Stress Management Magic

What can you do about it?

If you think H1NI is a potential pandemic, then about Herpes. One in four Americans lives with the herpes virus.Herpes is for life. There is no cure.  It can be overwhelming.

The psychological cost can be staggering.  Many people feel that they “brought it on themselves.”  This self-blame can cause depression, which many times, is a side effect of the disease anyway.  It can cause low self-esteem and so many other intense emotions, which in turn create a great deal of stress.

This STD (sexually transmitted disease) happens – remember, to one in four Americans.  You are not alone.

One of the problems manifested with having herpes is that the majority of people don’t realize how common it is now-over fifty million people in America alone.

The virus can remain dormant for years.   Many people aren’t even aware they have it until they pass it on to someone else.

Another fact that may surprise you is that 70-80% of people have Oral Herpes.  This can, by the way, be passed to the genitals during oral sex.  Sadly, a baby or young child can receive a kiss from an adult who carries Oral Herpes virus.

Herpes is forever.  This is sobering and true.   The virus stays in the nerve cells beside the spinal cord at the base of the pelvis for life.  These facts alone can cause terrible stress.

Now,  to what you need to do.  When you have an outbreak, please abstain from sexual activity.  Even if you don’t have any blisters, you could be shedding virus that is contagious.

Another truth about the virus is that even if you are very careful, nothing short of total abstinence from skin to skin contact will prevent the possible spread of the virus.

With all this information it is no wonder the Herpes virus causes staggering stress amongst the population.  There is also a form called neonatal herpes – herpes passed on to a newborn child.  This is a “cause” that has had too little attention!

It is itchy, painful, leaves hardened crusty spots, and it worsens with age.  Staggering facts – but facts you CAN and MUST deal with in order to be in charge of your stress management.  You can do it!

The first step is to accept it.  You have it.  Now you have to begin to manage it in your daily living.  Take a breath.  Slow down a bit. Many people find when they activate stress management techniques, the breakouts are less frequent.

Ultimately, if you feel you can’t handle the stress alone (and many people simply can’t) – find a support group.  Friends, family, or social support groups can be very helpful.  Sharing with others gives mutual understanding, love, validation and most importantly, hope.

IMPORTANT

Having a form of the virus myself (shingles), I spoke to my pharmacist yesterday only to find the reason I could not get generic Valtrex was because there is some glitch in the manufacturing of some of the ingredients. He told me he has no idea when generic will be available, and other non-generic medications are very expensive.

He did give me a couple of alternatives though!  A wise and experienced man, I do heed his words.  IF you find you can’t get the generic equal then here are two alternative moves.  THIS IS NOT A GUARANTEE…. but this pharmacist, who has been in the profession over thirty years, said he has had enough feedback to know sometimes these work magnificently.  There has to be alternatives in these tough economic times, and here they are:

1.  This works particularly well if this is your first outbreak.  Tagamet 200 mg. liquid.  3 Tablespoons – 3 times a day.  Two

tablespoons at bedtime.

Interactions with this drug may occur with the following:

• amoxicillin (Augmentin)
• anti-depressants (Elavil)
• anti-diabetic drugs (Micronase, Glucotrol)
• aspirin
• benzodiazepine tranquilizers (Valium, Xanax, Librium)
• beta-blockers (Inderal, Lopressor)
• blood thinners (Coumadin)
• calcium-blockers (Cardizem, Calan, Procardia)
• carbamazepine (Tegretol)
• chemotherapy drugs – some
• chlorpromazine (Thorazine)
• cisapride (Propulsid)
• clozapine (Clozaril)
• cyclosporine (Sandimmune, Neoral)
• digoxin (Lanoxin)
• fluconazole (Diflucan)
• ketoconazole (Nizoral)
• medication for irregular heartbeat (Cordarone, Tonocard, Quindex, Procanbid)
• metoclopramide (Reglan)
• metronidazole (Flagyl)
• narcotic (Demerol, morphine)
• nicotine ( Nicoderm, Nicorette)
• paroxetine (Paxil)
• pentoxifylline (Trental)
• phenytoin (Dilantin)
• quinidine (Quinidex, Quinaglute)
• sucralfate (Carafate)
• theophylline (Theo-Dur)

THERE IS NO GUARANTEE HERE, but if your prescription cannot be filled, then it is worth the effort to at least give it a try.It is very reasonable.

2. Three tablespoons of coconut oil a day.  Now this is not very palatable so you can also cook with it.

AGAIN – NO Guarantees here.

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Management of your stress can be your best friend if you have Herpes or Shingles.  Often a breakout will occur during more stressful times.

Learn to breathe, take specific stress management courses, join a support group, or join a yoga class. SLOW DOWN!  You can only do so much in one day, so no matter how you would like to control things, no matter how busy your schedule is, use your INTELLECT.  When you are overwhelmed, take a breath, take a walk, take a class, hug someone, pet your dog, divert your attrntion from the problem and take a time out!  It’s your life, and with this particular disease, YOU REALLY NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU!

Panic attacks are common. You are not alone. It is anxiety in action.

People who suffer from panic attacks are experiencing the actual physical sensations of the fight/or fight response.  A panic attack can be seen as a set of unexpected physical symptoms, and then a response of panic or fear of the actual symptoms.

Symptoms may include hyperventilation, pounding heart, fear, dizziness, panic, an adrenaline rush and breathlessness.

The symptoms can be misinterpreted as a heart attack or other physical conditions and the misinterpretation can cause the attack to continue.

When some sort of danger is perceived or anticipated, even if not on a conscious level, the brain will put the sympathetic nervous system into action, releasing energy and getting the body primed for action.  This flight/flight response is automatic. It is your body responding to what it perceives in the mind an an emergency situation

Even after the danger has passed and your sympathetic nervous system has stopped responding, you are likely to feel keyed-up or apprehensive for some time.  Those chemicals are still floating around in your system.  You must remind yourself that this is perfectly natural and harmless.

To stop a panic attack you need to follow these simple steps (thought it may not seem simple at first) if you do it JUST ONCE it will be easier the next time, and the next.

1.  Slow down your breathing.  Take deep and complete breaths.  Remind yourself you are having a panic attack and that relaxing the body and your thoughts are first steps to physical control.

2.  Stop the negative thinking.  If you just shout the word “STOP” loudly inside your head, you actually interrupt the emergency message of the preparation your brain in sending to the adrenal glands.  Stop the negative and scary thoughts and think; while you are breathing slowly,  “I am in charge here.  I can stop this. ”

3.   Encourage your power with coping statements: ” I can do this. I have gotten through many tough times.  I am fine.  Everything is okay.” Repeat as many times as need be for you to create new thought brain cells.

4.  Accept the fact that your feelings are important and you had a reason for the fear causing the attack, or some variation of fear.  Try to identify the reason.  Listen to your thoughts but keep your emotions in proportion to the situation.  Keep an appropriate perspective.

Even if you can’t get away, you can ALWAYS enjoy the beauty of this planet through photography. Perhaps you’ll think of  ideas to help you manage stress.  Sit right where you are and relax for a few minutes.  This is for you.  If you are unable to travel, or unhappy in the place that you live, visualize these places and through your vision, travel perhaps,  to a place in your dreams.

Breathe in deeply through the nose – Exhale slowly through the mouth.  Please repeat and enjoy your added oxygen while you transport your mind via photography.

Take the path of least resistance.  You never know what you may find.  Take a walk with someone you love.

Enjoy the beauty of the flowers abundant in springtime. There are thousands of stunning flowers and fragrances!  Every color and shape unique to another.

The stillness of any body of water brings calm to a mind overwhelmed with stress.  Listen to the sounds of nature and stop for a moment.  Go sailing.  Sit by a lake and revel in the beauty.

Find a river and enjoy the majesty of nature and the diversity of it.  Enjoy the moments of your life.  Note all the various plants and trees.  Divert your attention from stress to the less conflicted moment you can enjoy, and create,  in life.  Seek beauty in your surroundings.  If in a city notice the amazing structures that climb to the sky and appreciate the work of humankind, and the diversity.

Take a child somewhere and watch the joy in their eyes as they feed the geese (or listen to the clucking hens, or see the animals in the zoo.)  Enjoy the laughter and the wonder of a world new to them.  The time flies so take your mind back to the honesty of being a child and the innocence.

Try something new.  Be willing to “see if you like” – whatever it is you experience for the first time.

You may find a place you can sit quietly and let all the answers you seek be settled in peace in your mind.  You may even find God.

Take a camping trip and see the awesome wonder of nature and maybe hearing the powerful sound of a beautiful waterfall.  Feel the water droplets splash on your face as you near the spray of the falls.

Take the time to appreciate your pets.  It doesn’t matter whether you are a dog or cat lover – animals are for man to appreciate and enjoy.  Good vibrations (literally endorphins) are created when you “pet your pet”.

Grab a hot cup of coffee and enjoy the fresh snow and icicles that form from the roof.  Smell the coffee and savor it’s taste – or hot chocolate, if you prefer.

And when the end of the day comes, stop again – find a quiet place and breathe deeply.  Be still and regenerate your heart and mind.  You deserve it!

What is Fear?

Fear translates simply into “anticipation” of something bad happening. It is the emotion that makes you feel within that danger lurks close by, and is a threat to you, whether it be physical pain or something else.

Fear can be a positive emotion that reminds you to take care of yourself. Keep in mind, however, fear without restraint that becomes habitual, is dangerous and serves no purpose in resolving anything.

Listen to your feelings, take good care of yourself, and keep your emotions in proportion to the situation by keeping an appropriate perspective.

Being fearful of the future is pointless.  No one can know what will happen ten minutes from now, not even the very next moment.  A better approach to seeing the future would be to anticipate the good that you desire in your life and the lives of those around you.  It is a choice.

No matter what stress you are dealing with at the moment, life can change radically, and without notice. What you have feared may happen you may never see in reality.  Over ninety percent of what you fear will never come to fruition.

Do not look for things to happen.  Let them present themselves to you in their own time. It seems we often choose to be overrun by negative emotions, old limited thought patterns and fear, which gives way to negative reactions to circumstantial appearances.

Visualization

The ability to visualize with colorful and vivid images, rich imagination and detailed action are natural skills of childhood.  Somewhere along the path between childhood and becoming an adult many people are so overwhelmed with life itself, and so plummeted with “information and responsibilities” that the skills are tucked somewhere in the back of the mind.

Visualization skills can be very useful in empowering people to overcome

obstacles in their lives.  FEAR is at the forefront of the list that can be a major obstacle to progress. .  When fear is corralled you will find everything will improve.

The Whole thing Resolved

Whatever it is that keeps you hanging on to the negativity and fearful emotions – STOP IT!

STOP paying attention to the things you DON’T want in your life! Worry is simply the habit of focusing on what you do not want.

Divert your own attention to what you WANT your life to be.

Turn in the opposite direction. Turn from one course to another.  Distract, deflect, reallocate to a different purpose.

Free yourself from your prison.

You can demonstrate any kind of life you choose, but the rules of expression are this:  Build a consciousness for the thing you desire.  Then, of course, you must be will to exert the effort, (consistently), that is necessary to bring that life forth.

There is NO return policy, so it might be best to learn to manage the stress that child rearing will bring into your life!

The Plus Side

Not all of the stress that comes into your life when you begin parenting is bad, make no mistake about that, there will be memorable moments for the rest of your life.  It is the toughest job you’ll ever have; it is also the sweetest, and can be freckled with fun and laughter.

The Best Medicine

Laughter is one of the best ways to release stress and feel good.  The chemicals released in the body through laughter reduce pain and tension.  So there is probably no substitute for finding ways to have fun and to laugh with children

Children keep you young.  They remind adults of the “innocence” we all once knew. Their actions have not yet been stuffed into a rigid format, and their honest appraisal of things, as their vocabulary grows, will keep you smiling, and maybe once in a while, cringing.  It is always a “challenge”.

There is no need to be depressed or anxious.  YOU ARE UP TO THE TASK!

Physical Endurance

The physical factor about child rearing is we do get physically stronger from the day we carry that little bundle of joy home.  Carrying a child, extra groceries, diapers, baby equipment, and all the extra do-dads we get to help our children, will also mean extra carrying, extra cleaning, and extra hours filling the needs of children.

Though you may be tired initially, you will get used to the schedule. Before you know it your body will grow stronger and your resilience better.

The Magic

Help yourself AND your children to calm down and relax.  Don’t forget the children will share your stress and the way you manage it. Don’t yell and scream, or break down and cry in front of your children.  They will take it personally, and even if the incident was initiated by their actions, children’s self-esteem for a lifetime is at risk here, as they go through their childhood years. You love them and you are their guardians and mentors.

Work on preventative techniques by letting them learn the very same techniques you are working on for yourself!  Teach them to breath and stretch, and make it fun!

Hyperactive and/or impulsive children, in particular, gain the most from learning techniques that relax their minds and bodies, recognize their internal feelings, and release inner tension.

Relaxation strategies empower children with a feeling of peace and self-control.  Do breathing exercises with your younger children and they will see it as a game and having fun together.

Find a meditation or yoga class and encourage your older children to participate with you.  Many parents already know breathing techniques and the positive effects of controlled breathing through Lamaze or other natural-childbirth classes.

Controlled conscious breathing has the benefit of relaxing muscles and reducing stress.  Many believe it is useful in the management, perhaps cure of some physical ailments and disease.

Help your child to learn to take conscious, deep breaths to relax. Show him/her how to inhale deeply (preferably through the nose, but through the mouth ins fine) and slowly exhale through the mouth.

Teach you child to isolate different body parts and relax them with each slow breath inhaled.  For example, while lying on the floor, instruct the child to tighten or squeeze toes on the left foot, then relax with a deep breath.

Now tighten the left knee and upper leg, and then relax and breathe.  Proceed in this manner to the right side.  Have them then relax by breathing.  Proceed in this fashion to the lower body, to the abdomen and upper body, each arm, hand/fingers, chest, neck, jaws and face.

This is particularly helpful for children to recognize that when they are angry, stressed, or nervous (even about taking a test or performing in a school program), they will recognize the tightening of certain body parts.

If they recognize when fists clench, jaws tighten, and stomachs harden, they have power over their bodies to relax and gain control.

They can consider using their oxygen a “secret weapon” – and it is!  They can breathe deeply and “send” their breaths consciously to relax body parts.  By sending the breaths to a hand, for instance, the child can silently prompt the hand to relax the grip.  Tell the child when the body is relaxed it is easier to think and plan!

Before any “stress” the child might be facing, AND IT’S EASY TO FORGET THEY HAVE STRESSES, INCLUDING YOUR REACTIONS, they can use their secret weapon to calm themselves!  Let them know their brains need fifty percent more oxygen to think well…and the breathing will help them be calmer and wiser for tests!  It’s true.

Hence, as your children learn stress management techniques, it will help them throughout their entire lives, and it will also help you because they will be calmer and more aware of their own body powers.  Children are ripe to learn, and what could be a better gift for the children and the parents than to learn to empower themselves and find peace in this day and age.  They

will also find extra self-esteem in their accomplishments!

Lastly, remember, make it fun, and keep in mind REPETITION is the mother of all learning.  Help all the family together!

The Mind is a Beautiful Thing

It is inspiring to remember that our minds are capable of learning throughout our entire lives.  Our brains will learn, with nurturing, though learning isn’t always easy.  Learning can bring up lots of resistance and fears, and those feelings create stress right along side the stress of daily living.

Oftentimes we anticipate a “learning” scenario, but we feel anxiety.  Thoughts of Can I measure up or will I wash out?  Can I do this and still have time for a life? What if I’m too old to learn to change?  What if I can’t find the time to practice new skills?  Will I be disciplined enough to study?

These thoughts are normal, but they are only making your decision to begin, more difficult, and your potential to learn, a bit sketchy in your mind.

We are absolutely capable of learning our entire life!  The intellect is there, but our own insecurities often stop the flow of things.

When you begin something new, something you want to learn or do, start with positive thoughts in your mind.  Let go of limiting thoughts.  Drop the “can’t” from you vocabulary and do rehearsals of your desired goals within your brain.  Plan before you activate your actions.   Visualize success in your endeavors.

Your thoughts and words are self-fulfilling prophecies.  You can choose. You are the energy you project, whether it is negative or positive.  From your perceptions you conceive your life.  Don’t anticipate problems.  Anticipate success.

Through your own thoughts you hold the key to every situation.  Within you, you can transform and regenerate your life and empower your potential.

The potential of everything in your life is within you waiting to be radiated outward into the world as healthy thoughts and happy expectations.  You will attract like results into your life simply be changing the way you think – getting into the habit of powerful thoughts instead of those that block your success.

Take a deep breath…and relax!  You will do just fine if you give yourself half the chance you would give to someone else!  Be kind to yourself and you will enhance your life and the lives of others!  CREATE a beautiful life!

Overwhelmed with Stress?

Learn to Exercise Your Mind and Manage Your Stress!

If you think you “never dreamed you’d be in this position”, overwhelmed in an ocean of stress, welcome to the space millions of people sharing today.

Technology is awesome.  Technology is tragic. Technology is also VERY stressful for almost everyone.  For the awesome and wonderful use we have available on the Internet, cell phones, games, music devices, and the plethora of things available to us, there are also horrific and tragic events that occur because of the technological advances.

When “access” is denied

You have certainly had a program or something you’ve written disappear. Has the power gone off due to an unforeseeable incident, disabling the computer or television? Just when you have a deadline to meet surely something has gone amiss with the computer or printer.  Perhaps your cell phone wasn’t charged, or you are out of satellite range just when you need to make a call.

These types of incidents can cause high anxiety and contribute to mounting stress.

Mind-Splitters

Technology can be disastrous too, for interpersonal relationships, whether it involves peers, partners, family members, or even strangers connecting.

Technology allows us to communicate with others and complete work rapidly, and that is a plus most of the time.

But this communication is less than reality, and is mind splitting and often human splitting!  Often we find ourselves so busy with our gadgets that we isolate ourselves from movement and one on one communication.

Have you ever seen a mother and child walking in the park and the mother talking on the cell phone and ignoring the child?  What about boyfriend and girlfriend strolling down the street, each with a cell phone to their ear?  Picture the guy or gal fastening the seat belt, before the engine starts, to call or text someone.  You’ve seen it happen!

Think of the lies procreated day after day between people on the Internet.  A little lie here, a little one there, does not amount to much, it seems.  Hearts have been broken and financial scams have increased by almost one hundred percent.

It used to be a human being stood before students to expound on lessons of history and human kind.  Now so many students sit in front of their computer, learning from the teacher on line.

Think of the conversations between teenagers, that parents never hear!  Plans made and “sexting” (the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos electronically, primarily between mobile phones) to each other.

“Where’s the Stress Management here?”, you may ask.

It is right here, and right now.  Simply put there are eight things you need to do to help manage these stresses.

1.  Exercise your mind.  Some things you simply have no control over.  For those things, look at the challenges differently.  Find an answer with a new attitude.

2.  Set your priorities.  Are any of the things above worth throwing yourself into a physical and mental turmoil?  Soon another challenge will come and the current ones will melt away.

3.  Stop saying negative things in your head or out loud.  Negatively will only make it worse.

4.  Remember, at any moment all of the “aids” to life we find in technology could be taken away.  TRY not to rely on them as much as you rely on your own capabilities!

Technology or Humans – Which will the race ultimately?  Think about it.  If we sacrifice our mental and physical health constantly worrying about the “flaws” in the things we use, and the “discomfort” they cause when not available or malfunctioning  , we need to step back, take a breath and remember who is in charge – you or the machine.

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Bathes are not strictly for women.  They are for all of us.  People of all ages spend money and time going some place to swim, or sit in a hot Jacuzzi.  Water is one of our most underrated and underappreciated gifts.  You bathtub is perfect for a light workout, water therapy and RELAXATION.

It’s cost effective and readily available without a reservation!

You will need these things for your productive, healing and peaceful bathing time:

1.  Music.  You must have music.  Make sure you are “electrically” safe, or not hooked to any electricity at all is preferable.  Use your Ipod, portable headset and player, a radio, or whatever you have, and make sure your music flows with your natural heart rate.  It should feel gentle and soulful. Music that is simpatico with your heart rate will enhance your relaxation.

2.  A candle, or a few candles, safely placed in areas to enhance the ambiance.  If you don’t have candles then simply try to make the lighting in the room soft for your eyes.

3.  Find a fragrance to capture within the room.  Try flowers, incense, and a splash of your favorite perfume or cologne to reward your sense of smell.

4.  You need a small cervical pillow with a waterproof cover – or simply a large towel rolled to place at your neck for comfort and support.

5.  Bubble bath, oil or whatever will nourish your skin.  Your skin will cover you all your life.  Keep it supple.

6.  A body sponge, pumice stone and / or wash rag.

7.  Epsom salts to add to your bath water for helping muscles and ligaments.

Set the scene while you run a hot bath.  Grab two soft towels and plan on twenty or thirty minutes alone.  Make a “do not disturb sign”.  Make your bath a reward in the comfort of your own home.  Only you and your family should have bathtub privileges.  Let the guests use a shower.

Now you are ready for this “stress management magic to begin

1.  Step into the tub (after it’s clean, of course), and when you first start drawing the hot water for your bath.  As the water fills the tub, sit down and paddle your arms side to side so the temperature stays even throughout the tub.

2.  When the tub is filled (I personally love a bubble bath), lean back on the towel or pillows and begin these easy stretches and movements.  Lift one leg slightly, and rotate you ankles in both directions.  Point and flex toes and then flex them, pressing them towards your chest.  Lightly massage the leg and foot and then alternate to opposite sight.  Repeat the movements.  As you are doing these things slowly breathe in and out.  Make the breaths deep and long, and relaxed.

3.  With hands in the water clench your fists.  Open the fingers wide and stretch them as far as you can.   Wiggle the fingers. Pull the water through your fingers.  Visualize how light the water is and yet how powerful.  You too can be “light in thoughts” yet powerful…if you manage your stress effectively.

4.  Remove the pillow and gently place your neck on the highest point of the tub itself.  If you need to, slide down in the water a bit.  Slowly, with mindful breathing, rotate the head from side to side.  Do it several times.

Next, press your chin towards your chest.  Hold it for a few moments and release.  As you do this note the stretch for your spine. Youth depends greatly on the suppleness of the spine.

When you decide to finish the bath, use warm water to rinse, splashing it first of the face and then the body.  It will be stimulating for your circulation and finish the cleansing part of the bath.  (Of course you have already soaped down and washed this body you live in!)

Be creative in the water and enjoy the healing properties and the time you have to simply concentrate on YOUR BATH!

“What exactly does that mean?” you may ask.

It means simply that while you may be an expert at managing all the tasks at hand – whether it means completing a report at the office, finishing a term paper, or multi-tasking for three or four school age children, who have different directions to go, you don’t know how to manage yourself!

You may feel an overload of stress and rather overwhelmed, but you make sure everything is done to the best of your ability. The stressors mount and you pile them neatly within your mind, to deal with later, “when you have time”.

The disaster comes when a “trigger” sets of a string of emotions, in motion, and you have not yet to learned to manage you!

Negative stress is DISTRESS.  Distress causes failure.  Overworking and not coping can destroy your life.  We all experience distress from time to time, it is normal, and unavoidable part of living, but long term chronic stress is positively dangerous and can lead to severe mental and physical disability.

The good news is that you are actively seeking help or you wouldn’t be reading this post right now.  That is an excellent beginning.

Follow up with the same kind of plan you would improvise for work, or school, or the family.  Self-management is an essential skill to deal with all your psychological and physical stress.

Take the time to set you own personal goals.  Create clear goals for everything from exercise to nutrition.  Make room for a class in meditation or yoga.

Begin to take “mini-breathing” breaks throughout the day.  Just take a minute or two at your convenience, using deep inhalations and slow exhalations, fully exhaling.  As you inhale think: I am regenerating my oxygen machine.”  As you exhale think:  I am releasing negative and limiting thoughts.”

Stretch just a bit throughout the day, as well.  Simple stretches will do.  Arms overhead, hands clasp and stretching forward, gently rolling the head from shoulder to shoulder, pointing the toes and then pressing them back towards your body – any or all of these will really help keep you more relaxed.

Remember that if you fall apart you won’t be any good for anyone!  All those professional and personal dreams will fade away if you don’t care for you!