Category Archives: The Magic

Got no clue of where to go from here? Then just read this short post for fun

If you cannot do what you used to do – do what you can.

A good cry washes the eyes and lets loose of sorrow withheld, to begin anew.

If you want to see trust – look in the eyes of your dog.

You cannot heal if you refuse to think you will.

Never listen to words from a man with a heart of stone.

Remember God, and He will remember you.

Stop long enough to say hello to the person standing next to you in line.  You may see an unexpected smile.

A sincere “thank you” is a gift worth more than gold to the receiver.

Did you see the full moon?  Why not?  How many do you have left in your lifetime?

A good memory needs reviewing on occasion..  A bad one should be dismissed – if the lesson was learned.

Begin to see the series of things that happen in your life not as burdens, but as challenges.

For every kind word you speak to an elderly person, your heart enlarges, and your place in eternity is more certain.

Love children, even if they are dirty and have a runny nose, and are not yours.  They are newcomers to this planet and they learn what they see and hear.  They belong to all of us.

Remember we are all human beings, all flawed, and all overburdened in one way or another. Join together as if someone is invading our homes, as if war is imminent, clasp spirits, and then pray for peace, hand to hand and heart to heart.  We are human.  We are earthlings, here to be a family, to protect the planet, and to forgive, and love one another.

Now stretch your arms up, take a breath, and smile.  CREATE a day worth living!

Always find a way to laugh and be happy.  That’s my plan, and I’m sticking to it!

 

 

 

 

Invisible injuries – Mental and Physical

Invisible injuries

We all have them.  Whether they be mental or physical, they all come with the territory of being human.

The difficult part is NO ONE on planet earth can fully understand what YOU personally may be tackling as far as these unseen or unknown challenges.  No one will ever know one hundred percent.

This is why in order to succeed in life, we must attend to our own “healing” of mind-body-and spirit, and we must forgive those who don’t GET where we are coming from.

It may be the depths of hell to us, but not even within the view of others understanding.

The reason I lay all of this on US is because I am going through those invisible injuries.

I have had a pile of them all my life (off and on) – WE ALL DO.  They are all different and all in different degrees of the need to heal.

Truth be told, NO ONE but YOU can do the healing.  I will add in (because these are MY thoughts, and this is my place to offer up my thoughts), that if you have a belief system beyond yourself, life will be leaps and bounds easier to handle and the mountains less tenuous to climb.

I am fortunate because I have faith that cannot be shaken no matter how difficult my life becomes….and truth be told again, life does not get easier….it gets harder.

BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN you cannot have laughter, and joy, and love, and reap all the rewards we humans still have available.

The key is how you CHOOSE to respond to your own problems, and the tenderness with which you CHOOSE to have understanding and forgiveness of others.  Personally, I can NEVER hold a grudge.  Being unforgiving and judgemental festers inside you like an infected sore.  When you forgive (even if you don’t mean it at first), you begin to heal from within!  REALLY.  You release ugly and negative thoughts, and are able to use your own healing powers for yourself!

Another great way to handle stress of invisible problems is to breathe.  Get plenty of oxygen and your body will “think” better and “feel” better.  It is THE WAY of your body. Think about it.  Slow or stop breathing and what happens?  Less oxygen, less optimal thinking and healing, and ultimately death!  So is it important?  What do you think?

Lastly, I guarantee I have at least thirty to forty things going on within me physically and mentally that no one can ever understanding.  But what I realize is it is UP TO ME to handle it all.  I tried being miserable.  It sucked.  So I gave it up!

You can rise above WHATEVER it is that is aching to pull you down.  Try not to exclusively dwell on the problems.  Divert your own attention by accomplishing tasks that lay before you.  When you feel like a pity party, TAKE A BREATH – think of it like ammo and a secret weapon.  It is.  If you think this is all pie in the sky and just words –

YOU WOULD BE WRONG!

I would not waste my precious moments (and each moment is precious to me), expounding on words with no meaning.  Thoughts with no depth.

So please think about it.  Read this again, and remember:

REPITITION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL LEARNING. SO PRACTICE THESE TECHNIQUES.  THEY ARE FREE AND THEY WORK!

God bless you!

NOT a post regarding NOT drinking alcohol!

This is a post to just say – I know there are plenty of you out there who are able to enjoy a drink or two, and not loose your wits about you, or get drunk!  That is PERFECTLY fine in my humble opinion.

The post last week was just to alert some people who may be unaware of a pending or current problem.  I would not be me if I did not attend to some “stress management” techniques honestly – the upside and the down fal – so to speak!

Hope you had a fantastic weekend!  I really enjoyed just an exceptionally beautiful day.

Sometimes I feel kind of guilty because the weather in this town is lovely most of the time.  My heartfelt prayers go to those who are in terrible scenarios because of the winter weather.

Be careful on the road, and don’t drink and drive (hhaaaahaaa, just had to add that!)

Let’s get on to a bit of stress management magic.  Working with the public can be stressful just because all of us are not able to be happy and relaxed, all of the time.  So it does take practice and finesse to “handle” situations effectively.

We all have a secret weapon within us.  It can be called upon and used no matter what the situation may be.  It is the use of our oxygen.

If you are a person familiar with yoga or lamaze breathing, you have a bit of a head start.

Even though oxgyen is something we take for granted, because we need not think about breathing, and it just happens, our oxygen can be used to refine our “people skills.”

Say you have a nasty customer screaming in your face about something.  You know you have to handle it with decorum, yet you would really like to double up your fist and punch them right in the pie hole!  How do you begin to respond?

First exercise – use your intellect.

  1. Take a deep breath slowly, knowing that moment will allow you to respond more effectively. When we feel stress, our breathing slows and we don’t get a good amount of oxygen to use our brains.  Our muscles begin to tighten up, and our response may fly out of our mouths without much thought behind the words.
  2. Speak calmly and actually with a lower voice than you might normally use.  Yelling back only excalates.  The client will have to be calmer in order to hear you.  By taking a couple of breaths before speaking you will have a chance to let them calm down and reply with words of your choice, not reaction words.
  3. Suggest there must be a way to resolve the dilema, even if you don’t know how right at the moment.
  4. Then proceed calmly, taking charge of what could have been a scenario that was out of control.

It sounds too simple, I know.  You may think some situations cannot be handled this way, but in all the years I have known about this secret weapon, I have NEVER come across a circumstance that I could not handle effectively.  This is honest!  Pretty high record, eh?

I also pray.  Prayer is my most powerful ally, even if I don’t always SEEM to get the answer I wanted!

So there it is, and IT WORKS!  You can learn to use your oxygen to be your secret weapon.  If it sounds too simple, to silly (perhaps), really think about it.

When you get oxygen to the brain (which requires fifty percent more than the rest of the body to function optimally), you will respond more effectively.  You will keep your neck and shoulders from tightening up and causing yourself unnecessary pain.  You will have more relaxed energy.  There are many other benefits.

Think about it.  Your oxygen is something you cannot live for long without it.  You can refine it and learn to use it in way you never dreamed.  Why not?

Think about it.  Would it be bettter to slow your breathing because of stress, or make your breathing your secret weapon?  It is always with you, and it is free.

Have an outstanding day.  You might as well take a few mindful plugs of oxygen when you finish this post.  CREATE it.

PAIN IS NOT THE BOSS!

Are you having a bad pain day?  Physically?  Mentally?

Join the crowd.  Believe it or not, it is RARE for any human being to make it through a week without some kind of “pain”.

PAIN:  physical or mental suffering or discomfort.  Agony, torture, ache, throb, sting, torment, hurt, twinge. Bother, effort, sadden, grieve, distress, perturb, oppress, and more…..

Whether used as a noun or a verb, pain is a word we are all too familiar with, and that is for certain.

“Is there any way to get rid of pain?” you might ask.  The answer is not a simple yes or no.  I wish it were, as it would make everyone’s lives so much easier to live.

Here is the answer we all want to hear:  YES, some pain will go away.  For instance, if you twist your ankle – within time and the right treatment and the pain will go away.  There are many instances in which pain will diminish and disappear.

Now, here is the harsh truth no one wants to hear:  some pain will never go away.  The physical pain of a wound or injury can dissipate with healing.  Down the road,  however, our human body “may” suffer residual effects from injuries early in your life.  Arthritis may affect you as you reach retirement age.  There is no guarantee either way.  You may suffer pangs of memory of the earlier injuries or wound with a weakness – or you may not!

That’s life!  No guarantees!

As far as pain from a divorce, or the pain from the agony of a bad breakup or sadness of the loss of someone you love, AGAIN, there are no guarantees how long you will suffer mentally from those incidents.

So what is the point of this post?  I can tell you from A VAST ARRAY OF BOTH PHYSICAL AND MENTAL over a lifetime, there are ways to put pain on a back burner and not on a pedestal!

USE YOUR BRAINS!  Switch from the emotion of pain to your intellect!  As I have said to a few people when they asked how I have handled all that has happened to me, I just tell them ‘I AM MENTAL!”  I am.

Not unstable, not crazy (except in a good way), but mental in the way that I learned long ago to switch from emotion to intellect, and THEN REACT to your pain.  Emotion sometimes makes us hang on to feelings that should be long gone.  And, I know from personal experience, that we humans are MUCH STRONGER and MORE CAPABLE than we usually give ourselves credit for; perhaps in some people,  it is just not knowing how much we can handle.

I am only able to spend a bit more time on this post today, but as a beginning, here are some tips to handle mental and physical pain.

1.  Use your oxygen.  When we feel any pain it is a natural response to slow or stop good breathing.  We cut off our oxygen supply that is needed to be intelligent and make the best choices.  Breathing can be your secret weapon.  If its good enough to help women through childbirth (and I’ve had three children), it surely is good enough to help all of us begin to be in charge of our PAIN.

2.  Do not believe what anybody tells you about how your pain will be terrible and forever. That is BS.  Do not be overwhelmed by anyone else’s opinion, even the “practicing physician”.

  1. Think in terms of” I can and I will” whatever – when we think we create brain cell impressions and we actually begin a path of becoming wheoever we think we are!
  2. Be realistic.  I KNOW without a doubt that I have to deal with some residual effects of a major surgery that had last May.  It is a LONG story, but because of some really careless and negligent health “professionals” I believe nerve roots were killed, and not just damaged.  Therein, I must learn to live with some changes that absolutely drove me nuts at first.  I must also live with some pain.  I have accepted it, and am moving onward and upward.

No body says it is easy to use your wits instead of falling on your emotions, but it is easier than you may think.  We are creatures of habit.  If you get into the habit of thinking and living certain ways, you can REALLY improve the quality of your life.  It may be a challenge at first, but we humans are way stronger than we can even imagine.  We are made to survive!

I do have to close to begin dinner for my hubby, but lastly I need to mention, if you believe in God, believe in the power that is available to you through prayer.  That is my greatest defender and healer.  If you don’t believe in God, then for goodness sake, say a pray to heal anyway once in a while.  It can’t hurt – right?

CREATE your life.  Create your healing.  It can be done!  Just keep thinking that you are “mental” – in a good way!  If you ever want to know my “challenges” to see where I am coming from, let me knowm and I will share at sometime.  But what is important now is HEAL, BABY, HEAL!  For yourself, for your family, and because life is just lots more fun when you are the captain of your ship.

 

 

 

 

FAST TIPS

Here’s some pretty up front stress management techniques:

 Stop wallowing in the slop and feeling sorry for yourself and get up and do something!  It’s been a rough day.  I presume it’s been a rough day for lots of people.  I would give a million dollars, if I had it, or all that I had, to be where I was last Janurary 4th and not step off the path and fall.  My life is changed forever.

 But combine that mistep with some inept doctors and here it is – a done deal.

I have accepted that.  I am adapting to all that I will never be able to do again, and now that I am six months after the surgery – I have to reappraise my goals and my own destiny.

 

 We all have choices to make.  That first piece of advice was for me too.  Waa waa I have it so rough.  Well, I do, but I also have it so good.  I have a warm bed to sleep in, and there are people that love me.  I am able to pet my dog, drive my car, and sit in the warm sunlight.  My husband accepts my disabilities and that is huge! 

 

 So with this little pep talk I will finish the thoughts of this post and get up and do something. No one can change your life except YOU.  You can be the master of your destiny, at least in response to life.  Choose well as you never know when things will change – and that you can be sure of – change.

 

 

 Second up front piece of advice.  STOP YELLING AND SCREAMING AND ARGUING.  IT IS ANNOYING, IT IS USELESS, AND IT RESOLVES NOTHING.

I find arguments heat up when alcohol is involved, so make a point of NOT fighting when drinking.  That is VERY URGENT.  Alcohol causes violence that in turn cause unforgiveable acts.

 

 It wasn’t the industralization of man that is the ruination of man.  It is the rampid and increasingly acceptable level of alcohol that is consumed by man.Besides, even without alcohol – yelling and screaming and fighting is just the biggest waste of time ever!  We could all die in the next five minutes by some horrific incident.

I am going out smiling!  Don’t waste your time, and don’t diminish someone else by screaming useless things,  you probably don’t mean, in their faces.

 

 

TAKE A TIME OUT.  Most things people fight over are VERY unimportant- many people can’t even remember why they fought in the first place.  Take a time out or walk away.  Don’t open your mouth if it’s not worthy of you! 

 

How to apply “stress management” to a difficult situation

I remember tossing and turning last night.  I could not get comfortable because the pain in my hips and back was too intense.

When I awoke I found it difficult to move.  It was more difficult to get behind myself and push myself to the edge of the bed.  My feet and ankles are so out of my control since the accident and surgery.  They are numb, they hurt, and they won’t listen to what my brain tells them to do! Well, they do partially – and I thank God for that.

I fight using the walker.  It has been five and a half months since the surgery.  I use it anyway as I need the balance for my drop foot, and both my hips are so “bone on bone”, the pain is far to intense to trust my legs to carry me.

With physical therapy I am strengthening my arms and I can see and feel the difference.

They now have become my strongest of body parts, and not my legs.  I thank God we have choices and can use our wits to use our bodies as best we can.

I AM NOT COMPLAINING, though it may sound like it.  I am grateful!  I found myself smiling when I brought the dog a treat.  I do still have so many blessings.  I believe one of the most wonderful gifts is the ability to change my habits.  We all have that gift.

I could wallow in pain and despair, but WHY?  That certainly isn’t fun, and I intend to use the rest of my life to hunt for, and put into action, the reasons I am still supposed to be living and breathing!  I still love being ALIVE.

Call me crazy, but aren’t we all?  Already, because of the ‘habits” I’ve cultivated, the prayers I say daily (THY will be do….) I naturally FEEL BETTER THAN I DID twenty minutes ago.

I HAVE OPPORTUNITY.  I HAVE INTELLECT (well, a smattering of it).  I HAVE LOVE, and am also ready to RECEIVE ANY LOVE bestowed upon me. I HAVE THE CHOICE TO MAKE MY LIFE ONE OF HAPPINESS AND PROSPERITY! I could go on and on and on, but I want to finish and post this right away, in case you have a minute to “read me” this morning.

My husband asks, “How is it that you love and care about people you have never met, and probably will never meet?

I answered him.  “All I know is that I believe we were born to worship God, as each of us know Him and allow Him to direct us.  I believe that we are all born earthlings, and all share the same capacity for LOVE.  We all feel hunger and sorrow, and pain.  We all

SHOULD, and CAN, feel happiness and strive for what is just in this world…for what is good and kind.  If that is sappy, then call me a sap.

When someone hurts, I share the pain.  When someone hungers, half way across the world, I pray and have hope for the hunger and suffering end.  I really do care.”

With that being said, I send LOVE and part of my unending positive energy and healing to whomever hasn’t yet discovered that we have a power source within that can regenerate all the days of our lives.

PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT.  Use your gifts – whatever they may be – and if you don’t know yours, start a search to explore yourself and begin to share with others.  The sharing alone will begin to heal you.  Even the tinest kindness to someone will bring a healing to you.

I find my pain more tolerable this morning now that I’ve done my best to connect with you and share some of the innate joy (and cultivated positive attitude) I have.

CREATE a day of beauty and love, no matter what the circumstance.  Remember, YOU ALWAYS have a choice of how to respond to ANY SCENARIO.  I am confident, if you take a few mindful breaths, stretch for a few moments, and smile simply because you know someone here REALLY CARES!  I am SURE there are others that do too!!

Blessings and love to you all.