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Invisible injuries – Mental and Physical

Invisible injuries

We all have them.  Whether they be mental or physical, they all come with the territory of being human.

The difficult part is NO ONE on planet earth can fully understand what YOU personally may be tackling as far as these unseen or unknown challenges.  No one will ever know one hundred percent.

This is why in order to succeed in life, we must attend to our own “healing” of mind-body-and spirit, and we must forgive those who don’t GET where we are coming from.

It may be the depths of hell to us, but not even within the view of others understanding.

The reason I lay all of this on US is because I am going through those invisible injuries.

I have had a pile of them all my life (off and on) – WE ALL DO.  They are all different and all in different degrees of the need to heal.

Truth be told, NO ONE but YOU can do the healing.  I will add in (because these are MY thoughts, and this is my place to offer up my thoughts), that if you have a belief system beyond yourself, life will be leaps and bounds easier to handle and the mountains less tenuous to climb.

I am fortunate because I have faith that cannot be shaken no matter how difficult my life becomes….and truth be told again, life does not get easier….it gets harder.

BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN you cannot have laughter, and joy, and love, and reap all the rewards we humans still have available.

The key is how you CHOOSE to respond to your own problems, and the tenderness with which you CHOOSE to have understanding and forgiveness of others.  Personally, I can NEVER hold a grudge.  Being unforgiving and judgemental festers inside you like an infected sore.  When you forgive (even if you don’t mean it at first), you begin to heal from within!  REALLY.  You release ugly and negative thoughts, and are able to use your own healing powers for yourself!

Another great way to handle stress of invisible problems is to breathe.  Get plenty of oxygen and your body will “think” better and “feel” better.  It is THE WAY of your body. Think about it.  Slow or stop breathing and what happens?  Less oxygen, less optimal thinking and healing, and ultimately death!  So is it important?  What do you think?

Lastly, I guarantee I have at least thirty to forty things going on within me physically and mentally that no one can ever understanding.  But what I realize is it is UP TO ME to handle it all.  I tried being miserable.  It sucked.  So I gave it up!

You can rise above WHATEVER it is that is aching to pull you down.  Try not to exclusively dwell on the problems.  Divert your own attention by accomplishing tasks that lay before you.  When you feel like a pity party, TAKE A BREATH – think of it like ammo and a secret weapon.  It is.  If you think this is all pie in the sky and just words –


I would not waste my precious moments (and each moment is precious to me), expounding on words with no meaning.  Thoughts with no depth.

So please think about it.  Read this again, and remember:


God bless you!

Familiar with this word?

INCREMENTS: increase, addition, supplement, gain, augmentation.

These are but a few definitions of the word “increments”.  I am not a dictionary, but I love words, and sometimes I think the right words can be useful as well as beautiful.

I need to remember this word.  When a person is injured, or has a specific procedure to correct something, or even an emergency operation, this word is very important.

It takes only a second for one of these things to occur or begin, but it takes a vast amount of time for ANY human body to heal.  For even those who are in good health, the healing must come in increments!

I often forget that.  My mental energy level is one hundred percent, yet my healing, as any other human, takes a certain amount of time to happen.  Even with a great attitude, or a fit body, HEALING IS A PROCESS IN THE HUMAN BODY.

We are a society of instant gratification.  The human body is a living organization with perimeters that include a certain amount of time to regenerate and heal.

Of course this varies with each person; nonetheless, TIME is a major factor in healing.

My husband reminded me of that this morning.  He heard me let out a little moan (unbeknowns to me at the time) and he said, “Overdoing are we?”

I had to admit it. So now I am resting with pillows under my legs, and laptop on my tummy.  Please take time to heal properly.

A perfect example of getting NEGATIVE results from rushing is when I sprained my ankle years ago.  I had just opened a fitness studio and had no teachers hired at that point.  So merrily I taught two classes of high intensity aerobics, four days a week.  I just iced my ankle and night, and wrapped it during the day.


Today, over thirty years later I still pay a price for being so silly.  My ankle swells fairly regularly, and it twists easily into a painful scenario.

PLEASE take your time.  YOU ONLY HAVE ONE PLACE TO LIVE, AND THAT IS YOUR BODY!  Treat it like your most precious item.  If you don’t take time for your healing, all your responsibilities and dreams will fall by the wayside with some perilious results.  YOU ARE WORTH TAKING TIME TO HEAL!

Create a beautiful day and God bless!




Here’s some pretty up front stress management techniques:

 Stop wallowing in the slop and feeling sorry for yourself and get up and do something!  It’s been a rough day.  I presume it’s been a rough day for lots of people.  I would give a million dollars, if I had it, or all that I had, to be where I was last Janurary 4th and not step off the path and fall.  My life is changed forever.

 But combine that mistep with some inept doctors and here it is – a done deal.

I have accepted that.  I am adapting to all that I will never be able to do again, and now that I am six months after the surgery – I have to reappraise my goals and my own destiny.


 We all have choices to make.  That first piece of advice was for me too.  Waa waa I have it so rough.  Well, I do, but I also have it so good.  I have a warm bed to sleep in, and there are people that love me.  I am able to pet my dog, drive my car, and sit in the warm sunlight.  My husband accepts my disabilities and that is huge! 


 So with this little pep talk I will finish the thoughts of this post and get up and do something. No one can change your life except YOU.  You can be the master of your destiny, at least in response to life.  Choose well as you never know when things will change – and that you can be sure of – change.




I find arguments heat up when alcohol is involved, so make a point of NOT fighting when drinking.  That is VERY URGENT.  Alcohol causes violence that in turn cause unforgiveable acts.


 It wasn’t the industralization of man that is the ruination of man.  It is the rampid and increasingly acceptable level of alcohol that is consumed by man.Besides, even without alcohol – yelling and screaming and fighting is just the biggest waste of time ever!  We could all die in the next five minutes by some horrific incident.

I am going out smiling!  Don’t waste your time, and don’t diminish someone else by screaming useless things,  you probably don’t mean, in their faces.



TAKE A TIME OUT.  Most things people fight over are VERY unimportant- many people can’t even remember why they fought in the first place.  Take a time out or walk away.  Don’t open your mouth if it’s not worthy of you! 


How to apply “stress management” to a difficult situation

I remember tossing and turning last night.  I could not get comfortable because the pain in my hips and back was too intense.

When I awoke I found it difficult to move.  It was more difficult to get behind myself and push myself to the edge of the bed.  My feet and ankles are so out of my control since the accident and surgery.  They are numb, they hurt, and they won’t listen to what my brain tells them to do! Well, they do partially – and I thank God for that.

I fight using the walker.  It has been five and a half months since the surgery.  I use it anyway as I need the balance for my drop foot, and both my hips are so “bone on bone”, the pain is far to intense to trust my legs to carry me.

With physical therapy I am strengthening my arms and I can see and feel the difference.

They now have become my strongest of body parts, and not my legs.  I thank God we have choices and can use our wits to use our bodies as best we can.

I AM NOT COMPLAINING, though it may sound like it.  I am grateful!  I found myself smiling when I brought the dog a treat.  I do still have so many blessings.  I believe one of the most wonderful gifts is the ability to change my habits.  We all have that gift.

I could wallow in pain and despair, but WHY?  That certainly isn’t fun, and I intend to use the rest of my life to hunt for, and put into action, the reasons I am still supposed to be living and breathing!  I still love being ALIVE.

Call me crazy, but aren’t we all?  Already, because of the ‘habits” I’ve cultivated, the prayers I say daily (THY will be do….) I naturally FEEL BETTER THAN I DID twenty minutes ago.

I HAVE OPPORTUNITY.  I HAVE INTELLECT (well, a smattering of it).  I HAVE LOVE, and am also ready to RECEIVE ANY LOVE bestowed upon me. I HAVE THE CHOICE TO MAKE MY LIFE ONE OF HAPPINESS AND PROSPERITY! I could go on and on and on, but I want to finish and post this right away, in case you have a minute to “read me” this morning.

My husband asks, “How is it that you love and care about people you have never met, and probably will never meet?

I answered him.  “All I know is that I believe we were born to worship God, as each of us know Him and allow Him to direct us.  I believe that we are all born earthlings, and all share the same capacity for LOVE.  We all feel hunger and sorrow, and pain.  We all

SHOULD, and CAN, feel happiness and strive for what is just in this world…for what is good and kind.  If that is sappy, then call me a sap.

When someone hurts, I share the pain.  When someone hungers, half way across the world, I pray and have hope for the hunger and suffering end.  I really do care.”

With that being said, I send LOVE and part of my unending positive energy and healing to whomever hasn’t yet discovered that we have a power source within that can regenerate all the days of our lives.

PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT.  Use your gifts – whatever they may be – and if you don’t know yours, start a search to explore yourself and begin to share with others.  The sharing alone will begin to heal you.  Even the tinest kindness to someone will bring a healing to you.

I find my pain more tolerable this morning now that I’ve done my best to connect with you and share some of the innate joy (and cultivated positive attitude) I have.

CREATE a day of beauty and love, no matter what the circumstance.  Remember, YOU ALWAYS have a choice of how to respond to ANY SCENARIO.  I am confident, if you take a few mindful breaths, stretch for a few moments, and smile simply because you know someone here REALLY CARES!  I am SURE there are others that do too!!

Blessings and love to you all.

Monitor your thoughts carefully

Thoughts become action. Make your thoughts positive – even if it takes a bit of thought! It will also have to become a habit. In the meantime CREATE a beautiful weekend.

Whoever is happy will make others happy too.
Mark Twain

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
Japanese proverb

Be silly. Be honest. Be kind.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Choose happiness. I really care!


For you – Watch a butterfly flutter by!  The smallest things can make us smile.  ALLOW yourself to enjoy the day..

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Quick tips to Manage Intense Pain and Stress (A bit longer post, but worth it!)

This post will be brief, but I think it VERY important in the arena of stress management.

You may not know “my story”, but for now (see my positive attitude), I am fairly disabled.

When I awoke I wasn’t certain which part of my body hurt the worst, or if I would even be able to walk today, with the help of the walker.

It doesn’t matter if I tell you ALL that is wrong with me, but what matters is the managing of stress and pain.  I am an expert at that!  Twenty plus years as a trainer gave me the best gifts.  I use what I taught, and it has changed my life – even to this very day.

My first power source, and I must tell you, will always be my faith.   I keep my faith strong no matter what happens, and I will never blame God for tragedy.  We are humans with free with free will, time and circumstance and the results of our “choices” lay directly in our hands.

Genetics may play a part, but again, it’s not what we have in our hands, but what we do with it.

The first thing to do when you feel can’t do anything is to pray.  I don’t care if you pray to the wind.  Find something bigger than yourself and plea for healing, courage, and determination.  The wind will carry your pleas to a higher source, which loves us all!  I prayed to God.

The second thing to do is DIVERT YOUR OWN ATTENTION AWAY FROM THE PAIN AND DISABILITY.  I admit I have access to pain medication – but I am in charge of it – not the meds in charge of me.  It takes an hour to relieve some pain, and so I ate a bowl of cereal so I wouldn’t get sick.

Three weeks ago I quit taking ANY oxycotin!  I did it on my own.  I knew it would take “balls”, so I borrowed my husbands! (heehee).  I am now in the process of weaning off the minimal amount of percecot I still take.  I know for a while I must continue some, as one of my problems is both hips are so “bone on bone” I am grating new hip sockets.  Without a bit of meds I really would be unable to walk until I get new hips…. but first I have to heal from the other disability I’ve been handed by poor medical care.

Anyway, to make this a post, and not a book, I will try to be brief.

1.  Pray.  At least be still at think of healing for a few moments.  Do stretch before you leave the bed, even for a moment.

2.  Divert your attention away from the pain and get up and do something!

Anything!  I don’t work out of the home, so after a quick bowl of cereal and a piece of fruit, I went to the laundry room and began the laundry!

Pretty soon I was folding clothes and feeling better.  I called the dog (petting a dog is VERY good for stress management) and then I got her a bowl of food and opened the back door so she could go outside when she needed to do so.




I breathed mindfully; all the while I was “working”.  My next task was to start writing.  I write with purpose.  I want to share those gifts I been given with others, and particularly since I know they work.

Those are pretty easy steps to feel better.  Modify to your own situation.

Right now I feel one hundred times better than I did upon waking.  At some point I will have to use ice and heat, and rest.  Later today I will go to physical therapy to work as hard as they let me.


I want you to take a moment or two, figure out what is best for you, and do it.  There is a third suggestion.  BE CONSISTENT.  We are creatures of habit, and if you consistently do the “little” things that are right for you, you will learn to manage your own stress and it won’t cost you a nickel!

CREATE a beautiful day, and one in which you are captain of your ship.

I really care!        (As an added note, these tips are invaluable for use in managing ANY type stress.  Use them.)