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Stress magement in action

Take a deep breath or two as you read this.  It will help you to relax (it’s the way the body works!).

Now since this is Friday, you are probably visualizing a relaxing weekend.  I hope so!  But if you are one of these folks who have to work (like my husband) remember are fortunate to be working, and a Saturday means extra money.  That should make the day of rest on Sunday even sweeter.

No matter what you have to do – lawn manicuring, taking the children to swimming lessons, working outside the home, or just being a couch potato, remember the relaxation of it all is strictly up to you….You can CHOOSE to be pissed.  Choose to say, “I can’t do it”, or you can remember YOUR RESPONSE TO LIFE is 100% in your capable and intelligent hands.

No matter what happens you ALWAYS choose your response.  And since times are a bit unnerving, remember theses MOMENTS in time are all we have…literally, moments.

So make sure you choose wisely your response to life.  Include a bit of patience, breathing, and a vision of the things you are happy about in your life.  REALLY, think and choose wisely.  We could all be dust in the wind the next moment, so put your stress management techniques into effect NOW.

CREATE your life moment by moment.  If you think this is silly – I guarantee it is not. It will go a long way to brighten your day and your weekend.  I care.  I want others to feel as I do – no matter what happens!

I am walking better in my walker, and I am HAPPY!  I choose to be.

 

A Quick Kiss

Here is a stress management technique that rarely fails – grab a quick kiss.  Maybe a baby, maybe a child.  Could be your husband or your partner.  Don’t wait for the moments of a loving encounter, grab that kiss just because you can.A quick kiss

I couldn’t resist.  Now that’s how to make use of a red light!

Blow a kiss to a child in the car next to you – and smile.  Kiss an old grandpa or grandma as it may have been a while since a kiss was bestowed upon them.

You don’t have to swap gum or saliva.  You don’t even have to kiss on the lips.  But the sweetness of a kiss, and the healing power it carries may surprise you!

Kiss a puppy.  Try it – you’ll like it!  The sweet surprise of a kiss can be an amazing gift, for both the giver and the receiver.  How simple a stress management technique is this?

Now practice!

Injury As a Catalyst

The definition for injury is certainly NOT any of the things I am going to mention, but is most certainly a catalyst for them to be born.

When an injury occurs certain things happen.  Pain, harm, damage, or a wound may be present.  Whether the injury is to our physical being, or our mental wellbeing, an injury can change our lives.

Sometimes the changes will be permanent.

So what then am I speaking of when I call an injury a catalyst?

Simply this.  An injury CAN BE A POSITIVE catalyst for you, as I am INSISTING it is for me!  I am TRAINING myself to use this time for my good; and it does take practice.

 Let me share what I mean.  Since I had a fall three weeks ago and practically everything I normally do has changed.  I broke a bone in my back – L1 is a compressed fracture with part of the bone partially detached and pressing into my spine. 

I went to the doctor, had an x-ray, had an MRI, went to a special neurosurgeon, and now I have to wait for a consultation with a doctor who may do a procedure…these appointments have been vastly spread across the time period and so it’s been necessary for me to continue on.  My husband leaves for work when it’s dark and comes home after dark.  He works long and hard hours…. his backaches just from his difficult job. 

The first thing he does when he comes in is ask how I am!  He also calls at lunchtime.  What a man!

Writing has been a rock for me, though I admit, I cannot sit at my computer without a back support and a certain amount of pain.  Even sitting in bed or on a couch takes “work” to set up so I am not injuring myself more – or wrenching in pain.

 But let me say this – about that.  I am grateful every moment for having a bed, and a couch and a computer.  I never forget these are all blessings!

Personally I believe in prayer, meditation, and miracles. Almost everything I read is positive in content, and for my growth as a human being.  There is plenty of violence and discontent pressed in our faces – I choose NOT continue it in my personal time.

Example:  When I get out of bed these days, I turn on my side and drop to my knees on the floor with a straight back.  Since I am down there I think it must be a good time for a humble prayer.  A catalyst for prayer.

 

Example:  When I walk now I find myself using my oxygen to help with the pain and keep me relaxed.  I consider my posture and hold a position that is a positive one for now.  A catalyst for using our natural gift of oxygen and taking time to do what is best for my body.

 

Example:  When I get on the computer I spend time researching injury, methodology of healing, background checks on medical procedures, etc.  I read of others injuries and join a new family of those in the healing mode.  A catalyst for learning.

 

Yes, I have taught and practiced stress management for years, but this is all new to me, and a time to CHANGE some things in my life.  I doubt in the future that I will be able to run and jump on the bed and awake my husband with a kiss when he’s slept in on Saturday. BUT YOU NEVER KNOW!    (The kiss is always good!)

 

PRACTICE using your injury as a catalyst.  It helps, and if nothing else for you, is a diversion from pain to hope.  One off the wall thought – but true – don’t think that alcohol will relax you and help the pain!  It just causes more problems. 

CREATE your life with what you have in your life NOW.  Make it a good one!  Thanks an order!  (smile)   I just care!

 

This injury has been a catalyst for me to find ACCEPTANCE again.  Some things we cannot change – but we can ALWAYS CHOICE OUR RESPONSE.

 

I hope whatever it is you are dealing with at this very moment; use it for YOUR benefit.  There is ALWAYS a way.  It may take practice.  There may be moments you become discouraged, but never give up hope, and don’t let the regret of what has happened overpower the innate (and I believe we all have it) POWER we have been given as humans – to change, accept, and heal.

 

God bless you all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Please pray with me

We have a friend in cyberspace who has asked for prayers to heal a broken heart. Please pray with me. God will know whom we are praying for, and I know that if we pray together our prayers will help the healing. Thank you so much. Blessings and healing to all those going through this pain. I know as my heart has been mended more than once.

Psalm 6:2 Be merciful to me, LORD, for I am faint; O LORD, heal me, for my bones are in agony.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

A Surprising Stress Management Technique

“Do unto Others”. How did I arrive at this conclusion?

Let me share with you what happened yesterday. I decided to buy a new purse. I haven’t bought a new one for years as I do most of my shopping at second hand thrift stores and yard sales.

You really get a better mix of “stuff” than if you go into, say Kohl’s. Off the point.

I came home and realized the purse was not made well and wasn’t quite right. It was made in China. Duh!

Early in the evening, before dusk, I decided to take the dog out for a ride and return the bag. Just as I parked the car and had leashed up the dog to let her out, I saw three teenage boys headed my direction.

About two parking spaces from the passenger side of my car, one of the boys bikes locked up and he went flying forward and on the asphalt. The bike came crashing down on him. I knew he had to have been hurt.

I jammed out of the car with the dog (much to hot to leave her in) – and flew over to him. He was bleeding from the lip and many places on his head; pretty heavy bleeding.

I handed one of the boys my Rottie and said, “She will mind you” and ran to the car to get paper towels…I always carry them, for no particular reason.

I started to rip off a few and the roll flipped out of my hand and under the car. I had a hand full though.
When I got back to the boy he was sitting up with blooding gushing from his head. I told him we had to stop the bleeding, and proceeded to press tightly, with open hand, across the many places that were bleeding.

I kept the pressure on as the other boy on the bike called 911. Within minutes the fire truck and ambulance arrived.

In the meantime I asked one of the boys to get more paper towels and I handed Chase (I had introduced myself to him to start a conversation and keep him awake.)

I gave Chase those towels and told him to press on his bleeding lip. He said he was going to pass out and I saw he turned gray. I was going to gently lay him down, but I wanted to keep pressure on his head and I held him tighter and told him to stay awake for me.

A couple of minutes and his color seemed to return some. In the meantime several cars stopped to see if they could help, but there wasn’t anything to do. One
young man said he would pray for him, and I thanked him.

Chase kept saying thank you, thank you so much. I told him it was okay. At one point he said it again and I felt like he was my own child. I instinctively lightly kissed the top of his head and said “It will be okay, Chase.” Didn’t think about it. Just did it.

The paramedics took over and began to wrap his head with long rolls of gauze. I moved back and thanked the boy for holding my dog. He had actually walked her a bit. I hadn’t remembered I had left both drivers side doors open and my wallet sitting right on the seat.

It was still as I left it and I was proud with horrible negative things you hear about our youth, the boys were honest, very nice, and so helpful, actually made me proud.

Chase asked for my number and said he wanted to call me to thank me, so I gave it to his friend…I just wanted to see how he was doing.

The ambulance loaded him up and off they went.

Later in the evening Chase’s mom called from the hospital and told me she was so thrilled when she got there and he was awake. She thanked me many times, and I just told her, “we are supposed to love one another, I would hope someone would do that for my
sons or daughter. She said he was going to be okay, probably a pretty good headache, a puffed up lip and abrasions on his had, and some “staples” in his head.

What a relief.  I was so glad he hadn’t more complications or problems.

Now what does this have to do with stress management? Just this: I felt I needed to return the purse even if it meant a second trip on the same day.  I wasn’t irritated about it.  I thought my husband would have said, “Why didn’t you wait until the next day?”  I know why now.

I have carried paper towels all these years for a reason; now I know why.  I didn’t even think about the “blood” until I got into the store and the salesperson said I should use something to get the blood off.  I always carry an alcohol mix to wipe my hands with, and when I got home I just poured bleach on my hand and washed good.  I still wasn’t worried about the blood.

The stress management part. I am grateful Chase is okay. It relieves the worry about him. I have felt good all day because he is okay,  I was able to spontaneously do something for someone else – it took any worry of my own problems or challenges, and diminished their importance.

Doing unto others – it works. Helping Chase, still gives me a feeling of warmth inside, and a clearer prospective of the world, and somehow makes me feel good to be a human that cares – that responds – and that loves.

My stressors faded into the background, and what is important came to fruition…loving one another. It is the natural thing to do!

Now go do some spontaneous thing for someone. Pick a flower or visit an elderly person. It feels wonderful and really does relieve the stress of those things that seemed so urgent a few moments ago.

If you haven’t been here before…..

There are 176 pertinent posts! Included are some breathing exercises, exercises for those at computers, stretches, and important thoughts on stress management and relaxation. Pick some and READ and apply them – or read and apply them all. It
has been a very busy six months and though I haven’t written, I do apply the techniques to myself. That is why I am the Human Happy Face. Please, make yourself at home and I will be writing again soon. TRAIN yourself to be able to deal with all those stressors, and if you have any questions feel free to comment and I will respond, and help if I can. The fee? Love one another. That means love you too!

For all of you who aren’t traveling, who are alone, or who may not be having a good weekend!

These flowers are for you!  Know in your heart – someone you don’t know – REALLY CARES!

California Poppy

Take a breath and enjoy these moments of your life!  When you are lonely or bored it is the perfect time to find a place to lay down, put on some gentle music (without words),  and begin to practice your breathing.

Inhale through the nose slowly and think:  “This is the breath of life.  It will make me feel better.”

As you exhale through the mouth think: “Everything changes and I exhale my negative thoughts to make room for better ones.”

Repeat this slow and mindful breathing and you will begin to relax.  It is the way this wonderful oxygen machine works.  Let

the negative feelings leave you with each exhalation.  With each inhalation breathe in hope and positive thoughts.

Change your mind and you change your life!  Love and blessings to you.