Walking on Eggshells-You’ve Probably heard this before:
“The idiom walking on eggshells generally describes a situation in which people must tread lightly around a sensitive topic, or make every effort not to offend a volatile or hypersensitive person. Literally walking on the empty shells of eggs would require exceptional caution and self-control, similar to the feeling of avoiding conflict with an easily disturbed friend, relative or employer. Family members of active alcoholics or ragea-aholics often use this phrase to describe their careful avoidance of conflict with their loved one. The origin of the idiom is a matter of dispute, but the general consensus is that walking on eggshells came from the same place as other cautionary actions, such as walking on thin ice or broken glass. Some sources suggest that it came from an earlier idiom, “walking on eggs.” While walking on eggshells presents enough difficulty for most people, walking on the whole egg without damage would be nearly impossible. Certain politicians who took extraordinarily cautious positions on an issue were said to have the dubious ability to walk on eggs without breaking them.” (Excerpts from Wise Geek)
So there is the definition. The way I have always heard it used is when someone is in an abusive relationship and they dodge a bullet, or an angry person, by‘walking on eggshells”. Treading lightly, so to speak, for fear of a reprisal, whether verbal or physical. I know many moms who back down from an angry partner for the “sake” of the children, or fear of harm from their own husband or partner.
If you have found yourself cowering, or bending over backwards to take care not to anger a sleeping giant, here is my advice. GET HELP! Get it now before it is too late. If you cannot get help – at least get the hell out of the way! I know it sounds easier than it is, but if there is that fear within you of “danger”, there should also be the word SURVIVAL come to mind.
This is not a joke, sadly. Our culture is geared at such a fast pace right now, and the stress levels of those who are in the position of earning money – to survive – is right at the breaking point.
No matter what the media reports, things are not improving for the peasants. Anyone who is less than he / or she needs, feels the pinch. Last month our house payment went up eighty dollars, our utility bill was up fifty; food and other goods have steadily been rising over the past three or four years. All the “jobs” that are reported were the holiday part-time jobs that have no benefits, and only lasted until after the “shopping season” ended.
Pressure all around, with “no vents” like a pressure cooker. In the final act of that scene, everything blows. SO STAY ON YOUR TOES LADIES AND GENTLEMEN.
Remember you are the only person who can SAVE YOU! I pray and have great faith in God, so in that sense, my life is easier than some. When I pray, I believe the burden is lifted and handed to God, and to show my faith, I find some relaxation in the scenarios.
For those of you who believe – do pray. Then think about your situation and if there need be changes for your safety, or the safety of your children – begin to organize a withdrawal from danger for your family.
If you do not pray, you still must evaluate the situation you are in currently, and if there are red flags for danger, begin to make an exit plan. If you BELIEVE with all your heart that counseling or communication can literally help, by all means, initiate it. You always have the option in the future, if times worsen, to make changes. Just be sure NOT to place you or your children in a volatile situation.
For those who are unemployed (either short term, or long term), those who have addictions to alcohol or drugs, those who have anger management issues, the “times” are very trying.
It is fine to take these things into consideration if you opt to try to work things out. HOWEVER, be aware if the communication stops, if there is no attempt to correct change the “danger zone” – it is time to make a change!
God bless you and those you are trying to protect from an impossible situation. YOU have to evaluate and take steps forward soon. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE! DO NOT BE IN DENIAL OR YOU MAY WIND UP A STATISTIC!