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If you cannot do what you used to do – do what you can.

A good cry washes the eyes and lets loose of sorrow withheld, to begin anew.

If you want to see trust – look in the eyes of your dog.

You cannot heal if you refuse to think you will.

Never listen to words from a man with a heart of stone.

Remember God, and He will remember you.

Stop long enough to say hello to the person standing next to you in line.  You may see an unexpected smile.

A sincere “thank you” is a gift worth more than gold to the receiver.

Did you see the full moon?  Why not?  How many do you have left in your lifetime?

A good memory needs reviewing on occasion..  A bad one should be dismissed – if the lesson was learned.

Begin to see the series of things that happen in your life not as burdens, but as challenges.

For every kind word you speak to an elderly person, your heart enlarges, and your place in eternity is more certain.

Love children, even if they are dirty and have a runny nose, and are not yours.  They are newcomers to this planet and they learn what they see and hear.  They belong to all of us.

Remember we are all human beings, all flawed, and all overburdened in one way or another. Join together as if someone is invading our homes, as if war is imminent, clasp spirits, and then pray for peace, hand to hand and heart to heart.  We are human.  We are earthlings, here to be a family, to protect the planet, and to forgive, and love one another.

Now stretch your arms up, take a breath, and smile.  CREATE a day worth living!

Always find a way to laugh and be happy.  That’s my plan, and I’m sticking to it!





What do you think?

Every thought is a seed planted in your mind.  In the mind of us all our thoughts can be cultivated.

If you think, “I know this will be a good day because I will find at least two wonderful things about it” – it will happen!  Likewise, the other direction too; but why even suggest the negative thoughts, as they are in mass all around us.

Nothing is more powerful than YOU, because YOU are the ONLY ONE who can THINK in your mind!

I must reiterate, though, my faith in God – commonly thought of as the “unseen God”.

I see God all around me in the color of the flowers, the breath of the breeze, the laugh of a child, the singing of the little bird that sits outside my window, and in my capacity to THINK, CHOOSE, and LOVE.

I do not chide those who are not familiar with faith, because we are all children “in process” on this planet.  We all learn at our own pace, and we are given the power to make our own choices.  I am no judge of any man.

As we drift back to cultivating thoughts, I believe I will plan my day.  I have no control over most things, but my attitude is one thing I can command.  Today is bursting with demanding paperwork I must work to complete.  I am on a time schedule and so many of the terms in what I am doing are rather unfamiliar to me.

So here is a seed I will plant.  I am going to tackle my work as best I can.  If I get stuck, I may take a break and get a drink of water, or simply stand up and stretch.  I will stop and use my oxygen to think optimally and stretch my neck and fingers and then get back to the task at hand – refreshed.

I always use my oxygen as a secret weapon – and it is.  When stress enters, so does shallow breathing.  You begin to cut off your oxygen supply to your brain, which needs fifty percent more to function optimally!  So breathe!

I plant the seed knowing I will have to stop to take care of other demands that must be met, and I will do it happily, and consider those times refreshing moments to move.

I will end the day stretching as I stand, pat myself on the back for doing what I can, and plan on a quiet evening with my husband, asking how his day was…it will be a great day.

Those are my seeds.  What will you plant for just this day?

Here is a secret.  I already said a prayer and stretched a bit this morning, and I decided to have coffee and write this post.  I love to write, and because I took this time I will start my other “challenges” with a good attitude, having already done something that I love, and something that heads me in the right direction for a WONDERFUL DAY.

CREATE your life-moment by moment.  Get rid of bad seeds and plant only the good ones.  You will be happy you did.  You can handle anything if you just believe you can!


Just think how important you are that you are offered challenges of a lifetime!Does that sound strange?  Maybe so, but I have had my face covered in dirt, and delivered like a hardball slamming into my face with might and a sting.Guess what?  I am still here.For eight months I have been dealing with recovering from a burst compression fracture and major surgery-one that only happened because of the neglect of two physicians, and two physicians and two neurosurgeons.

On top of it, just before this travesty I was supposed to have two individual total hip replacements ( they will only operate on one at a time), as my hips are bone to bone.  Because of the fusion of my back I have been unable to have that done, and I am barely walking around at the moment. I actually called my doctor to get a wheelchair (and wrote her a note) three days ago.  Told her I needed it asap.  Nothing!Just as a perfect finish (I hope) to these challenges, I found two days ago I needed to have a tooth, one of my “chewers” removed.  Had a serious swelling and it was necessary.  Oh drat, I just finished paying fiftenn hundred dollars to have a root canal and a cap on that very tooth!  To have it removed was only a thousand cash, and in return I am minus a tooth and have a very swollen and painful face.Photo 1

This is me with a towel and an ice pack.  You wouldn’t want to see the swelling.

Right now I am laying down to rest.  Writing is a good part of my sanity.  What are the (must be) multiple stress management tricks to keep my wits about me.  There could be a sub-list under the major stress management technique, but basically to manage ANY traumas or scenarios, you must FIRST manage your response!  Life really is in charge of us, but one thing we have control of one hundred percent is our ATTITUDE, and therein, our RESPONSE to life.  WE HAVE A CHOICE.  We always have the choice to make the best of things, or throw in the towel.I am not much at throwing towels – no giving up!  Granted, I am fortunate to believe in God and His being there for me, during the good and the bad times.  I am fortunate enough to NOT blame God, but to realize life is what it is.  We may never know the “why” of things, but we must always realize, we still have one hundred percent control of how to accept and respond to any challenge. I also know I have an edge as I have been teaching stress management for years and really believe in the powers we have been given.  I TRIED BEING MISERABLE!


It may take you time to develop the habit of controlling your attitude in response to life, but I guarantee you that if you can change this one habit from a negative attitude, to a positive attitude, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE IN WAYS YOU NEVER DREAMED –  IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS.Think about it seriously.  It’s not always a piece of cake, but you always have the choice to take that scenario and turn it into something you can at least, handle! CREATE a beautiful life. YOU ARE WORTH IT. I off to do my best at whatever comes next. 







Here’s some pretty up front stress management techniques:

 Stop wallowing in the slop and feeling sorry for yourself and get up and do something!  It’s been a rough day.  I presume it’s been a rough day for lots of people.  I would give a million dollars, if I had it, or all that I had, to be where I was last Janurary 4th and not step off the path and fall.  My life is changed forever.

 But combine that mistep with some inept doctors and here it is – a done deal.

I have accepted that.  I am adapting to all that I will never be able to do again, and now that I am six months after the surgery – I have to reappraise my goals and my own destiny.


 We all have choices to make.  That first piece of advice was for me too.  Waa waa I have it so rough.  Well, I do, but I also have it so good.  I have a warm bed to sleep in, and there are people that love me.  I am able to pet my dog, drive my car, and sit in the warm sunlight.  My husband accepts my disabilities and that is huge! 


 So with this little pep talk I will finish the thoughts of this post and get up and do something. No one can change your life except YOU.  You can be the master of your destiny, at least in response to life.  Choose well as you never know when things will change – and that you can be sure of – change.




I find arguments heat up when alcohol is involved, so make a point of NOT fighting when drinking.  That is VERY URGENT.  Alcohol causes violence that in turn cause unforgiveable acts.


 It wasn’t the industralization of man that is the ruination of man.  It is the rampid and increasingly acceptable level of alcohol that is consumed by man.Besides, even without alcohol – yelling and screaming and fighting is just the biggest waste of time ever!  We could all die in the next five minutes by some horrific incident.

I am going out smiling!  Don’t waste your time, and don’t diminish someone else by screaming useless things,  you probably don’t mean, in their faces.



TAKE A TIME OUT.  Most things people fight over are VERY unimportant- many people can’t even remember why they fought in the first place.  Take a time out or walk away.  Don’t open your mouth if it’s not worthy of you! 


Do this Now

Take a moment to regenerate.  Begin to free your thoughts from tension.  Start with the top of your head and feel the muscles of your scalp and forehead relax.  Take a breath, inhaling through the nose, and exhaling through the mouth, and actually feel you begin to relax and let go of tension.

Let your eyes relax.  You use them every waking moment.  Close them for a moment and rub your fingertips together until they begin to get warm – then place them gently on your eyes for a moment.  Now open your eyes and blink several times.

If you are 50 or older, begin to use “tears” or some other lubricant for your eyes.  The fluid begins to dry and the drop will help immensely, especially for those who sit at the computer all day long.

Now let your jaw and tongue relax.  Actually feel them relax.  Continue with your shoulders, then your arms and hands, your back, your chest, your abdomen, your thighs and legs and feet.

To help you continue to relax each set of muscles say to them silently: relax and let go.
Work on every area of your body temple until you feel that each muscles is thoroughly relaxed.  This relaxation can be done in two mindful minutes (a break at work to refresh and regenerate), or after you go home.

It may require some time before you relax completely.  But you can learn to relax in mind and body, remembering to gently remind each set of muscles to relax.  It may seem too simple to really work, but trust me, I have seen miracles wrought in stress management just by beginning with this simple relaxation.

Do it every hour for a minute or two, on your breaks, every four hours, or when you get home – but BE SURE TO DO IT.  If you are seeking true stress management, and I believe that is why you are here, it begins with you, and it can begin now.

What can be simpler?  Your own personal relaxation at no cost except a precious few minutes that can change your life.  CREATE your life, and God bless you!

Quick tips to Manage Intense Pain and Stress (A bit longer post, but worth it!)

This post will be brief, but I think it VERY important in the arena of stress management.

You may not know “my story”, but for now (see my positive attitude), I am fairly disabled.

When I awoke I wasn’t certain which part of my body hurt the worst, or if I would even be able to walk today, with the help of the walker.

It doesn’t matter if I tell you ALL that is wrong with me, but what matters is the managing of stress and pain.  I am an expert at that!  Twenty plus years as a trainer gave me the best gifts.  I use what I taught, and it has changed my life – even to this very day.

My first power source, and I must tell you, will always be my faith.   I keep my faith strong no matter what happens, and I will never blame God for tragedy.  We are humans with free with free will, time and circumstance and the results of our “choices” lay directly in our hands.

Genetics may play a part, but again, it’s not what we have in our hands, but what we do with it.

The first thing to do when you feel can’t do anything is to pray.  I don’t care if you pray to the wind.  Find something bigger than yourself and plea for healing, courage, and determination.  The wind will carry your pleas to a higher source, which loves us all!  I prayed to God.

The second thing to do is DIVERT YOUR OWN ATTENTION AWAY FROM THE PAIN AND DISABILITY.  I admit I have access to pain medication – but I am in charge of it – not the meds in charge of me.  It takes an hour to relieve some pain, and so I ate a bowl of cereal so I wouldn’t get sick.

Three weeks ago I quit taking ANY oxycotin!  I did it on my own.  I knew it would take “balls”, so I borrowed my husbands! (heehee).  I am now in the process of weaning off the minimal amount of percecot I still take.  I know for a while I must continue some, as one of my problems is both hips are so “bone on bone” I am grating new hip sockets.  Without a bit of meds I really would be unable to walk until I get new hips…. but first I have to heal from the other disability I’ve been handed by poor medical care.

Anyway, to make this a post, and not a book, I will try to be brief.

1.  Pray.  At least be still at think of healing for a few moments.  Do stretch before you leave the bed, even for a moment.

2.  Divert your attention away from the pain and get up and do something!

Anything!  I don’t work out of the home, so after a quick bowl of cereal and a piece of fruit, I went to the laundry room and began the laundry!

Pretty soon I was folding clothes and feeling better.  I called the dog (petting a dog is VERY good for stress management) and then I got her a bowl of food and opened the back door so she could go outside when she needed to do so.




I breathed mindfully; all the while I was “working”.  My next task was to start writing.  I write with purpose.  I want to share those gifts I been given with others, and particularly since I know they work.

Those are pretty easy steps to feel better.  Modify to your own situation.

Right now I feel one hundred times better than I did upon waking.  At some point I will have to use ice and heat, and rest.  Later today I will go to physical therapy to work as hard as they let me.


I want you to take a moment or two, figure out what is best for you, and do it.  There is a third suggestion.  BE CONSISTENT.  We are creatures of habit, and if you consistently do the “little” things that are right for you, you will learn to manage your own stress and it won’t cost you a nickel!

CREATE a beautiful day, and one in which you are captain of your ship.

I really care!        (As an added note, these tips are invaluable for use in managing ANY type stress.  Use them.)


Stress magement in action

Take a deep breath or two as you read this.  It will help you to relax (it’s the way the body works!).

Now since this is Friday, you are probably visualizing a relaxing weekend.  I hope so!  But if you are one of these folks who have to work (like my husband) remember are fortunate to be working, and a Saturday means extra money.  That should make the day of rest on Sunday even sweeter.

No matter what you have to do – lawn manicuring, taking the children to swimming lessons, working outside the home, or just being a couch potato, remember the relaxation of it all is strictly up to you….You can CHOOSE to be pissed.  Choose to say, “I can’t do it”, or you can remember YOUR RESPONSE TO LIFE is 100% in your capable and intelligent hands.

No matter what happens you ALWAYS choose your response.  And since times are a bit unnerving, remember theses MOMENTS in time are all we have…literally, moments.

So make sure you choose wisely your response to life.  Include a bit of patience, breathing, and a vision of the things you are happy about in your life.  REALLY, think and choose wisely.  We could all be dust in the wind the next moment, so put your stress management techniques into effect NOW.

CREATE your life moment by moment.  If you think this is silly – I guarantee it is not. It will go a long way to brighten your day and your weekend.  I care.  I want others to feel as I do – no matter what happens!

I am walking better in my walker, and I am HAPPY!  I choose to be.