This writer began the website with the premise that I would always be truthful about handling stress. Today I’ll prove it.
I never dreamed the day would wind up like this. It began like any other. But one thing about life I know for sure is that you cannot count on things remaining the same, and just as you believe you “have things under control”, another stressor will come to fruition.
I have made many mistakes in this life, as we all do. I know the majority of them and have endeavored to learn and go forth. Apparently something triggered this and what is done, is done.
So where am I going with this? This website is dedicated to teaching stress management techniques that work in crisis. This “problem” is a huge crisis for me, and here is how I am handling it.
No one ever said some stress is not disastrous. No one ever said it couldn’t break your heart – at least for a time.
The first thing I did was to allow myself to cry. The kind of cry that makes you sob long after the tears diminishes. As a matter of fact, I am still weeping after several hours. A good cry washes the eyes and releases all the pent up emotions that are strangling us from within.
I also stopped and used my oxygen to “settle down” and keep my body relaxed, and my mind functioning as optimally as possible.
If you are alone (and I am alone, for a time), remember there is help somewhere. I did hug my puppy. It’s proven that hugging or petting an animal is a great help to calm stress.
If you have a friend, neighbor or relative that you can share with, call them. I said prayers. There are also resources available to help you if you are desperate.
Call your church; look up websites for critical help. Call local organizations that are available for counseling.
I am settled enough now to sit and write this post, and believe it-the writing has actually made me feel better. It has made me quit crying, and settle down. It has diverted my attention to what is in front of me, and not the reality I can do nothing to change this situation right now. I did not react and get mad. I am slowing myself so I will be able to make rational decisions about this problem.
Go for a walk. You can workout at the gym. Diversion can be a lifesaver.
Remember, some things in life YOU will not be able to resolve like you would desire to do so! That’s just the way it is.
Suicide is not an option. It’s actually rather stupid as it
really stops ANYTHING. No healing, no life. It leaves a legacy you probably wouldn’t want to have as people are remembering you.
Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes – they are not the answer. They take away your true self and muddle your thoughts and reactions.
So this is the reality as it is happening to me. You may not be able to change the scenario, but you always have a choice as to your response to it!
I am going to take a few more breaths, close for today, and simply say, YOU CAN HANDLE whatever comes up as a stress factor. I am.
You are not alone either. If you need to do what I am doing by writing, drop me an email and I will respond with the best help I can share!