Stress Management Magic

It has been proven you can keep a sharp edge on your intellect throughout your life. Many scientists believe that the combination of a person’s innate ability, and the additional brainpower that comes from consistently challenging the mind, will manifest in what is called “cognitive reserve”.

Studies have shown that diverse and mentally stimulating tasks result in more brain cells!  Also, a greater ability to bypass age-related trouble spots in the brain is quite apparent.

The more you work your mind, the greater your cognitive reserve.  The greater the reserve, the better ability you will have to withstand inevitable challenges of aging.  Keep in mind that we all begin to age way before fifty!

As a survivor of multiple traumatic incidents, and a stress management specialist, I have learned you can “retrain” your brain to accommodate any incident, or series of incidents that manifest in your life.  You can create new brain cells with new thoughts and habits.  Doing these things will begin for you a lifelong experience of stress management, better health, and will put you on the path to stay as sharp as possible. Exquisite breathing can really enhance these processes.

You are reading to find out about how to manage the stress in your life that may seem overwhelming and chaotic.  If you spend your life reliving your misery, or anger, and struggling just to swim in a pool of sadness, what does it accomplish? NOTHING. Time spent “mourning the past” just trashes any chance of peace and progress that is still available to you. We do have wonderful brains that can keep learning no matter how we have diligently tried to kill all the cells by the “party on” philosophy. I’ve been there too – big time.

There are bound to be some physical restrictions and mental problems that may increase with aging, and for some, those problems may inhibit to some degree some areas of retaining a sharp intellect.  Reasons for this decline might be a loss of neural connections, a blockage of blood supply, and perhaps decreases in nerve-signaling chemicals.  Memory can diminish with age, though only certain types.

Typically “learned skills” are so firmly wired in individuals, they typically do not decline unless you have a disease such as Alzheimer’s.

But for most people, the ability to keep that edge is dependent only on a few things.  The commitment to exercise (even moderately) is imperative, as movement is so crucial to brain health cognitive thinking, changes in aging can be the result of inactivity.  Refresh the brain on a daily basis with new thoughts, new information, and new habits.  If your memory, as you age, is suffering, it is probably your short-term memory. Some moderate loss is to be expected.

After all, this wonderful human machine clicks along for years and years.

So how are you going to keep your brain at it’s best?  BY GROWING NEW BRAIN CELLS!  Scientists believe certain lifestyle habits can spark the cells’ growth.  I believe the use of your oxygen combined with habitual thoughts (new thoughts for advancement preferably), will absolutely grow new brain cells.

In a nutshell:

1.  Pay attention to your mental and physical changes.

2.  Make sure you “exercise” your brain with new information.

3.  Exercise your body.

4.  Incorporate good nutrition in your life, as many memory

problems stem from vitamin deficiencies.

5.  Be the master of your own thoughts.  Thought manifest into

action, and your behavior becomes your life.

When you find out that you or someone you love, needs to have a hysterectomy STRESS will begin to compound.

“Hysterectomy, the surgical removal of the uterus, is a procedure surrounded by controversy – and for good reason. Hysterectomy is the second most common major operation performed in the United States today, second only to cesarean section. Approximately 600,000 American women have a hysterectomy every year….  By the age of 60, one out of every three women in the U.S. has had a hysterectomy.

(Excerpts from “A Gynecologist’s Second Opinion” by William H. Parker, M.D.)

No one wants to “go under the knife”.  Misinformation and all sorts of things will begin to slap you in the face mentally.

“Will our insurance cover this?  Will I still be a woman and have sexual feelings?  Will my wife ever be the same or will she change?  Will I gain weight?  Who will take care of me?  Will I have to take time off work to be a caregiver?”

These are just a few of the legitimate questions that may plague you initially.  They all need to be answered.  They will all be attended to in time.

First you need to take a breath.  Take it right now.  Inhale slowly through the nose, and exhale slowly through the mouth.  Do it again and deeply.

As you inhale think: “I am bringing in healing oxygen to relax and think optimally.”

As you exhale think: “Negative thoughts and worries are leaving me now as they are of no use.”

Use your oxygen often and mindfully.  This is a gift.  It is a magical technique to really assist you in dire circumstances.  As you practice, when times of urgency arise, you will find yourself using your oxygen as really a personal way to empower your mind and truly affect your physical being.

Thousands of hysterectomies are performed each year safely.  The instances of calamity and extended troubles are not frequent.  What is frequent, is successful hysterectomies.

There is so much fine information on the Internet alone.  You will need to do your homework.  Get a second opinion.  Inquire as to the possibility of natural solutions instead of surgery.  Sometimes women are able to use natural methods to get a handle on the situation.  Sometimes surgery is the only option.

Whatever the decision remember this

YOU CAN ONLY DO THE BEST THAT YOU CAN DO IN RESEARCH AND MAKING ARRANGEMENTS.  THE “BEST FRIEND” YOU CAN FIND IS ACCEPTANCE OF THE SITUATION. GO FORWARD WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.  You may have no other choice in the matter, and ultimately, if you find you or someone you love needs the surgery, it may be the best thing that can happen for your good health.

If you believe in a power beyond yourself, start praying breathe, and try to relax – it will be okay!

A few really great websites for women/ or interested persons are:

http://www.hystersisters.com

http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/hysterectomy.cfm

http://www.hystersisters.com

http://www.PsychologyInfo.com/Depression

http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/hysterectomy.cfm

http://www.lumosity.com/Physical Stress

http://www.HealthiNation.com/sress

Do you remember the last time you laughed out loud?

Laughter is a powerful antidote to aid in the management of stress, pain, and conflict.

There is nothing that works faster, or can lighten your burden better than laughter.  It is one of the most powerful tools you have to support your emotional health, and your daily mood.

Physical benefits

A hearty laugh relaxes the entire body, relieving physical tension and stress, and it leaves your muscles relaxed for almost an hour after.

Laughter releases endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals.  These endorphins promote a sense of wellbeing, and can even help to relieve pain.

Your resistance to disease will increase as you incorporate into your life.  It decreases stress hormones and actually increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies.

Laughter even protects the heart!  It actually improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and cardiovascular problems.

Humor is really infectious.  When you hear the sound of roaring laughter, even if you are not aware of the scenario, you will most certainly smile!  The domino effect of laughter triggering laughter triggers those physical changes in the body.

Remember hearing a child laugh wildly as he or she is being tickled….just the sound makes anyone within hearing distance enjoy their day just a little more.

When laughter is shared it always increases happiness.  It binds people together is a shared joy.   Laughter simply makes you feel good, and the feeling stays with you long after the sound subsides.

Laughter helps you keep a positive and optimistic outlook.  It is rather a “mini-vacation” from sadness and pain, and even in very difficult times, laughter can surely help in making you feel better.  It stimulates the brain and makes you ready for more fun and relaxation.  It stays in the memory and can cause you to smile hours afterwards.

Benefits for optimum mental health

You simply CANNOT feel angry, sad, or anxious when you are honestly laughing.  Not the kind of “laughter” you may feel required to do when you are trying to be courteous or join the group.  The kind of laughter that comes from your heart is irreplaceable.

You will reduce stress and increase your energy because you are more relaxed.  Humor allows you to shift your perspective to see situations in a more realistic way, a less threatening light.  This type perspective creates psychological distance, which can help you avoid feeling overwhelmed about the circumstances.

Laughter is innate and it is your right.  Though often you may feel there is nothing to laugh about, you can always find humor in life – if you just try!  The absurdity of stoic behavior abounds in life.  If you focus and allow yourself to picture things in a different way, you will really find there is so much to laugh about; you will want to weave laughter into every day of your life once you feel it’s benefits!

Read a joke book.  Go to a comedy club.  Rent a movie.  Get together with friends.  Start laughing today!  Practice a positive attitude change through the use of positive humor.  Begin to see humor all around you in puns, irony and oxymora.

Remember – “cutting” humor is not really funny.  If your words pierce someone’s heart, or if you have to say “Oh, I was just kidding” – it’s probably not humorous, but more in the line of ridicule or words that are harming someone else.  Condition your mind to find positive humor and it will surely help manage your stress.

Did you know that if you choose to listen to music that flows along with the natural heart rate you could relax your mind and lower your stress level.

Music has been used therapeutically for years in mental health settings, but it was discovered only a decade or so ago that it can have dramatic effects in the realm of physically healing persons in intensive care units.

In particular studies at one hospital, observations were made of levels of heart rate, blood pressure and medication needs. There were significant decreases recorded in patient anxiety, heart rates, and blood pressure levels when selected music was played.

Initial observations in the studies prompted the use of music in surgery, pre-op, recovery and other areas in the hospital.  One of the most dramatic results of the use of music in the surgical areas was a fifty percent reduction in the need for anesthetics.

Currently over one hundred hospitals and research centers use music as a therapeutic way to relax, and as a way to enhance the patient’s ability to relax.

Pain sufferers have been found to benefit from musical listening not only for relaxation, but an adjunct for mental imagery development.  The emotional power of music has long been recognized.  It is the real power of these emotions that is of recent discovery.

There is a growing field of therapy which ranges from group therapy to individual counseling in which the individuals use music and images to promote healing in an institutional setting.  Still some question the value, but acceptance of its value is spreading.  Anything that can help a patient cope or even thrive in an unfamiliar, and often-impersonal setting, such as a hospital, could be a valuable resource.

Now think about the music that is played while you shop for groceries, or in a department store, or an office.  You’ve heard the different types of music.

Did you know that many grocery stores gear the type music they play to the preferred music of the “average age” shopper?

Think about when you drive up to a stoplight and you hear loud music, usually with a loud base tone, and how it makes you feel.  Example:  rap or hard rock.

Perhaps you’ve been in high intensity aerobics or kick-boxing;

the music is probably “pumped up” with a steady beat to promote that kind of movement.  All music CAN serve a purpose.

For stressful times, CHOOSE to listen to with a calm and light feeling, type of music, perhaps, with no lyrics.  You won’t be forced to listen to someone else’s thoughts, but find yourself listening to yourself.

The rhythm will begin to slow your heart rate and lower your blood pressure.  Even while driving in traffic, if the selection of your music is calming to your heart and mind, it will calm your demeanor.

Try it and you will find after changing the habit of playing high-energy music, you will begin to feel relaxation coming on as the music plays.   Music can be a thoroughly pleasurable aid to managing your stress.

“What exactly does that mean?” you may ask.

It means simply that while you may be an expert at managing all the tasks at hand – whether it means completing a report at the office, finishing a term paper, or multi-tasking for three or four school age children, who have different directions to go, you don’t know how to manage yourself!

You may feel an overload of stress and rather overwhelmed, but you make sure everything is done to the best of your ability. The stressors mount and you pile them neatly within your mind, to deal with later, “when you have time”.

The disaster comes when a “trigger” sets of a string of emotions, in motion, and you have not yet to learned to manage you!

Negative stress is DISTRESS.  Distress causes failure.  Overworking and not coping can destroy your life.  We all experience distress from time to time, it is normal, and unavoidable part of living, but long term chronic stress is positively dangerous and can lead to severe mental and physical disability.

The good news is that you are actively seeking help or you wouldn’t be reading this post right now.  That is an excellent beginning.

Follow up with the same kind of plan you would improvise for work, or school, or the family.  Self-management is an essential skill to deal with all your psychological and physical stress.

Take the time to set you own personal goals.  Create clear goals for everything from exercise to nutrition.  Make room for a class in meditation or yoga.

Begin to take “mini-breathing” breaks throughout the day.  Just take a minute or two at your convenience, using deep inhalations and slow exhalations, fully exhaling.  As you inhale think: I am regenerating my oxygen machine.”  As you exhale think:  I am releasing negative and limiting thoughts.”

Stretch just a bit throughout the day, as well.  Simple stretches will do.  Arms overhead, hands clasp and stretching forward, gently rolling the head from shoulder to shoulder, pointing the toes and then pressing them back towards your body – any or all of these will really help keep you more relaxed.

Remember that if you fall apart you won’t be any good for anyone!  All those professional and personal dreams will fade away if you don’t care for you!

Stress “Unmanaged” Will cause violence in a staggering number of people. It is almost inevitable!

Whether we choose to believe it or not, stress unmanaged will ultimately cause violence in many people.  Domestic violence, abuse towards children, intimate partners, (regardless of gender) and the elderly is on the rise.

Stress unmanaged can change of the body chemistry and can do can do infinite damage to credible brain function management. Anger causes words to cut to the heart, and actions to damage the recipient for his or her entire life in many circumstances.

Don’t be fooled.  Don’t be naïve.

There is a boiling point for water and for human emotions.  Whether the water stays in the pot or boils over, ultimately that, which is in the circumference of the pot, can be damaged or ruined entirely. .

Such is it with human behavior. Consequences of unmanaged stresses inflict suffering and can be life threatening.

Family conflicts are usually the result of stresses created in dysfunctional families.  Low levels of family conflict are warning signs for families that they are at risk of much greater abuse.  Any family member may intentionally or unintentionally contribute to the escalation of violence.

Stress is often created by feelings of hopelessness and or helplessness.  Other things that add to that could be excessive work hours, financial strain, and alcohol or drug abuse.

Personality disorders and/or early traumatic life experiences often predispose people to use violence in their own family relationships as adults.

Arguments created by stress can escalate.  Spontaneous arguments can lead to threats or actual physical assaults…without specific patterns, but they almost invariably escalate to more serious and injurious physical assaults.

We like to think “things” will resolve, or time will pass to “make it better”. For those individuals with particular personality traits or particular body chemistry, the danger lurks in close proximity to all who are near.

If YOU or someone near you is within the perimeters of this description, do something! Whether it be finding counsel (and if it is for YOU – please – do it now!) or just talking with family to consider action.

SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE IMMEDIATELY>not just for the individual, but also for all who may tread in the same path, either by coincidence, or choice.

It YOU one of the people referred to in the paragraphs above, PLEASE take a slow breathe now in though the nose.  Now exhale slowly through the mouth.  Please do it again several times.

The added oxygen will calm you and help you to think more rationally, and remember, you have already taken the first step towards helping yourself by searching the Internet!  Don’t give up.  Don’t give in.  Connect with someone – perhaps a local group that deals with anger management.  Take time for yourself – you can’t afford not to do so!

If you are totally overwhelmed and need help and don’t know who to turn to you can email:  mo@jett.net.You are not alone.

The benefits we experience when pets are in close proximity to us are really not recognized fully by most of us.  There is a powerful human-animal connection that is only now being fully recognized.

There have been many workshops held on the benefits of owning pets.  There were just a few scientific papers available on the subject a few years ago, though snow studies have revealed that pets boost survival rates for coronary care unit patients. That was an eye-opening finding.

People have known the healing effect for centuries, but recently new data on the role of chemistry in the relationship has been revealed.

When a person interacts with a pet, the central nervous system releases several hormones that cause feelings of pleasure.  One hormone in particular, oxytocin, seems to play a major role in reinforcing this bond.

The hormone creates a sense of warmth, nurturing and calm.  Simply petting dogs releases the same chemical in both humans and the animals!  Researchers know this with certainty, but are not clear as to how two species can produce feelings of peace, closeness and contentment in each other.

What is clear is the fact that this bonding is very helpful in managing stress of almost any kind.

Animals (particularly dogs) give unconditional love.  It doesn’t matter if the owner yells, or is unkempt, or even doesn’t offer the best care to the animal.  All the animal wants is love and approval by their owner.  They accept their owners and companions without qualification.  An animal’s acceptance

is nonjudgmental and forgiving. They don’t play psychological games people sometimes play.  They accept you the way you are.

Pet ownership particularly helps children to learn to read body language.  The experiences children have with their pets later develop into relationships with people, and actually helps develop more empathy for others.

Children who are fortunate to have a pet learn nurturing skills, and the responsibilities that come with it. They also have in store for them lots of fun to share with a new pet.

Over eons it is well established that touch is very important for the nourishment for our spirits and minds.  Sometimes people who have been neglected find it difficult to accept touch from other humans.  The relationship with animals, simply the act of petting a dog, can create feelings of security and warmth; feelings of love without demands humans often desire.

In cases like these, having an animal to hold, hug, and touch can make a world of difference to people who would otherwise have no positive, appropriate physical contact.

Astounding cases of pet heroism and loving acts prove that the interaction between pets and humans, even just passing contacts, are healing and worthy of categorizing as important relationships in the management of stress.

Find ot for yourself and consider, if you don’t own a pet, possibly adopting one for yourself and your family.  More fun and less expensive than therapy, pet ownership can truly be a healing factor in your life.

When stress is not managed well, you are headed to a potentially parlous journey of poor physical health, and possibly deadly diseases.  The risk you take by ignoring your symptoms of stress and the feeling of being overwhelmed by it, is life threatening.

Without a doubt mental stress unmanaged affects your physical health.

The body is all one thing, a coherent whole, with many different systems and functions.  There is no separation of parts when one is afflicted.

Your thoughts, what goes into the mouth, and how you treat your body all have an effect throughout the body.  Just like when something happens to one member of the family, it affects all the rest of the family, some more than others, but everyone is affected.

It is the same with our bodies.  If there is a tight muscle in the hip for instance, from a corresponding weakness on the opposite side, then that hip is favored because of the tension restricting its motion.  That puts a different strain on the foot, and with the foot in a different position; there will be a strain on other sets of muscles.  This is going to change the body’s general posture, affecting the positions of the internal organs. That, in turn, restricts the nutrition to the organs and changes the excretions and hormonal functions.

The chemical/psychological balance of the person is changed and this affects the individual cells in the body.  As the body and mind are affected, the person will think and feel differently, so he is going to assume still a different posture.  Then there is one more tight area, one more tension, one more cycle.  Everything we do affects all the rest of the body.

Humans are structural, chemical, psychological and spiritual beings.  The primary structure and the natural chemistry work together to influence the psychological, and vice versa.

A problem may exist in any part of an area, and disturbances that arise in other systems may represent the body’s efforts to compensate for the troubled system

To put our body in true balance, we must take into account all aspects of health – structural, mental and nutritional – as well as need for exercise and rest.

You only have one place to live – YOUR BODY.  Your body houses your intellect and your spirit, and will serve you well for many years if you take the time to learn to manage your stress.

Start today for this moment and for a better tomorrow.

Take a breath slowly in through the nose.  As you exhale let the carbon dioxide out slowly.

As you inhale again know you are providing for your LIFE.

As you exhale, picture negative thoughts flying out with your exhalation.

Take care of yourself and you take care of your family and friends.  How much will the works you do count if you find yourself mentally and physically sick from allowing unresolved stress to take control of you?

It’s a choice.

When was the last time you actually thought about the breathing process?  Have you ever?

For many of you this will be reviewing material that warrants a regular review.  For some this will be NEW and IMPORTANT information that can really help your stress level when activated.

Isn’t it amazing that this involuntary process of breathing, one that gives us a FREE commodity, one we take for granted, can be refined and used to radically improve the quality of every moment of our human lives.

By cultivating your ability to improve the quality of your oxygen you’ll actually see these things happening to the body.  Your level of energy will increase, the quality of sleep will improve, and your muscles, tendons and ligaments, in times of stress, will relax easier.

You can create morphine like painkillers from within you.  You can lower your blood pressure, slow your heart rate, control the flow of hydrochloric acid and adrenalin, and even create endorphins that are similar to an opiate like high.  “Get high” naturally.  Additionally, beta-endorphins also kick in when you walk or exercise, because of premium breathing.  Do something that is good for your body.

You may think it’s too simple and ask why isn’t there more promotion of the benefits of using oxygen optimally.  Simply, as yet, the “prescription” of oxygen for you hasn’t been necessary (with exceptions such as inhalants for asthmatics or COPD patients).  No one can market the oxygen you can freely use.  No one profits from breathing the air all around you, EXCEPT YOU. You don’t have to ask permission to obtain the healing powers of this wonderful gift for your oxygen machine.

The idea is that mindful breathing techniques will get enough oxygen to all the hidden and infinite areas of the only place you have to live – your body.

What else can you expect when you tend to your oxygen garden?  Your breathing will become easier, because the muscles in your chest will be stronger.  Your air will flow in and out more rapidly and with less effort.

The tiring work you do will be easier as the more mindful oxygen you take in, the more energy you produce.  You oxygen will distribute rapidly from your lungs to your heart and to all parts of your body.

Your heart will beat strong and will pump more blood with each stroke.  Even when you are working your hardest, you heart will pump blood at a lower rate than if you were “de-conditioned”.

You will increase the number and size of the blood vessels that transport blood to your body tissue, thus enriching that tissue and increasing circulation.

Cultivating this oxygen will pay off not only with better health for your body, but the quality of your oxygen intake is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.  Intelligence and skill function will always peak with increased intake of oxygen.  Your brain actually requires fifty percent more oxygen than the rest of the body to think optimally.

This is the physiology of your body.  If you work on getting in the habit of breathing deeply and exhaling fully, all these things will automatically happen.  How cool is that!

Think about your oxygen and take in a few mindful plugs of right now, exhaling fully and deeply. It’s  a wonderful thing to do for your life!

Easy Quick breath :

3 short deep inhalations- sniff, sniff, sniff.

and

1 long and slow exhalation – with head high but humbled- shoulders back – make room for the new.

Do it again.

Do it again.  (Be careful: it’s natural, free, and WILL envigorate and relax at the same time!)  Could be addictive!

Do it again and slowly now both on the inhalation and exhalation.

SLOW DOWN – it’s okay! Listen to music you love, dance around just for fun,  get back to work refreshed from your short break, or simply return to the tasks at hand!  Remember  your life is your choice – really!  How you respond to what happens is one-hundred percent your decision.

Before any response to circumstances get oxygen to your brain.  The brain needs fifty percent more oxygen to make the best decisions.  It’s available any time you choose to breathe mindfully. It is a very positive secret weapon in times of high stress.