Category Archives: Stress Relievers

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If you cannot do what you used to do – do what you can.

A good cry washes the eyes and lets loose of sorrow withheld, to begin anew.

If you want to see trust – look in the eyes of your dog.

You cannot heal if you refuse to think you will.

Never listen to words from a man with a heart of stone.

Remember God, and He will remember you.

Stop long enough to say hello to the person standing next to you in line.  You may see an unexpected smile.

A sincere “thank you” is a gift worth more than gold to the receiver.

Did you see the full moon?  Why not?  How many do you have left in your lifetime?

A good memory needs reviewing on occasion..  A bad one should be dismissed – if the lesson was learned.

Begin to see the series of things that happen in your life not as burdens, but as challenges.

For every kind word you speak to an elderly person, your heart enlarges, and your place in eternity is more certain.

Love children, even if they are dirty and have a runny nose, and are not yours.  They are newcomers to this planet and they learn what they see and hear.  They belong to all of us.

Remember we are all human beings, all flawed, and all overburdened in one way or another. Join together as if someone is invading our homes, as if war is imminent, clasp spirits, and then pray for peace, hand to hand and heart to heart.  We are human.  We are earthlings, here to be a family, to protect the planet, and to forgive, and love one another.

Now stretch your arms up, take a breath, and smile.  CREATE a day worth living!

Always find a way to laugh and be happy.  That’s my plan, and I’m sticking to it!

 

 

 

 

What do you think?

Every thought is a seed planted in your mind.  In the mind of us all our thoughts can be cultivated.

If you think, “I know this will be a good day because I will find at least two wonderful things about it” – it will happen!  Likewise, the other direction too; but why even suggest the negative thoughts, as they are in mass all around us.

Nothing is more powerful than YOU, because YOU are the ONLY ONE who can THINK in your mind!

I must reiterate, though, my faith in God – commonly thought of as the “unseen God”.

I see God all around me in the color of the flowers, the breath of the breeze, the laugh of a child, the singing of the little bird that sits outside my window, and in my capacity to THINK, CHOOSE, and LOVE.

I do not chide those who are not familiar with faith, because we are all children “in process” on this planet.  We all learn at our own pace, and we are given the power to make our own choices.  I am no judge of any man.

As we drift back to cultivating thoughts, I believe I will plan my day.  I have no control over most things, but my attitude is one thing I can command.  Today is bursting with demanding paperwork I must work to complete.  I am on a time schedule and so many of the terms in what I am doing are rather unfamiliar to me.

So here is a seed I will plant.  I am going to tackle my work as best I can.  If I get stuck, I may take a break and get a drink of water, or simply stand up and stretch.  I will stop and use my oxygen to think optimally and stretch my neck and fingers and then get back to the task at hand – refreshed.

I always use my oxygen as a secret weapon – and it is.  When stress enters, so does shallow breathing.  You begin to cut off your oxygen supply to your brain, which needs fifty percent more to function optimally!  So breathe!

I plant the seed knowing I will have to stop to take care of other demands that must be met, and I will do it happily, and consider those times refreshing moments to move.

I will end the day stretching as I stand, pat myself on the back for doing what I can, and plan on a quiet evening with my husband, asking how his day was…it will be a great day.

Those are my seeds.  What will you plant for just this day?

Here is a secret.  I already said a prayer and stretched a bit this morning, and I decided to have coffee and write this post.  I love to write, and because I took this time I will start my other “challenges” with a good attitude, having already done something that I love, and something that heads me in the right direction for a WONDERFUL DAY.

CREATE your life-moment by moment.  Get rid of bad seeds and plant only the good ones.  You will be happy you did.  You can handle anything if you just believe you can!

Invisible injuries – Mental and Physical

Invisible injuries

We all have them.  Whether they be mental or physical, they all come with the territory of being human.

The difficult part is NO ONE on planet earth can fully understand what YOU personally may be tackling as far as these unseen or unknown challenges.  No one will ever know one hundred percent.

This is why in order to succeed in life, we must attend to our own “healing” of mind-body-and spirit, and we must forgive those who don’t GET where we are coming from.

It may be the depths of hell to us, but not even within the view of others understanding.

The reason I lay all of this on US is because I am going through those invisible injuries.

I have had a pile of them all my life (off and on) – WE ALL DO.  They are all different and all in different degrees of the need to heal.

Truth be told, NO ONE but YOU can do the healing.  I will add in (because these are MY thoughts, and this is my place to offer up my thoughts), that if you have a belief system beyond yourself, life will be leaps and bounds easier to handle and the mountains less tenuous to climb.

I am fortunate because I have faith that cannot be shaken no matter how difficult my life becomes….and truth be told again, life does not get easier….it gets harder.

BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN you cannot have laughter, and joy, and love, and reap all the rewards we humans still have available.

The key is how you CHOOSE to respond to your own problems, and the tenderness with which you CHOOSE to have understanding and forgiveness of others.  Personally, I can NEVER hold a grudge.  Being unforgiving and judgemental festers inside you like an infected sore.  When you forgive (even if you don’t mean it at first), you begin to heal from within!  REALLY.  You release ugly and negative thoughts, and are able to use your own healing powers for yourself!

Another great way to handle stress of invisible problems is to breathe.  Get plenty of oxygen and your body will “think” better and “feel” better.  It is THE WAY of your body. Think about it.  Slow or stop breathing and what happens?  Less oxygen, less optimal thinking and healing, and ultimately death!  So is it important?  What do you think?

Lastly, I guarantee I have at least thirty to forty things going on within me physically and mentally that no one can ever understanding.  But what I realize is it is UP TO ME to handle it all.  I tried being miserable.  It sucked.  So I gave it up!

You can rise above WHATEVER it is that is aching to pull you down.  Try not to exclusively dwell on the problems.  Divert your own attention by accomplishing tasks that lay before you.  When you feel like a pity party, TAKE A BREATH – think of it like ammo and a secret weapon.  It is.  If you think this is all pie in the sky and just words –

YOU WOULD BE WRONG!

I would not waste my precious moments (and each moment is precious to me), expounding on words with no meaning.  Thoughts with no depth.

So please think about it.  Read this again, and remember:

REPITITION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL LEARNING. SO PRACTICE THESE TECHNIQUES.  THEY ARE FREE AND THEY WORK!

God bless you!

NOT a post regarding NOT drinking alcohol!

This is a post to just say – I know there are plenty of you out there who are able to enjoy a drink or two, and not loose your wits about you, or get drunk!  That is PERFECTLY fine in my humble opinion.

The post last week was just to alert some people who may be unaware of a pending or current problem.  I would not be me if I did not attend to some “stress management” techniques honestly – the upside and the down fal – so to speak!

Hope you had a fantastic weekend!  I really enjoyed just an exceptionally beautiful day.

Sometimes I feel kind of guilty because the weather in this town is lovely most of the time.  My heartfelt prayers go to those who are in terrible scenarios because of the winter weather.

Be careful on the road, and don’t drink and drive (hhaaaahaaa, just had to add that!)

Let’s get on to a bit of stress management magic.  Working with the public can be stressful just because all of us are not able to be happy and relaxed, all of the time.  So it does take practice and finesse to “handle” situations effectively.

We all have a secret weapon within us.  It can be called upon and used no matter what the situation may be.  It is the use of our oxygen.

If you are a person familiar with yoga or lamaze breathing, you have a bit of a head start.

Even though oxgyen is something we take for granted, because we need not think about breathing, and it just happens, our oxygen can be used to refine our “people skills.”

Say you have a nasty customer screaming in your face about something.  You know you have to handle it with decorum, yet you would really like to double up your fist and punch them right in the pie hole!  How do you begin to respond?

First exercise – use your intellect.

  1. Take a deep breath slowly, knowing that moment will allow you to respond more effectively. When we feel stress, our breathing slows and we don’t get a good amount of oxygen to use our brains.  Our muscles begin to tighten up, and our response may fly out of our mouths without much thought behind the words.
  2. Speak calmly and actually with a lower voice than you might normally use.  Yelling back only excalates.  The client will have to be calmer in order to hear you.  By taking a couple of breaths before speaking you will have a chance to let them calm down and reply with words of your choice, not reaction words.
  3. Suggest there must be a way to resolve the dilema, even if you don’t know how right at the moment.
  4. Then proceed calmly, taking charge of what could have been a scenario that was out of control.

It sounds too simple, I know.  You may think some situations cannot be handled this way, but in all the years I have known about this secret weapon, I have NEVER come across a circumstance that I could not handle effectively.  This is honest!  Pretty high record, eh?

I also pray.  Prayer is my most powerful ally, even if I don’t always SEEM to get the answer I wanted!

So there it is, and IT WORKS!  You can learn to use your oxygen to be your secret weapon.  If it sounds too simple, to silly (perhaps), really think about it.

When you get oxygen to the brain (which requires fifty percent more than the rest of the body to function optimally), you will respond more effectively.  You will keep your neck and shoulders from tightening up and causing yourself unnecessary pain.  You will have more relaxed energy.  There are many other benefits.

Think about it.  Your oxygen is something you cannot live for long without it.  You can refine it and learn to use it in way you never dreamed.  Why not?

Think about it.  Would it be bettter to slow your breathing because of stress, or make your breathing your secret weapon?  It is always with you, and it is free.

Have an outstanding day.  You might as well take a few mindful plugs of oxygen when you finish this post.  CREATE it.

PAIN IS NOT THE BOSS!

Are you having a bad pain day?  Physically?  Mentally?

Join the crowd.  Believe it or not, it is RARE for any human being to make it through a week without some kind of “pain”.

PAIN:  physical or mental suffering or discomfort.  Agony, torture, ache, throb, sting, torment, hurt, twinge. Bother, effort, sadden, grieve, distress, perturb, oppress, and more…..

Whether used as a noun or a verb, pain is a word we are all too familiar with, and that is for certain.

“Is there any way to get rid of pain?” you might ask.  The answer is not a simple yes or no.  I wish it were, as it would make everyone’s lives so much easier to live.

Here is the answer we all want to hear:  YES, some pain will go away.  For instance, if you twist your ankle – within time and the right treatment and the pain will go away.  There are many instances in which pain will diminish and disappear.

Now, here is the harsh truth no one wants to hear:  some pain will never go away.  The physical pain of a wound or injury can dissipate with healing.  Down the road,  however, our human body “may” suffer residual effects from injuries early in your life.  Arthritis may affect you as you reach retirement age.  There is no guarantee either way.  You may suffer pangs of memory of the earlier injuries or wound with a weakness – or you may not!

That’s life!  No guarantees!

As far as pain from a divorce, or the pain from the agony of a bad breakup or sadness of the loss of someone you love, AGAIN, there are no guarantees how long you will suffer mentally from those incidents.

So what is the point of this post?  I can tell you from A VAST ARRAY OF BOTH PHYSICAL AND MENTAL over a lifetime, there are ways to put pain on a back burner and not on a pedestal!

USE YOUR BRAINS!  Switch from the emotion of pain to your intellect!  As I have said to a few people when they asked how I have handled all that has happened to me, I just tell them ‘I AM MENTAL!”  I am.

Not unstable, not crazy (except in a good way), but mental in the way that I learned long ago to switch from emotion to intellect, and THEN REACT to your pain.  Emotion sometimes makes us hang on to feelings that should be long gone.  And, I know from personal experience, that we humans are MUCH STRONGER and MORE CAPABLE than we usually give ourselves credit for; perhaps in some people,  it is just not knowing how much we can handle.

I am only able to spend a bit more time on this post today, but as a beginning, here are some tips to handle mental and physical pain.

1.  Use your oxygen.  When we feel any pain it is a natural response to slow or stop good breathing.  We cut off our oxygen supply that is needed to be intelligent and make the best choices.  Breathing can be your secret weapon.  If its good enough to help women through childbirth (and I’ve had three children), it surely is good enough to help all of us begin to be in charge of our PAIN.

2.  Do not believe what anybody tells you about how your pain will be terrible and forever. That is BS.  Do not be overwhelmed by anyone else’s opinion, even the “practicing physician”.

  1. Think in terms of” I can and I will” whatever – when we think we create brain cell impressions and we actually begin a path of becoming wheoever we think we are!
  2. Be realistic.  I KNOW without a doubt that I have to deal with some residual effects of a major surgery that had last May.  It is a LONG story, but because of some really careless and negligent health “professionals” I believe nerve roots were killed, and not just damaged.  Therein, I must learn to live with some changes that absolutely drove me nuts at first.  I must also live with some pain.  I have accepted it, and am moving onward and upward.

No body says it is easy to use your wits instead of falling on your emotions, but it is easier than you may think.  We are creatures of habit.  If you get into the habit of thinking and living certain ways, you can REALLY improve the quality of your life.  It may be a challenge at first, but we humans are way stronger than we can even imagine.  We are made to survive!

I do have to close to begin dinner for my hubby, but lastly I need to mention, if you believe in God, believe in the power that is available to you through prayer.  That is my greatest defender and healer.  If you don’t believe in God, then for goodness sake, say a pray to heal anyway once in a while.  It can’t hurt – right?

CREATE your life.  Create your healing.  It can be done!  Just keep thinking that you are “mental” – in a good way!  If you ever want to know my “challenges” to see where I am coming from, let me knowm and I will share at sometime.  But what is important now is HEAL, BABY, HEAL!  For yourself, for your family, and because life is just lots more fun when you are the captain of your ship.

 

 

 

 

Familiar with this word?

INCREMENTS: increase, addition, supplement, gain, augmentation.

These are but a few definitions of the word “increments”.  I am not a dictionary, but I love words, and sometimes I think the right words can be useful as well as beautiful.

I need to remember this word.  When a person is injured, or has a specific procedure to correct something, or even an emergency operation, this word is very important.

It takes only a second for one of these things to occur or begin, but it takes a vast amount of time for ANY human body to heal.  For even those who are in good health, the healing must come in increments!

I often forget that.  My mental energy level is one hundred percent, yet my healing, as any other human, takes a certain amount of time to happen.  Even with a great attitude, or a fit body, HEALING IS A PROCESS IN THE HUMAN BODY.

We are a society of instant gratification.  The human body is a living organization with perimeters that include a certain amount of time to regenerate and heal.

Of course this varies with each person; nonetheless, TIME is a major factor in healing.

My husband reminded me of that this morning.  He heard me let out a little moan (unbeknowns to me at the time) and he said, “Overdoing are we?”

I had to admit it. So now I am resting with pillows under my legs, and laptop on my tummy.  Please take time to heal properly.

A perfect example of getting NEGATIVE results from rushing is when I sprained my ankle years ago.  I had just opened a fitness studio and had no teachers hired at that point.  So merrily I taught two classes of high intensity aerobics, four days a week.  I just iced my ankle and night, and wrapped it during the day.

DUH!

Today, over thirty years later I still pay a price for being so silly.  My ankle swells fairly regularly, and it twists easily into a painful scenario.

PLEASE take your time.  YOU ONLY HAVE ONE PLACE TO LIVE, AND THAT IS YOUR BODY!  Treat it like your most precious item.  If you don’t take time for your healing, all your responsibilities and dreams will fall by the wayside with some perilious results.  YOU ARE WORTH TAKING TIME TO HEAL!

Create a beautiful day and God bless!

 

 

WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU A PILE OF DIRT VIA A HARDBALL IN THE FACE….

Just think how important you are that you are offered challenges of a lifetime!Does that sound strange?  Maybe so, but I have had my face covered in dirt, and delivered like a hardball slamming into my face with might and a sting.Guess what?  I am still here.For eight months I have been dealing with recovering from a burst compression fracture and major surgery-one that only happened because of the neglect of two physicians, and two physicians and two neurosurgeons.

On top of it, just before this travesty I was supposed to have two individual total hip replacements ( they will only operate on one at a time), as my hips are bone to bone.  Because of the fusion of my back I have been unable to have that done, and I am barely walking around at the moment. I actually called my doctor to get a wheelchair (and wrote her a note) three days ago.  Told her I needed it asap.  Nothing!Just as a perfect finish (I hope) to these challenges, I found two days ago I needed to have a tooth, one of my “chewers” removed.  Had a serious swelling and it was necessary.  Oh drat, I just finished paying fiftenn hundred dollars to have a root canal and a cap on that very tooth!  To have it removed was only a thousand cash, and in return I am minus a tooth and have a very swollen and painful face.Photo 1

This is me with a towel and an ice pack.  You wouldn’t want to see the swelling.

Right now I am laying down to rest.  Writing is a good part of my sanity.  What are the (must be) multiple stress management tricks to keep my wits about me.  There could be a sub-list under the major stress management technique, but basically to manage ANY traumas or scenarios, you must FIRST manage your response!  Life really is in charge of us, but one thing we have control of one hundred percent is our ATTITUDE, and therein, our RESPONSE to life.  WE HAVE A CHOICE.  We always have the choice to make the best of things, or throw in the towel.I am not much at throwing towels – no giving up!  Granted, I am fortunate to believe in God and His being there for me, during the good and the bad times.  I am fortunate enough to NOT blame God, but to realize life is what it is.  We may never know the “why” of things, but we must always realize, we still have one hundred percent control of how to accept and respond to any challenge. I also know I have an edge as I have been teaching stress management for years and really believe in the powers we have been given.  I TRIED BEING MISERABLE!

IT SUCKED, SO I GAVE IT UP!  Literally.

It may take you time to develop the habit of controlling your attitude in response to life, but I guarantee you that if you can change this one habit from a negative attitude, to a positive attitude, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE IN WAYS YOU NEVER DREAMED –  IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS.Think about it seriously.  It’s not always a piece of cake, but you always have the choice to take that scenario and turn it into something you can at least, handle! CREATE a beautiful life. YOU ARE WORTH IT. I off to do my best at whatever comes next.