Stress Management Magic

Take a deep breath and relax!  Inhale slowly through the nose as you read this. Now exhale slowly and quietly through the mouth.  Again, inhale through the nose, thinking: “This will give me new energy and help relax my mind.”  Exhale slowly through the mouth, thinking:  “I release negative thoughts and feelings.”

Even if you are savvy to the positive and dynamic results diaphragmatic breathing will render to your mind and body, it never hurts to review WHY we consider breathing the number one stress management technique.

When you are under stress, your muscles tense, and your breathing becomes shallow and rapid.  One of the simplest, and absolutely best) ways to stop this stress response is to breathe slowly and deeply.

Most of us do not breathe deeply under normal circumstances, so it may help to review the mechanics of deep breathing and how it helps us all to relax.

Breathing Under Stress

When our prehistoric ancestors were in danger of attack, their muscles tensed and their breathing became rapid and shallow, as they prepared to run or fight.  Their high level of tension was a means of preparing their bodies for optimum performance.

Today the causes of stress are different, but the human response to it is the same. However, since we are not running or fighting, our tension has no release and our stress response builds.  One way to counteract the stress response is to learn how to breathe deeply and slowly – the opposite of how we breathe when under stress.

Parents who have taken Bradley-Lamoze Method of Natural Childbirth have already learned the value of using our oxygen to empower us.

Deep breathing is not always natural to adults.  Watch the way a baby breathes; the area beneath the chest goes in and out.  Most adults breathe from the chest.  This is shallow breathing, so less oxygen is taken in with each breath.  As a result the blood is forced to move through the system quickly so that enough oxygen gets to the brain and organs.  Higher blood pressure is a result.

Deep breathing can reverse these effects.  Take the time to practice this deep breathing each day, especially when you are under stress. You can be sitting, standing, or lying down, but it helps to wear loose, comfortable clothing.  Begin by breathing in through your nose.  Count to five and let your lower abdomen fill with air, filling from the bottom to the top.

Hold the breath for a five second count and then as you let the air out through your mouth, let the abdomen drop in the same manner – from the bottom to the top.  With practice you can add seconds o the count.  You will increase your relaxation if you imagine breathing in ocean or the forest air.  When exhaling imagine all the stress leaving with the exhalation of the carbon dioxide.

By helping you let go of tension through this breathing, you can relieve headaches, backaches, stomachaches and sleeplessness.  It releases the body’s own painkillers, called endorphins, into the system.  It allows blood pressure to return to normal, which is good for your heart.  Deep breathing can also allow held-in emotions to come to the surface, so your emotional health benefits from this breathing too.

The really beautiful thing about this stress management technique is that (to date) you can get your supply for free.  It is also available any time and any place you need to use it.

So go ahead – take a deep breath in through the nose, hold it for five seconds – press the exhalation out through your lips, and have a better day knowing, you can help yourself instantly!  Stress reduction is possible.  Meditate.  Join a class.  Participate in managing stress by developing your breathing skills.  Always available – guaranteed success.  Be involved with your own life!  No one can begin today if you aren’t willing!  CREATE your life!

Anger is defined as strong emotions:  wrath, aggravation, being annoyed, bothered, exasperated, furious, irritated, outraged, and antagonized.  If you are reading this there is a reason.  Please take a few slow breaths of oxygen as you continue.  Inhale slowly and exhale slowly.  You are on the right path.

The emotions, INCLUDING “a sense of injury” and a desire to retaliate, (which are sometimes disguised, even to the individual who is angry) can be dangerous emotions.   You can be almost out of control.  It happens to millions of people. However, if anger is left unmanaged, the anger can escalate to violence, and the loss of control for one moment, has the potential to destroy your life and perhaps someone else’s!  This is not an exaggeration. Statistics are a witness to acts of violence and the consequences paid.

If you feel your anger is tipping the scales, please answer the follow questions honestly.

1.  What does anger REALLY resolve?

2.  Do you REALLY want to devastate your body chemistry?

3.  Do you REALLY have good reason to hurt family, friends, and peers?

4.  Can you think of more appropriate ways to handle the situations?

5.  Is your anger REALLY aimed at someone else, or is it yourself?

Fact: Anger does not resolve anything. When you feel angry leave the room.  Go to someplace alone and do two things.  Take for to five deep breaths slowly and exhale slowly.  This concentrating on getting increased oxygen will divert your attention from the problem, for the moment.  It actually has a calming effect on your mind and body.

Fact:  When you are angry just once in a while, though the chemicals in your body are thrown into an abnormal state, the damage is not permanent.  When you get angry all the time you actually are setting yourself up for disaster, both physically, and mentally.

Fact:  While breathing to calm down, say a short prayer, or mantra several times.  Examples:  “God please help me to calm down.” or “I feel calm now.”  Say whatever you choose to help several times.

Fact:  Your angry words can cut like a knife and ultimately are capable of destroying any relationship.  Angry words lead to angry actions.  Since we are creatures of habit, if you ALLOW this anger to control you, you are jeopardizing everyone in your circle of life – including you!  Heart attacks have happened because of this negative habit!

There are better ways to handle tough scenarios.  Take a time out for finding your intellect instead of relying on emotions.  Walk away.  Seek counseling.

Have a family meeting and set rules.  There is always a better way than “lack of self-control.”

Fact:   Think of this.  Sometimes your anger may actually be misguided frustration in handling a situation that is either out of your control, or out of the realm of you actually knowing what to do.  It happens!  Anger at one’s self can be twisted and manifest as anger to another.

If you have a child, you may have felt anger when you couldn’t locate the child for a time.  Perhaps he or she was only playing somewhere out of your sight, but by the time you discovered the child your pent up WORRY had turned into anger; actually kind of a retaliation towards the child for your discomfort.

There are reasons to be angry, but do not let the anger destroy your life and ruin the lives of the people around you.  There are men and women in prison for the rest of their lives for that moment of anger that was mismanaged.

Exercise your brain to think of a way to get out of this useless “anger pit” before you dig your way into a grave.  PRACTICE new thoughts.  Even if you don’t feel satisfied at first, you must continue to try to create more positive brain cells.  If you must, take a pillow and beat it!  Get a punching bag and use it until you are exhausted, and calmer.  Go for a run.  There are alternatives to anger.

PLEASE – IF YOU NEED HELP – AND YOU KNOW IT INNATELY – GET HELP BEFORE IT ESCALATES!  There are anger management classes, social service organizations, and many other places to seek help.  Talk to someone at a church.  There is help available.

Right now:  take in a slow, deep breath (through the nose).  Hold it a few seconds remembering this will physically help to calm you down.  Exhale (through the mouth) and visualize that anger subsiding as you get rid of the carbon dioxide.  Do this again slowly.  YOUR MIND AND BODY WILL RESPOND WITH A CALMER YOU, CAPABLE OF RESPONDING AND NOT REACTING.

Anger out of control can lead to violence.  Violence can lead to irreparable damage.  In many cases anger can, and has been a straight path to jail!  Think about it and see help now if you feel out of control rage.  PLEASE!

In an attempt to measure life changes, a Life Scale was developed ranking events in order from the most stressful (death of a spouse) to the least stressful (minor violations of the law).

As you read take note of all the stressful events that may have touched or are touching your life.  There are other stresses not listed, but according to statistical information these events are common to man.

1.  Death of spouse or child

2.  Divorce

3.  Marital Separation

4.  Addictions

5.  Death of a close family member (parent or sibling)

6.  Physical or verbal abuse

7.  Child sent to war

8.  Being fired from work

9.  Marital reconciliation

10. Retirement

11.  Major change in health or behavior of family member

12.  Pregnancy of spouse/ partner / child

13.  Sexual difficulties

14.  Gain a new family member (through birth, adoption, etc.)

15.  Major business readjustment (merger, reorganization, etc.)

16.  Major change in financial state (a lot worse / or better off)

17.  Death of a close friend

18.  Changing to different type work.

19.  Major change in number of arguments with spouse (more

or less)

20.  Taking on a significant (to you) mortgage

21.  Foreclosure on a mortgage or loan

22.  Major change in responsibility at work (promotion,

transfer, demotion)

23.  Son or daughter leaving home (marriage, college, etc.)

24.  Marriage

25.  In-law troubles

26.  Outstanding personal achievement

27.  Partner beginning or ceasing work outside of the home.

28.  Beginning or ceasing formal schooling

29.  Major change in living conditions (new house, renovating)

30.  Revision of personal habits (dress, manners, associations)

31.  Troubles with the boss

32.  Detention in jail or other institution

33.  Change in residence

34.  Major change in usual type and / or amount of recreation

35.  Major change in church or spiritual activities (more or less)

36.  Major change in social activities (clubs, dancing, movies)

37.  Taking on a small loan (purchasing car, TV, freezer, etc.)

38.  Major change in sleeping habits (more or less)

39.  Major change in number of family get-togethers (more or

less

40.  Major change in eating habits (a lot more or less food

intake

41.  Holidays or vacations

42.  Minor violations of the law (traffic or parking infractions)

43.  Time and traffic (deadlines, heavy traffic)

After reading the list you may find you REALLY HAVE GOOD REASONS to sometimes feel overwhelmed.  These events are common to all of us, and taken into consideration with other “personal events”; you can see just why you may be stressed!  You aren’t just whimpering or weak and unable to handle the events in your life!

So pat yourself on the back for not coming totally unglued every day, and begin to seek STRESS MANAGEMENT MAGIC through articles posted here, classes, videos, personal instruction, self-improvement groups, family meetings, and by ANY MEANS you can to “manage” this stress.

There are several ways NOT to look for stress management help.

1.  Alcohol

2.  Drugs

3.  Overeating or secretly eating to find a temporary fix.

In order for management techniques (whatever is right for your

lifestyle) to work, and for the techniques to be permanent, keep this important fact in mind:

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, And PRACTICE

Make it a FUN goal and remember THIS IS YOUR LIFE!

Now take a deep slow inhalation through the nose, exhale through the mouth and KNOW this is the most important first step you can take towards stress management.  USE YOUR OXYGEN YOU WONDERFUL OXYGEN MACHINE!

Do This Right Now!   Please.   You looked up stress management, so begin now with a mini-relaxation online.

The body is the servant of the mind.  It obeys the operations of the mind whether they are deliberately chosen or automatically expressed.

Exercise your mind and your stress level will diminish and your body will begin to relax.

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Sit back just a bit.  Sit a little straighter, holding your tummy in and pressing your lower back into the chair.

Stretch your arms up in the air as far as you can reach.  Clasp your hands and take a breath.  Now exhale slowly through the mouth as you shake your hands and arms down.

Lay your right ear towards your neck.  Stretch it, but don’t bounce.  Take a breath in through the nose, and exhale in the same manner through your mouth.

Lay your left ear towards your neck.  Stretch it but don’t bounce.  Take a breath slowly and exhale in the same manner.

With your head still leaning towards your left side, slowly rotate your head down towards your chest and stop when you reach the right side.  Do this several times.  Lift head to center position.

Do not do a full head roll as often times the head is allowed to drop back further than desirable, and you take a chance of injury.

Clasp your hands and stretch your arms out in front of you.  Release.

Wiggle your toes.  Rotate each ankle several times to the left and then to the right.  Scrunch your fingers together and release.  Be sure to use your oxygen during these easy moves.

Breathe in slowly saying to yourself:  “I am regenerating and relaxing.”

As you exhale say:  “Negativity is flying out with my exhalation.”

Repeat several times.  The brain needs fifty percent more oxygen to perform optimally and when we are under stress we actually inhibit our oxygen intake without even consciously knowing!

It’s as simple as that!  A few mini-relaxations throughout the day can physically and mentally change your day!  This is the physiology of the body and mind.  It will happen.

If you think it’s too simple – it is!  The difficult part is YOU resisting change and resisting creating new thought and creating  positive brain cell impressions.  As creatures of habit we have to retrain the brain.  Get into the habit of doing these things as your first moves towards stress management. Change your habits – change your life!

Create your own relaxation.  Maybe a walk in the hall, a bathroom break where you also stretch and twist your body around a bit, even simply standing and changing position can begin the flow of oxygen to your body and mind.

Inhale deeply and slowly through the nose.  Now exhale slowly through the mouth.  Now pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for actually taken the first step towards changing your life!

Whether you are in school, in the office, or simply at home working, these simple techniques are always available with no strings attached.  For further help please check the many wonderful resources on this website and online.  CREATE a beautiful day!

Words come to life

“I am angry.”

“I don’t know how I will get through this.”

“I can’t forget the past.”

“I won’t ever get out of this mess.”

These are self-fulfilling prophecies.  As sure as these words come out of your mouth, they are actively engaged in the cycle of coming to life – in your life!  These words are stressful words that give in to almost a weakness of spirit.

Life isn’t always fair, but it can still be good.  There are enough “outside stresses” to sometimes overwhelm your mind.  Don’t make the mistake of creating added negative feelings and stress by letting negative words dominate your reaction to life.

The next time you find yourself frustrated and feeling defeated by life’s circumstances, STOP!  Before you speak do this: Take in a mindful plug of oxygen slowly.  Remember this is going to calm you don’t and sharpen your intellect.  As you exhale think of all the burdensome negativity flying away from you.  Do it again.

For these few seconds of using one of the best stress management techniques you have readily available, you can truly change your life.  Your reactions and your words will improve.  You will gain control of your emotions and use your wits instead of just reacting.  Get in the habit and it will come naturally at some point in the near future.

Put new words into action that can modify a terrible scenario to one of lesser consequence for all parties involved.  Think:

“I am calmer.”

“I will get though this scenario with ease.”

“I learn from the past but live in the present.”

“I will find a good resolve to any challenge.”

If you need additional training seek it out.  There many classes on breathing, meditation, and relaxation.  Join one.  You will appreciate these techniques as they are available twenty-four seven, and are a true empowerment to mind and body.

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“The relation that exists between the mind and body is very intimate. When one is affected, the other sympathizes. The condition of the mind affects the health to a far greater degree than many realize. Many of the diseases from which men suffer are the result of mental depression. Grief, anxiety, discontent, remorse, guilt, distrust, all tend to break down the life forces and to invite decay and death….

Courage, hope, faith, sympathy, and love, promote health and prolong life. A contented mind, a cheerful spirit, is health to the body and strength to the soul.”

Ellen G. White. 1827-1915

Bathes are not strictly for women.  They are for all of us.  People of all ages spend money and time going some place to swim, or sit in a hot Jacuzzi.  Water is one of our most underrated and underappreciated gifts.  You bathtub is perfect for a light workout, water therapy and RELAXATION.

It’s cost effective and readily available without a reservation!

You will need these things for your productive, healing and peaceful bathing time:

1.  Music.  You must have music.  Make sure you are “electrically” safe, or not hooked to any electricity at all is preferable.  Use your Ipod, portable headset and player, a radio, or whatever you have, and make sure your music flows with your natural heart rate.  It should feel gentle and soulful. Music that is simpatico with your heart rate will enhance your relaxation.

2.  A candle, or a few candles, safely placed in areas to enhance the ambiance.  If you don’t have candles then simply try to make the lighting in the room soft for your eyes.

3.  Find a fragrance to capture within the room.  Try flowers, incense, and a splash of your favorite perfume or cologne to reward your sense of smell.

4.  You need a small cervical pillow with a waterproof cover – or simply a large towel rolled to place at your neck for comfort and support.

5.  Bubble bath, oil or whatever will nourish your skin.  Your skin will cover you all your life.  Keep it supple.

6.  A body sponge, pumice stone and / or wash rag.

7.  Epsom salts to add to your bath water for helping muscles and ligaments.

Set the scene while you run a hot bath.  Grab two soft towels and plan on twenty or thirty minutes alone.  Make a “do not disturb sign”.  Make your bath a reward in the comfort of your own home.  Only you and your family should have bathtub privileges.  Let the guests use a shower.

Now you are ready for this “stress management magic to begin

1.  Step into the tub (after it’s clean, of course), and when you first start drawing the hot water for your bath.  As the water fills the tub, sit down and paddle your arms side to side so the temperature stays even throughout the tub.

2.  When the tub is filled (I personally love a bubble bath), lean back on the towel or pillows and begin these easy stretches and movements.  Lift one leg slightly, and rotate you ankles in both directions.  Point and flex toes and then flex them, pressing them towards your chest.  Lightly massage the leg and foot and then alternate to opposite sight.  Repeat the movements.  As you are doing these things slowly breathe in and out.  Make the breaths deep and long, and relaxed.

3.  With hands in the water clench your fists.  Open the fingers wide and stretch them as far as you can.   Wiggle the fingers. Pull the water through your fingers.  Visualize how light the water is and yet how powerful.  You too can be “light in thoughts” yet powerful…if you manage your stress effectively.

4.  Remove the pillow and gently place your neck on the highest point of the tub itself.  If you need to, slide down in the water a bit.  Slowly, with mindful breathing, rotate the head from side to side.  Do it several times.

Next, press your chin towards your chest.  Hold it for a few moments and release.  As you do this note the stretch for your spine. Youth depends greatly on the suppleness of the spine.

When you decide to finish the bath, use warm water to rinse, splashing it first of the face and then the body.  It will be stimulating for your circulation and finish the cleansing part of the bath.  (Of course you have already soaped down and washed this body you live in!)

Be creative in the water and enjoy the healing properties and the time you have to simply concentrate on YOUR BATH!

“What exactly does that mean?” you may ask.

It means simply that while you may be an expert at managing all the tasks at hand – whether it means completing a report at the office, finishing a term paper, or multi-tasking for three or four school age children, who have different directions to go, you don’t know how to manage yourself!

You may feel an overload of stress and rather overwhelmed, but you make sure everything is done to the best of your ability. The stressors mount and you pile them neatly within your mind, to deal with later, “when you have time”.

The disaster comes when a “trigger” sets of a string of emotions, in motion, and you have not yet to learned to manage you!

Negative stress is DISTRESS.  Distress causes failure.  Overworking and not coping can destroy your life.  We all experience distress from time to time, it is normal, and unavoidable part of living, but long term chronic stress is positively dangerous and can lead to severe mental and physical disability.

The good news is that you are actively seeking help or you wouldn’t be reading this post right now.  That is an excellent beginning.

Follow up with the same kind of plan you would improvise for work, or school, or the family.  Self-management is an essential skill to deal with all your psychological and physical stress.

Take the time to set you own personal goals.  Create clear goals for everything from exercise to nutrition.  Make room for a class in meditation or yoga.

Begin to take “mini-breathing” breaks throughout the day.  Just take a minute or two at your convenience, using deep inhalations and slow exhalations, fully exhaling.  As you inhale think: I am regenerating my oxygen machine.”  As you exhale think:  I am releasing negative and limiting thoughts.”

Stretch just a bit throughout the day, as well.  Simple stretches will do.  Arms overhead, hands clasp and stretching forward, gently rolling the head from shoulder to shoulder, pointing the toes and then pressing them back towards your body – any or all of these will really help keep you more relaxed.

Remember that if you fall apart you won’t be any good for anyone!  All those professional and personal dreams will fade away if you don’t care for you!

It doesn’t matter how “warm and fuzzy” you feel towards your children, when they reach pre-teen and teenage years, you will begin to feel the stress mount.

These are the times you children will begin to spread their wings and hone their skills for adulthood.  These are the times they will begin to voice strong opinions and do seemingly arrogant acts of defiance.

Remember these things come with the territory and are natural.  Many times what “appears” to be open resistance to your rules are just a natural spurt of independence, perhaps not performed as optimally you would hope for, but nonetheless, this will happen.

First in the line of defense (for your own intellect and calmness in the situation) – use your secret weapon. Begin breathing deeply and slowly and exhaling in the same manner.  This will calm you and help your brain to get the oxygen for a better response.  Being reminded of our gift of breathing is not a bad thing.  The more you are reminded, and use the gift, the more effectively you will handle the myriad of scenarios that will come.

Parents can make a huge difference in providing guidance and support for their teens.  At times it may not seem like your teen wants you around, and he or she may not all the time, but your child really does need you and knows you care.

Try to spend positive times together.  It’s impossible to love your teen too much.  Try to stay close and warm.  Remember to say, “I love you”.

Of course you have to set limits and structure.  You have to be clear in communication and let the teen know what you expect.  Rules and expectations should change throughout your child’s life, but all children need boundaries, discipline and love – and in that order.

One of the most important things is to be consistent.  Be consistent with your partner, and be consistent if you are alone.  Mixed messages can lead to frustration for parents and children.  The children need consistency to help them to learn to structure their lives.

Try to stay involved in your teen’s life.  Ask questions about school, schoolwork, and friends.  Attend your teen’s extracurricular activities.  Whether they say so or not, they NEED to know you are just as interested in them now as when they were younger.  Meet families of those teens that spend a large portion with your teens.

Explain yourself with discussion – not with yelling and abusive language.  Discuss the reasons for your rules and what consequences they may face for not following them.  Respect your teen and the teen will respect you.

TRY WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT not to use HARSH discipline.  Harsh discipline includes yelling, slapping, hitting, and belittling.  If the situation is volatile, take a “break” and each of you pull yourself together and calm down for a while.  Words cut like a knife and you don’t want to regret your years down the road.  Besides, impulsive or reactive behavior just instigates a negative response from your teen and nothing will get accomplished.

Pick your arguments.  There will be many opportunities to disagree, but unless the scenario is life-threatening or really may be a danger to your child, remember they do need to do a certain amount of decision making that is positive and empowering to them.

Your teen is changing.  Physically, emotionally and cognitively, your teen is preparing for life as an adult in a difficult and trying world.  Be patient.  In the long run you will be glad you did.

Keep in mind, these youngsters are experiencing the most stress thus far in their young lives.  Try to be empathetic and remember how difficult it was!

If you need to get help, look for resources locally, and on line.

If you do these things your life and the life of your teen will be one hundred percent better!  Be on the teen’s side from an adult view, not another stumbling block in the path of their maturing.  Remember how much you loved them before this age and still do!

Take a breath and remember:” This too shall pass”.

Stress “Unmanaged” Will cause violence in a staggering number of people. It is almost inevitable!

Whether we choose to believe it or not, stress unmanaged will ultimately cause violence in many people.  Domestic violence, abuse towards children, intimate partners, (regardless of gender) and the elderly is on the rise.

Stress unmanaged can change of the body chemistry and can do can do infinite damage to credible brain function management. Anger causes words to cut to the heart, and actions to damage the recipient for his or her entire life in many circumstances.

Don’t be fooled.  Don’t be naïve.

There is a boiling point for water and for human emotions.  Whether the water stays in the pot or boils over, ultimately that, which is in the circumference of the pot, can be damaged or ruined entirely. .

Such is it with human behavior. Consequences of unmanaged stresses inflict suffering and can be life threatening.

Family conflicts are usually the result of stresses created in dysfunctional families.  Low levels of family conflict are warning signs for families that they are at risk of much greater abuse.  Any family member may intentionally or unintentionally contribute to the escalation of violence.

Stress is often created by feelings of hopelessness and or helplessness.  Other things that add to that could be excessive work hours, financial strain, and alcohol or drug abuse.

Personality disorders and/or early traumatic life experiences often predispose people to use violence in their own family relationships as adults.

Arguments created by stress can escalate.  Spontaneous arguments can lead to threats or actual physical assaults…without specific patterns, but they almost invariably escalate to more serious and injurious physical assaults.

We like to think “things” will resolve, or time will pass to “make it better”. For those individuals with particular personality traits or particular body chemistry, the danger lurks in close proximity to all who are near.

If YOU or someone near you is within the perimeters of this description, do something! Whether it be finding counsel (and if it is for YOU – please – do it now!) or just talking with family to consider action.

SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE IMMEDIATELY>not just for the individual, but also for all who may tread in the same path, either by coincidence, or choice.

It YOU one of the people referred to in the paragraphs above, PLEASE take a slow breathe now in though the nose.  Now exhale slowly through the mouth.  Please do it again several times.

The added oxygen will calm you and help you to think more rationally, and remember, you have already taken the first step towards helping yourself by searching the Internet!  Don’t give up.  Don’t give in.  Connect with someone – perhaps a local group that deals with anger management.  Take time for yourself – you can’t afford not to do so!

If you are totally overwhelmed and need help and don’t know who to turn to you can email:  mo@jett.net.You are not alone.

It doesn’t have to be that way

Whatever the stress is in your life, you always have the choice of your response to it!  No one is forcing you to be emotionally in turmoil, or out of your mind with worry.

YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR RESPONSE TO EVERY STRESSFUL SCENARIO. You may not think so, but no one “THINKS” in your mind except you. Thoughts become actions.

CREATE a better response to stress, for it will affect you, and those around you.

THINK before you speak. Take a breath and it will spark your intellect.

Remember words are sharper than any knife and they pierce the heart.

Take THIS opportunity to tell someone you love or appreciate him or her.

Make these moments of value.  The worth of your thoughts melding into actions will ultimately come back to benefit you! It always works.

The things that you think, and the quality of your oxygen intake and exhalations will ultimately become your life and health. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF WHERE YOU GO FROM HERE.

Breathe and think positively. Teach your brain to create those “cell impressions” from which you can empower yourself simply through your thoughts. Ultimately, if you are consistent, your body physiology will be changed for the good.

Put aside any doubt and release any tendency to “make things work out” or to force an outcome. Open your thoughts and your life to the source of all intelligence from within you, and let go of worry.

Worry changes nothing for the better. It accomplishes no goals and no resolve. The only thing worry does is increase in increments, and cause more worry, more problems, and affect us physically in a negative manner. HONESTLY!

Spend time on thoughts that are positive and of quality and you will draw those things to you. Be mindful of your oxygen intake, and as you exhale send all those negative thoughts into oblivion.

What is past is past. The future is but a “hope for the best”. The moments you have are now. Make them of value to you and those around you.

If you think this is simplifying the problem…..it is; but the premise “knowledge is power” does materialize unless it is applied.  Use your intellect and begin to make changes and better choices now!

Remember this too; somebody in the world, who doesn’t even know you, really cares!