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If you cannot do what you used to do – do what you can.

A good cry washes the eyes and lets loose of sorrow withheld, to begin anew.

If you want to see trust – look in the eyes of your dog.

You cannot heal if you refuse to think you will.

Never listen to words from a man with a heart of stone.

Remember God, and He will remember you.

Stop long enough to say hello to the person standing next to you in line.  You may see an unexpected smile.

A sincere “thank you” is a gift worth more than gold to the receiver.

Did you see the full moon?  Why not?  How many do you have left in your lifetime?

A good memory needs reviewing on occasion..  A bad one should be dismissed – if the lesson was learned.

Begin to see the series of things that happen in your life not as burdens, but as challenges.

For every kind word you speak to an elderly person, your heart enlarges, and your place in eternity is more certain.

Love children, even if they are dirty and have a runny nose, and are not yours.  They are newcomers to this planet and they learn what they see and hear.  They belong to all of us.

Remember we are all human beings, all flawed, and all overburdened in one way or another. Join together as if someone is invading our homes, as if war is imminent, clasp spirits, and then pray for peace, hand to hand and heart to heart.  We are human.  We are earthlings, here to be a family, to protect the planet, and to forgive, and love one another.

Now stretch your arms up, take a breath, and smile.  CREATE a day worth living!

Always find a way to laugh and be happy.  That’s my plan, and I’m sticking to it!

 

 

 

 

What do you think?

Every thought is a seed planted in your mind.  In the mind of us all our thoughts can be cultivated.

If you think, “I know this will be a good day because I will find at least two wonderful things about it” – it will happen!  Likewise, the other direction too; but why even suggest the negative thoughts, as they are in mass all around us.

Nothing is more powerful than YOU, because YOU are the ONLY ONE who can THINK in your mind!

I must reiterate, though, my faith in God – commonly thought of as the “unseen God”.

I see God all around me in the color of the flowers, the breath of the breeze, the laugh of a child, the singing of the little bird that sits outside my window, and in my capacity to THINK, CHOOSE, and LOVE.

I do not chide those who are not familiar with faith, because we are all children “in process” on this planet.  We all learn at our own pace, and we are given the power to make our own choices.  I am no judge of any man.

As we drift back to cultivating thoughts, I believe I will plan my day.  I have no control over most things, but my attitude is one thing I can command.  Today is bursting with demanding paperwork I must work to complete.  I am on a time schedule and so many of the terms in what I am doing are rather unfamiliar to me.

So here is a seed I will plant.  I am going to tackle my work as best I can.  If I get stuck, I may take a break and get a drink of water, or simply stand up and stretch.  I will stop and use my oxygen to think optimally and stretch my neck and fingers and then get back to the task at hand – refreshed.

I always use my oxygen as a secret weapon – and it is.  When stress enters, so does shallow breathing.  You begin to cut off your oxygen supply to your brain, which needs fifty percent more to function optimally!  So breathe!

I plant the seed knowing I will have to stop to take care of other demands that must be met, and I will do it happily, and consider those times refreshing moments to move.

I will end the day stretching as I stand, pat myself on the back for doing what I can, and plan on a quiet evening with my husband, asking how his day was…it will be a great day.

Those are my seeds.  What will you plant for just this day?

Here is a secret.  I already said a prayer and stretched a bit this morning, and I decided to have coffee and write this post.  I love to write, and because I took this time I will start my other “challenges” with a good attitude, having already done something that I love, and something that heads me in the right direction for a WONDERFUL DAY.

CREATE your life-moment by moment.  Get rid of bad seeds and plant only the good ones.  You will be happy you did.  You can handle anything if you just believe you can!

Invisible injuries – Mental and Physical

Invisible injuries

We all have them.  Whether they be mental or physical, they all come with the territory of being human.

The difficult part is NO ONE on planet earth can fully understand what YOU personally may be tackling as far as these unseen or unknown challenges.  No one will ever know one hundred percent.

This is why in order to succeed in life, we must attend to our own “healing” of mind-body-and spirit, and we must forgive those who don’t GET where we are coming from.

It may be the depths of hell to us, but not even within the view of others understanding.

The reason I lay all of this on US is because I am going through those invisible injuries.

I have had a pile of them all my life (off and on) – WE ALL DO.  They are all different and all in different degrees of the need to heal.

Truth be told, NO ONE but YOU can do the healing.  I will add in (because these are MY thoughts, and this is my place to offer up my thoughts), that if you have a belief system beyond yourself, life will be leaps and bounds easier to handle and the mountains less tenuous to climb.

I am fortunate because I have faith that cannot be shaken no matter how difficult my life becomes….and truth be told again, life does not get easier….it gets harder.

BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN you cannot have laughter, and joy, and love, and reap all the rewards we humans still have available.

The key is how you CHOOSE to respond to your own problems, and the tenderness with which you CHOOSE to have understanding and forgiveness of others.  Personally, I can NEVER hold a grudge.  Being unforgiving and judgemental festers inside you like an infected sore.  When you forgive (even if you don’t mean it at first), you begin to heal from within!  REALLY.  You release ugly and negative thoughts, and are able to use your own healing powers for yourself!

Another great way to handle stress of invisible problems is to breathe.  Get plenty of oxygen and your body will “think” better and “feel” better.  It is THE WAY of your body. Think about it.  Slow or stop breathing and what happens?  Less oxygen, less optimal thinking and healing, and ultimately death!  So is it important?  What do you think?

Lastly, I guarantee I have at least thirty to forty things going on within me physically and mentally that no one can ever understanding.  But what I realize is it is UP TO ME to handle it all.  I tried being miserable.  It sucked.  So I gave it up!

You can rise above WHATEVER it is that is aching to pull you down.  Try not to exclusively dwell on the problems.  Divert your own attention by accomplishing tasks that lay before you.  When you feel like a pity party, TAKE A BREATH – think of it like ammo and a secret weapon.  It is.  If you think this is all pie in the sky and just words –

YOU WOULD BE WRONG!

I would not waste my precious moments (and each moment is precious to me), expounding on words with no meaning.  Thoughts with no depth.

So please think about it.  Read this again, and remember:

REPITITION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL LEARNING. SO PRACTICE THESE TECHNIQUES.  THEY ARE FREE AND THEY WORK!

God bless you!

This is how to have a great weekend

DON’T DRINK TOO MUCH!  If you think this is a joke – Not!What is the old saying, “Nothing like a reformed prostitute”?

Preach, preach, preach.  Wasn’t in that profession (I might be rich:), but I can relate to drinking too much and throwing away a period of time in my life that has tortured me for thirty years after.  I thought I was in control.  I thought I was just being social.  I thought I needed a drink or two to relax and be comfortable and with the crowd.  I thought a drink would take the edge off of the stress of the day.  I thought since it was legal and “pushed” there could be nothing wrong with a glass of wine at night, or a drink.  I thought, I thought, I thought.

Then I drank, I drank, I drank.  I never went to AA.  I was never a smelly drunk laying on the street with an empty bottle in my hand.

I was a “functional” drinker.  I could partake and still take care of all my responsibilities and my children and husband.  HOWEVER…..there is no such animal.  You can fool yourself, but you will not fool your children, or your family and friends.

Alcohol is a seductive and nasty drug.  It will take you down over and over again.  ”Methinketh thou protests too much” Shakespeare wrote…..you know you can handle it.  This doesn’t apply to you.

Okay – I am being brutally honest about myself because I CARE.  Brutally honest because I found, thirty years later, there were still things I did not remember because of blackouts.  I am lucky to be alive.  I am blessed.  I do not want you to go through the same hell for a drink!

I wrote this about fifteen years ago, and would like to share it with you.  REAL STRESS MANAGEMENT does not include a drink “because you need it to relax”.  That is a lie and in the long run it will take charge and it CAN ruin your life.  Think about it.  Great goals are never easy.  But from experience I can tell you – absolutely worth the effort!  God bless.

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My Friend

You’ve been my friend for over thirty years.  Still, we teeter between love and hate.

You were with me for the good times.  You were with me when I was down or in pain.

You were my friend when I was lonely and felt I had no other friend.

You gave me courage when I felt insecure, you made me forget.

You’ve been with me to heaven’s gate and then to the gates of hell.

It seems you’ve always been near, within my reach.

 

At times I hated you, but just when I thought you were gone for good, little by little,

You subtly sneaked your way back into my life.

You’ve always had your way with me.

You, my treacherous friend sometimes made me turn into someone else, a monster.

You made me seething with hatred and anger.

You made me think I wanted to kill myself.

You stole my will.

You made me see from a perspective that was not my own.

 

You sucked the life from me and yet I found myself calling on you again and again!

You invaded every area of my life, took me up and then dropped me down again.

You usurped my energy and spirituality.

You took my creativity, my intellect, and my motivation to be me.

 

When we parted you still affected my days and nights.  I thought I needed you.

You almost killed me more than once with your reckless and distorted control.

You lure me into that altered state of consciousness, to be drunk.

To sleep the perpetual sleep, never perceiving reality.

Never to see the true shining star from within.

 

You are NO FRIEND OF MINE John Barleycorn.  You are alcohol, the devil in disguise. You and your associates will not steal my life again. I vow you will not win.

 

You are socially acceptable.  You are legal.  You are NO FRIEND OF MINE!

 

 

Familiar with this word?

INCREMENTS: increase, addition, supplement, gain, augmentation.

These are but a few definitions of the word “increments”.  I am not a dictionary, but I love words, and sometimes I think the right words can be useful as well as beautiful.

I need to remember this word.  When a person is injured, or has a specific procedure to correct something, or even an emergency operation, this word is very important.

It takes only a second for one of these things to occur or begin, but it takes a vast amount of time for ANY human body to heal.  For even those who are in good health, the healing must come in increments!

I often forget that.  My mental energy level is one hundred percent, yet my healing, as any other human, takes a certain amount of time to happen.  Even with a great attitude, or a fit body, HEALING IS A PROCESS IN THE HUMAN BODY.

We are a society of instant gratification.  The human body is a living organization with perimeters that include a certain amount of time to regenerate and heal.

Of course this varies with each person; nonetheless, TIME is a major factor in healing.

My husband reminded me of that this morning.  He heard me let out a little moan (unbeknowns to me at the time) and he said, “Overdoing are we?”

I had to admit it. So now I am resting with pillows under my legs, and laptop on my tummy.  Please take time to heal properly.

A perfect example of getting NEGATIVE results from rushing is when I sprained my ankle years ago.  I had just opened a fitness studio and had no teachers hired at that point.  So merrily I taught two classes of high intensity aerobics, four days a week.  I just iced my ankle and night, and wrapped it during the day.

DUH!

Today, over thirty years later I still pay a price for being so silly.  My ankle swells fairly regularly, and it twists easily into a painful scenario.

PLEASE take your time.  YOU ONLY HAVE ONE PLACE TO LIVE, AND THAT IS YOUR BODY!  Treat it like your most precious item.  If you don’t take time for your healing, all your responsibilities and dreams will fall by the wayside with some perilious results.  YOU ARE WORTH TAKING TIME TO HEAL!

Create a beautiful day and God bless!

 

 

WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU A PILE OF DIRT VIA A HARDBALL IN THE FACE….

Just think how important you are that you are offered challenges of a lifetime!Does that sound strange?  Maybe so, but I have had my face covered in dirt, and delivered like a hardball slamming into my face with might and a sting.Guess what?  I am still here.For eight months I have been dealing with recovering from a burst compression fracture and major surgery-one that only happened because of the neglect of two physicians, and two physicians and two neurosurgeons.

On top of it, just before this travesty I was supposed to have two individual total hip replacements ( they will only operate on one at a time), as my hips are bone to bone.  Because of the fusion of my back I have been unable to have that done, and I am barely walking around at the moment. I actually called my doctor to get a wheelchair (and wrote her a note) three days ago.  Told her I needed it asap.  Nothing!Just as a perfect finish (I hope) to these challenges, I found two days ago I needed to have a tooth, one of my “chewers” removed.  Had a serious swelling and it was necessary.  Oh drat, I just finished paying fiftenn hundred dollars to have a root canal and a cap on that very tooth!  To have it removed was only a thousand cash, and in return I am minus a tooth and have a very swollen and painful face.Photo 1

This is me with a towel and an ice pack.  You wouldn’t want to see the swelling.

Right now I am laying down to rest.  Writing is a good part of my sanity.  What are the (must be) multiple stress management tricks to keep my wits about me.  There could be a sub-list under the major stress management technique, but basically to manage ANY traumas or scenarios, you must FIRST manage your response!  Life really is in charge of us, but one thing we have control of one hundred percent is our ATTITUDE, and therein, our RESPONSE to life.  WE HAVE A CHOICE.  We always have the choice to make the best of things, or throw in the towel.I am not much at throwing towels – no giving up!  Granted, I am fortunate to believe in God and His being there for me, during the good and the bad times.  I am fortunate enough to NOT blame God, but to realize life is what it is.  We may never know the “why” of things, but we must always realize, we still have one hundred percent control of how to accept and respond to any challenge. I also know I have an edge as I have been teaching stress management for years and really believe in the powers we have been given.  I TRIED BEING MISERABLE!

IT SUCKED, SO I GAVE IT UP!  Literally.

It may take you time to develop the habit of controlling your attitude in response to life, but I guarantee you that if you can change this one habit from a negative attitude, to a positive attitude, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE IN WAYS YOU NEVER DREAMED –  IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS.Think about it seriously.  It’s not always a piece of cake, but you always have the choice to take that scenario and turn it into something you can at least, handle! CREATE a beautiful life. YOU ARE WORTH IT. I off to do my best at whatever comes next. 

 

 

 

 

 

FAST TIPS

Here’s some pretty up front stress management techniques:

 Stop wallowing in the slop and feeling sorry for yourself and get up and do something!  It’s been a rough day.  I presume it’s been a rough day for lots of people.  I would give a million dollars, if I had it, or all that I had, to be where I was last Janurary 4th and not step off the path and fall.  My life is changed forever.

 But combine that mistep with some inept doctors and here it is – a done deal.

I have accepted that.  I am adapting to all that I will never be able to do again, and now that I am six months after the surgery – I have to reappraise my goals and my own destiny.

 

 We all have choices to make.  That first piece of advice was for me too.  Waa waa I have it so rough.  Well, I do, but I also have it so good.  I have a warm bed to sleep in, and there are people that love me.  I am able to pet my dog, drive my car, and sit in the warm sunlight.  My husband accepts my disabilities and that is huge! 

 

 So with this little pep talk I will finish the thoughts of this post and get up and do something. No one can change your life except YOU.  You can be the master of your destiny, at least in response to life.  Choose well as you never know when things will change – and that you can be sure of – change.

 

 

 Second up front piece of advice.  STOP YELLING AND SCREAMING AND ARGUING.  IT IS ANNOYING, IT IS USELESS, AND IT RESOLVES NOTHING.

I find arguments heat up when alcohol is involved, so make a point of NOT fighting when drinking.  That is VERY URGENT.  Alcohol causes violence that in turn cause unforgiveable acts.

 

 It wasn’t the industralization of man that is the ruination of man.  It is the rampid and increasingly acceptable level of alcohol that is consumed by man.Besides, even without alcohol – yelling and screaming and fighting is just the biggest waste of time ever!  We could all die in the next five minutes by some horrific incident.

I am going out smiling!  Don’t waste your time, and don’t diminish someone else by screaming useless things,  you probably don’t mean, in their faces.

 

 

TAKE A TIME OUT.  Most things people fight over are VERY unimportant- many people can’t even remember why they fought in the first place.  Take a time out or walk away.  Don’t open your mouth if it’s not worthy of you!