Are you really stressed out because you are getting old? (Sometimes there is no gentler way of putting aging into a gentle word). It’s not an easy time.
Perhaps you are caring for an older person and sometimes you feel like deserting them. Caring for someone that is elderly isn’t an easy time either.
Here is the reality of it all. Life doesn’t get easier. That’s a promise! The Golden years was probably a phrase made up by some dweeb who hadn’t reached fifty yet! ” Ahhh” (he or she thought)” to be retired and be able to rest and relax.”
This is not to discourage you – these are just the facts! But there are ways to COMPENSATE for the facts, and still enjoy your LIVES…whether you are the caregiver, or the older citizen.
Your best stress management course of action in either case is to be prepared, MENTALLY. There is only so much you can do about a body as it deteriorates. Though this is the natural way of things.
Stress Management Help for the Elderly
If you are older – it means you are still alive and have the opportunity to enjoy some things in life, and perhaps see a dream or two come true and it’s better than the other option.
As for those young people who seem to treat you like you’ve done something wrong because you are older – just remember,
though we like to step into another person’s shoe to find compassion – it’s impossible to understand your plights until you arrive at the same stage of life. You just have to forgive their lack of character.
There will be young people and people of all ages who will cherish your wisdom and time….if you stay current and keep a sense of humor. Don’t let the “pain” you may have get you down. This is when it’s really important to take a breath and practice using your oxygen to help relieve your pain.
If you are unfamiliar with mindful breathing just check back a few posts ago and begin to practice it. After three or four days of practicing, then do this.
When you inhale, visualize that healing oxygen going directly to whatever area needs it the most. If you have wrenched your knee – send it there. If the arthritis in your neck is painful send it there. If your heart is aching because of an unkindness someone did to you, take a breath and visualize the oxygen going to your brain so you can meld emotion with intellect and not be overpowered with sorrow. Many people find as they age they become more sensitive, so this is important to do.
When you exhale visualize all pain subsiding. Mind over matter can work.
Some people as they age turn sour and negative. This won’t win you any friends or any company to have over for a visit.
So if this is your problem – STOP IT! LEARN AGAIN to smile and remember the next moment of your life could be your last, so make this one count!
Stress Management Help for the Caregiver
If you are the caregiver of an elderly person, just think, you have the power to help make the last years of someone’s life be illuminated with kindness and perhaps, even love. That is a position of honor.
Remember that when you look at an elderly person you are looking at you in the future. Treat him or her, as you will want to be treated when you age.
When your patience wears thin use your mindful breathing techniques to regenerate and relax simultaneously. It works.
When you are about to get angry or ill tempered verbally, use your secret weapon of oxygen and take a moment to inhale.
Think: “I am calm. I can do whatever it takes calmly.”
As you exhale think: “My frustration is leaving me and any negative thoughts.
It only takes a minute to regain your preferred demeanor. Be gentle. The elderly have a mountain of problems to face that they don’t even share with others.
Attitude and health at all ages often deteriorate with lack of nutrition. Make sure good food is available. Too often when an elderly person is alone he or she simply is not motivated to eat. Share time and maybe a meal with someone who is alone the majority of the time.
TRY TO USE OTHER FORMS OF STRESS MANAGEMENT TO AID YOU TOO. THOUGH BREATHING IS NUMBER ONE, AND NUTRITION AND MOVEMENT VERY IMPORTANT, BUT YOU HAVE MANY MORE CHOICES – MASSAGE, YOGA, THERAPY, DISCUSSION GROUPS, ONLINE FORUMS, REFLEXOLOGY AND MORE…..AND REMEMBER, “THIS TOO SHALL PASS.”