people who look at you with distain, and yell at you when you don’t give them money…get everything for free –-

WHERE IS THE MOTIVATION FOR THOSE WHO KILL THEMSELVES TO EARN A LIVING? I WILL TELL YOU THE ANGER IS GROWING WHEN WORKING CITIZENS SEE CHECKS “LIGHT” BECAUSE MONEY IS INCREASINGLY TAKEN OUT TO HELP PROVIDE ALL THESE SERVICES.

WORKING PEOPLE ARE TIRED OF BEING ASKED TO DONATE EVERYTHING TO HELP. THESE PEOPLE HAUNT THE STREETS AT NIGHT AND THREATEN THE SAFETY OF OUR CHILDREN. MURDER AND RAPE CRIMES HAVE INCREASED EXPOTENTIALLY SINCE THE FIRST OF THE YEAR.

DO YOU THINK OUR POLITICAL REPRESENTATIVES (HAHA) GO WITHOUT PROTECTION? DO YOU THINK THEY ARE PLAGUED WITH THESE NIGHTMARES? DO YOU THINK OUR GOVERNOR ISN’T PROTECTED WITH WEAPONS? DO YOU THINK DONATIONS ARE OFTEN AND LARGE BY THE MAJORITY OF THESE PEOPLE?

I WOULD SAY NOT! AS A GENTLE AND LOVING SOUL, I ASK GOD TO FORGIVE ME FOR BELIEVING WE ARE HELPING THE MAJORITY OF THE WRONG PEOPLE! IS THERE AN ANSWER TO THESE MONUMENTAL PROBLEMS?

If you have an answer, let me know. In the meantime – lock your doors when you get in the car, lock them at home, get a large watchdog, an intruder alarm system, motion lights, and make sure your weapons are loaded.  And of course, as always – pray pray pray!

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I need to take a breath and relax

Just wrote a short post about income tax….keeping it positive.  Saved it as a draft, and it’s gone!  I’ve looked.

Oh well, this is a stress management blog so I won’t stress about it.  I can’t spend more time here now, so I’ll just say when the unexpected happens, and its not good – remember 100% of the time you have the choice to handle it with positive responses, or “the other way”…. I am a positive puppy, so I accept it and will move along.

Be back when I can.  Take a breath, CREATE a wonderful day, and enjoy the flowers!

cherry blossomsCherry blossoms!

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Teenage girls.

These two words strike the thought of terror in many moms! It is funny, but also true. Any teenager tries to spread wings and have freedom of choice.

This is just a short post to remind moms that you are ultimately the boss. My mama told me – “Pick your fights and make sure they are important enough to battle about.” She was right!daughter image

Here is a question. Do you want your daughters to look like this?  I sure wouldn’t want mine to copy this model.  I just about threw up, literally, when I looked through a magazine called “Marie Claire” – this issue is “the image makers.  It is full of models that look like they need a good meal and guidance.  I guess I am not in this loop.  Don’t neglect what your daughter is reading, or what she follows on the Internet.  Make a point of being interested, and then be positive in trying to upgrade these kinds of looks to more than someone who ate too little and snorted too much.

You can find bargains, and you can save money.  Second hand stores carry so many labels and styles, and you can point this out.  Not trashy stores, but lovely stores like the “Cancer we Care” store in my town.

Check out my finds.  This bag was advertised in the magazine at almost $1,000.  I went to a thrift store in the bay area and got mine for $3.00.  Actually I prefer mine. It’s the second one.

bag3 dollar bagYou have to keep your eyes open, and ACTUALLY be interested.  You will survive your child’s teen years. Even if you work as a single mom, take time as my daughter does, to CARE and be in CHARGE.  You can do it peacefully and with love….Make it fun and then praise your daughter for good choices – and hair that is actually brushed and clean. Pray a lot!

 

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Sorry it’s been so long since I posted!

Can you beat it, life just kind of got in my way of writing – but somehow, today I just felt drawn to get some of these words and thoughts out of my head! I would say on “paper with pen”, but I type faster than I can write, and my thoughts are crowding my brain! :) So I declare today the day I begin to release what God has given me, and would like to say, “HELLO again.”

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The smallest drop of rain on a leaf can bring your senses to a moment of beauty.

The reflection of the sun is reflective and the leaves and cobwebs all come to life and shine like diamonds. Pay attention to these little gifts that surround us all.  Take a breath and let the moment calm your senses.   I don’t have a special super camera that cost lots of money, but my little camera is capable of capturing the moment!  It was so beautiful.raindrop

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Pain Sucks!

If you know me personally, you know the last 5 years of my life have been filled with daily PAIN…sometimes a little more mild than others, but usually exquisite!  I know that is a weird term to use for pain, but when the pain manifests to horrible, terrible, horrific, ALMOST unbearable (note I said almost). I just say exquisite* pain.

*”Rare, consummate, extraordinary and/or intense.”

No matter which pain is taking over, you are capable of overcoming it and managing it.  IF POSSIBLE, to be most effective, try to lie down with your knees slightly up (perhaps with a pillow) – this will keep you from hyper-extending your low back.

Begin, no matter where your pain is, you must first exercise your brain. Decide you will manage it, no matter how bad it gets.  Be mental!

Secondly, feel the tension in your body.  My hip is my focus today, and when I “think” I feel my entire leg is tense.  Now use your brains again…. say “I am going to think about the tension I feel, the muscles tightening because of pain, and the entire area.  I then exhale while I consciously command my leg to let go of the tension.”

Actually since I began this post a day has past, and now my attention for pain has elevated – to my face and mouth.  I had oral surgery and extensive dental work done yesterday afternoon.

I kind of look like a little chipmonk!

Now take a deep breath inhaling through the nose slowly, visualizing the oxygen going to the area where it is especially needed, hold it for just a moment and then consciously exhale through the mouth, visualizing all the pain in your body flying from the tips of your fingers, to oblivion.  Do this several times.

Sounds simple but for those of you with no experience in relaxing or managing pain – the technique will take PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.  If you choose to live successfully with enduring pain, without being drugged, drunk, or despicable, this is the best prescription anyone can use…

It works; it requires brainpower, and your dedication to practice until it becomes a natural response.  Create a “managed” pain day.

That is what I am doing and I know it will work!   God blesses us – take his given techniques and miracles, and use them.  They are not mine – they are a free gift from the Great Spirit.

That, my friends, is why I am almost always a cheery little cupcake.  Besides, it’s much more fun than any other technique to manage pain and stress.

This is the best pain management and here is the kicker is NO side effects!

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