Who do you trust?
Good day! I am going to be more decades than I care to remember in January, so I would think myself a pretty good judge of character.
NOT! Obviously! I am still naïve and still too trusting.
Since my accident I have been unable to do most of the things I want to do. Included in that list is housework. Now I know most folks would say, “That’s great, no housework.”
However, I love my home. Though it becomes tedious often, I did clean it better than anyone else can.
I hired a housekeeper. She seemed very nice and I got no “evil” messages from her. Now I think that your definition of evil comes into play. Maybe there are degrees and types of evil.
I discovered, yesterday, that she has been stealing from me since I hired her. I have met her family (the children are adorable), and after a little bit of time, I trusted her to take care of things when I was gone.
It was confirmed today, after I confronted her (via text) – never answers phone. She admitted it was true. She said she was sorry and she never meant to hurt me.
I believe her. I accepted her apology, but I told her to leave my PAIN medication on the porch along with the other things I loaned her. It wasn’t just a confession I wanted.
I told her bluntly if she didn’t return my pills I would contact the police and turn her in.
I did not want to have to do that (because of the children and CPS), so I am giving her the opportunity to do as I asked.
I also told her if she confessed, it would not be mentioned again, but firmly that SHE NEEDED to GET HELP or her children could be taken away from her.
It saddens me to think of the time I spent with her family, and all the while she was stealing from me-I don’t even know exactly what is missing, but a few things. I am certain are gone. Thankfully any cash or valuables were tucked safely away.
My husband told me when you hire someone you should not become friends with them. He thinks most people are garbage. I still know there are many good people out there, but definitely I have changed my modus operandi.
Back to square one. However, I am a year and a few months from my broken back, and I can do some things. I will just have to monitor myself to not attempt those things I should not do – I am still in the healing mode.
Be careful and get to know people with a bit more caution than I did. Look at her resume, and talk to current clients. Check references. You will save yourself a lot of stress in the long run!But NEVER give up hope that there are still many people roaming this old planet who have goodness and honor within them. I won’t!
Lastly, I must admit – I do not think this woman is evil. I do believe she was very sorry for stealing from me. I hope and pray she takes this lesson to heart and changes. I cringe to think of all the people some housekeepers steal from. In part, it was my fault for giving her complete trust and leaving her in my home alone.
I did call the police and told them I did not want her children taken away, but just wanted the officer to scare the hell out of her. She did not return the pills, and had said she was sorry and she would try to buy more from me so I wouldn’t be in pain.
She said a lady got her “script” Friday and she would buy some from her. I told her not to do anything illegal for me. It makes me so mad when people get meds and just sell them. The fraud is rampant.
Here is a bit of information I learned. If you loose a prescription (even if you are in so much pain you have to crawl to the phone (an exaggeration), big brother will NOT replace a narcotic prescription until “time”.
I did report the incident to the police, however, and I was able to get replacement meds because of the reporting the incident. I had to pay cash for them, but am grateful to have them. I only take what I need, and monitor myself carefully.
I asked my physician if I was addicted with two pills a day. She said addiction is different than using the medication to “manage” your pain. She also told me addicts take up to thirty pills a day. That is crazy to me!
This has been a heartbreaking lesson. Still, I promised God I would go out of this life with a “soft heart”, not hardened by the world, and I will do so.
Just check references and be thorough and never leave a housekeeper alone to do her work. I hope at some point I will be healed enough never to need this help again.
For now I will do what I can. Thank God my husband is not an old school dominant jerk. He is a good man, and even helps as he can.
Have a beautiful day, and be safe!